By Cunning Minx, on June 8th, 2013
 How do you deal with jealousy? How do you address jealousy?
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1:00 Announcements
4:30 Topic: how do you deal with jealousy?
Listeners brought up this question on Twitter, and we haven’t talked about jealousy in a while. So we threw it out to YOU, the listeners, on Facebook, Twitter and Google+, and your advice was GREAT:
- If the solution to kids being jealous isn’t “only have one kid,” we should expect the same of adults as well
- Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up has a great chapter on jealousy
- Admit the feelings to yourself
- Narrow down what you are feeling
- Acknowledge your feelings; reflect; avoid shaming; seek comfort
- Say it aloud; talk to someone about it
- Understand that jealousy often involves the fear of loss and that adding a new partner doesn’t mean you get less
- Understand that you can choose how you react to your emotions
You guys covered it very well! Minx’s tips:
- Don’t panic. Being jealous doesn’t make you a bad person.
- Listen to what your body/emotions are trying to tell you with the jealousy.
- Fill in these blanks: “I’m afraid that if my partner/metamour does ___, it means ___.”
- Share your thoughts/feelings with your partner(s) in a safe space.
- Take care of yourself.
- Ask for support.
- Pat yourself on the back!
22:25 Feedback: Episode 357
- Vir sent in this link on “average” and “normal” sex regarding episode 357′s inflammatory use of the word “normal” with regards to sex
- Anonymous caller points out that when people of privilege are asked to look at their privilege, they can feel targeted and defensive
- Morpheous comments on the mentions of couple privilege of late, saying ” It’s not a bad thing to have privilege, people who have just need to realize it limits their perspective and to give a voice to people without that privilege, allowing them to speak up.”
27:00 Thank you
Thanks to David for his generous $69.69 donation this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email?  Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on June 1st, 2013
 How do you handle coming out when your pregnancy forces the poly issue?
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1:00 Announcements
13:20 Topic: Pregnant, poly and being judged
A pregnant listener with two boyfriends asks how to avoid being judged when coming out about the nature of her relationship. Advice:
- When people judge, it’s a commentary on their own experiences, not yours. Surprisingly, it’s rarely about you; it’s about them! Listen and express sympathy and compassion for any unpleasant incidents they reveal to you.
- Use humor whenever possible.
- Be careful legally and explore the ramifications.
23:15 Feedback
- Kei gave feedback on episode 357 regarding dealing with differing levels of sexual drive in relationships.
- Olaf wrote in to comment that any new web series on polyamory would help with exposure.
- It’s the first of May! Outdoor fucking starts today!
29:00 Thank you
Thanks to Keith and Kristin for their generous donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on May 14th, 2013
What are the best apps for poly folks?
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1:00 Announcements
10:50 Topic: There’s an App for That
- Suggested poly apps from listeners: Google Calendar, OK Cupid, Facebook, SnapChat, Words with Friends, Skype, Zello, a long-range walkie-talkie app; What’s App, a way to consolidate chats with friends and lovers with no SMS charges or logging into various platforms
- Apps I found in the iTunes app store: My marriage coach; Sex Tracker; Couple
- What we want to develop: a positive feedback relationship app to give points to your loved ones when they are awesome. Talented developers interested in helping out contact LustyGuy on FetLife.
23:30 Happy Poly Moment
Paul shares a moment of recognizing an opportunity to pamper his Mistress.
25:15 Feedback
Marshe wrote in to explain Culture Warrior is an evangelical term referring to Christians who feel the U.S. mainstream culture is too secular and should be battled against.
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on May 5th, 2013
 How much sex is “normal” in a committed relationship?
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2:00 Announcements
5:00 Topic: How often do normal people have sex?
24:00 Our advice for good sex:
- Talk about what you want and what you need; know the difference.
- Be willing to hear “no” and/or negotiate a counter offer.
- Be open to your partner’s/partners’ wants, needs and fantasies. Don’t shut the door before educating yourself.
- Get educated. Treat sex like any other physical skill.
- Consider your sexual health a lifelong endeavor and never complete.
33:00 Feedback
Jordy shares her concerns that couples are being bashed in our attempts to create awareness of couple privilege. Note: Minx accidentally referred to Jordy as “he.” And damn LustyGuy for letting me do it! Sorry, Jordy! You’re pretty.
37:00 Thank you
Thanks to Eric and Benjamin for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 26th, 2013
 Where do we sit on the media hype cycle for polyamory?
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1:00 Topic: Where are we on the poly hype cycle?
The fabulous Sierra Black wrote a response to Andrea Zanin’s polynormativity post and pondered how to be more inclusive in our media representations. Minx suggests that polyamory is in the rising phase of the hype cycle and suffering from inflated expectations.
Other links: Jenny Block’s book Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage
Pedestrian Polyamory podcast
19:25 Happy Poly Moment
S shares a moment that is not especially happy but when polyamory’s benefits and love shine.
22:00 Thank you
Thanks to Michael for his donations this week! Plus, app subscribers and Poly Weekly Playmates got a little something extra last week. Thank you for supporting PW!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 21st, 2013
The study, finally! How much does penis size matter?
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1:00 Topic: Does penis size matter?
An Australian researcher finally did a study matching the relevance of penis size as a factor in combination with other physical factors for physical attractiveness. Does it matter?
Other headlines citing the study:
11:40 Happy Poly Moment
E shares a great story of transition of a partner moving from “hell no” to “this is cool”
13:10 Feedback
- Lynn shares feedback on the HSV episode that made it much easier to avoid the shame spiral.
- ArcticWolf shares thoughts on the stats on the poly marriage failure rate
Thank you
Thanks to Joseph, Andrew, Meg and Emma for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on April 8th, 2013
 When a poly family swaps wives with a right-wing family on a reality TV show, who comes off better?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
2:00 Topic: Polyamory on Wife Swap
On the reality TV show Wife Swamp, a polyamorous family swapped wives (not sexual, just lifestyle) with a right-wing religious family. Who came off better? Across the board, reviewers agree it was the poly family!
31:50 Happy Poly Moment
Dominic from Wisconsin calls in to share a moment in which life rewards courage!
35:00 Feedback: Episode 350
- AggieSez calls in to let us know about unmarried equality
- Frank writes in to ask why there are any tax benefits at all to marriage
- Jason comments that we should have marriage be defined by the individuals involved, not the government
- S shares her situation in which she lives with partners and then married one, which brought up conflicting emotions regarding the other relationship. No answers, but she poses some great questions.
- Edward reminds us about marriage in the Roman Empire.
46:00 Thank you
Thanks to Marshall, Isabelle, Denise and Kerra for their donations this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on March 16th, 2013
Marketing content strategy for sex positive educators and activists
Thanks to everyone who attended and participated in this session at CatalystCon East. What a great and engaged crowd! I had a great time sharing with and learning from you all.
By Cunning Minx, on March 15th, 2013
Is there a polynormative model in the media? And if so, what issues can that create for poly newbies? 
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Had a great time at Conflation; thanks to everyone for making us feel relaxed and welcome!
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
Interview: Andrea Zanin on polynormativity
Andrea’s longish essay on the problem with polynormativity is here. You can find Andrea’s essays on her Sex Geek blog.
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on March 9th, 2013
 Everything you need to know about prostate pleasure and health (well, some of it, anyway)
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- Hidden Social: Where Sexual Variants Gather Online session at SXSWi on Sunday, March 10, 3:30 PM with Herb Coleman, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UT Austin ( #hiddensoc )
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
2:00 Interview: Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian
Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian talk about their new book, Prostate Pleasure and Health: why they wrote this book; that enjoying this wonderful pleasure doesn’t make you gay; how to prepare for prostate and anal play; and a ton of other stuff you never knew until now!
- They met at Good Vibrations
- Why do we need a book on prostate pleasure? There wasn’t one!
 Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian
- Key prostate advice: Stroke, don’t poke.
- What is the prostate? Part of the male reproductive anatomy that produces semen, and many men find that prostate massage creates a sensation similar to ejaculation.
- Does prostate stimulation make you gay? No. Does it make you a bottom? No. It can be powerful to be fully present in your masculinity and enjoy receiving.
- 13:00 Why is prostate stimulation so pleasurable? We’re not sure, but perhaps the autonomic nerves (involved in ejaculation) are being stimulated.
- 18:30 Tip for anal penetration: relaxation, communication and lubrication!
- The day I found my ass; The zen of anal play
- 24:35 Does prostate massage have health benefits?
- Twitter and Facebook
32:45 Happy Poly Moment
Some Guy in Bristol, England shares a texting moment that WOULD have gone awry, had he not been transparently poly!
34:15 Thanks
To Craig for his generous donation this week!
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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