Tongue-tied minx

I just got an email from a Chicago Tribune reporter who wants to interview me for a RedEye article on monogamy. (Or non-monogamy, as the case may be).

Part of me went ::SQUEE! You’re hitting the mainstream press!:: and the other part went into terrified shock, fearing that the reporter would (a) not respect my privacy,(b) misquote me and (c) present polyamory as something wild or fringy that freaks do.

I think the terrified part of me won. I did agree to an interview, but I’ve asked her for more information on the type of article she’s writing. And I’m nervous ALREADY, not knowing what to say.

Take a good look, folks: this is the minx, tongue-tied!

Show Notes for PW #27

Show Notes for Polyamory Weekly #27:

0:00-1:55 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning, and an apology.

1:55-7:50 Listener mail
Eric Silverbear and poly conferences; Takanami calls in about painting; K writes in about women talking about sex; Vannevar Morgan comments on my approach to smut

7:50-10:30 Comments–erotica: Morgan Hawke
Morgan Hawke, author of Victorious Star, Fortune’s Star and Fallen Star, writes in about how he came to start writing poly-friendly erotica of the MFM variety and “erotic romance.” His work is available at or

10:30-13:50 Comments: on sending flowers
Graydancer of Rope Weekly writes in with some poly advice, and minx tells a story.

13:50-21:30 Comments: Amy Gahran comments on coming out
Amy Gahran of Contentious tells more about her professional outing and makes a few corrections. Links:
How To Get Naked This is a downloadable audio link of the panel discussion.
Her blog article on outing herself.

21:30-26:30 Listener mail: single and poly
writes in to ask about dealing with being a third and issues surrounding that.

26:30-28:30 Topic: The Anna Karennina principle
Pure agnostic’s musings in the Polyfi community about the necessary ingredients for a happy poly relationship, including above-average communication skills, above-average problem-solving skills, unflinching honesty and integrity, flexibility and compromise and empathy.

28:30-35:30 Topic: Baltimore Sun article, “Term of Endearments”
This wonderful article on the Loving More conference in the Baltimore Sun is unfortunately no longer available online, but the staff writer was John Woestendick if you’d like to write in and compliment him. Robyn Trask of Loving More magazine is quote extensively.

35:30-end Wrap-up

Poly Weekly Show Notes

Show Notes for Polyamory Weekly #25:

00-2:50 Introduction and under-18 warning

2:50-4:20 introduction on Dossie and Janet

4:20-11:20 Is polyamory really about the sex?
Answer: yes! How sex can be there even when it’s not; what is “sex” anyway; should the right to a vibrator-induced orgasm be included in the bill of rights?

11:20-16:50 What do you see as the relationship between BDSM and poly lifestyles?
Dossie comments on the BDSM community recognizing many different roles; Janet muses that BDSM folks often don’t see sex as binary

Thoughts on what “sex” and “monogamy” mean; what feelings are likely to encourage jealousy; learning how to take care of yourself when jealous

on competitiveness in the BDSM scene

on role-playing Samwise and Gollum; on the victim/villain roleplay scenario and women’s prison movies; emotional journeying and uncovering and welcoming the “shadow” through role playing

vulnerability of the top through the prom queen/juvenile delinquent scene

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