Show Notes for Polyamory Weekly #31: October 25, 2005

The new Polyamory Weekly #31 is up!

Coming up on this week’s show: poly living arrangements, Big Love, and by the way, Dr. Ruth says there’s no such thing as bisexuals.

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. Thanks for listening!

0:00-2:10 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com. And welcome to our all-too-infrequent co-host, my dearest lover, , host of the Rope Weekly podcast.

2:10-3:15 Announcements: Yahoo and sluts
Yahoo’s podcast directory, at podcasts.yahoo.com, censors minx’s show descriptions!

3:15-14:10 Listener mail: poly living arrangements, religion and Heinlein
writes in to ask about poly living arrangements; corrects minx’s previous comment about being “fully-clothed” during the scene with Janet Hardy; Brent N. writes in about poly ethics, religion and control and minx comments on personalized religions; an Australian listener discovers the term “polyamory” and frightens by mentioning Heinlein.

14:10-16:50 Announcements: PW sponsorship
OK, folks, let’s give it a shot. Wanna hear your name on the air and send minx to upcoming poly conferences to speak? Now offering sponsorships at $25 per episode (downloaded on average nearly 1,500 times) in exchange for up to a one-minute promo of you, your business, your favorite rant, whatever! For more info, email minx at cunningminx@gmail.com Thanks!

16:50-26:50 Topic: Dr. Ruth says there are no bisexuals!
Graydancer and minx discuss bisexuality, dualism and labels in some interesting (read: bad!) fake accents. Thanks to for bringing this to my attention and for writing such a delightfully snarky response to her “you’re either straight or gay” proclamation. Graydancer tells a military story and brings up resentment for by-choice bisexuals from some gay folks.

26:50-31:45 Topic: Poly in the media: HBO’s “Big Love”
What do we think of the upcoming 2006 sitcom, Big Love on HBO about a polygamous Mormon family? Here’s the article, and the CNN article on the upcoming show. Graydancer, being raised Mormon, throws in a few thoughts about the foundations of polygamy.

31:45-33:40 Announcements: Interview, sponsorships
minx’s interview is up on Polyamory Percolations site, and BTW, any sponsorship $$ goes to minx’s poly travel fund.

33:40-34:50 Wrap-up
Stay tuned for upcoming interviews with poly-friendly authors, and Graydancer and minx run off to have sex. :-)

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Show Notes for Polyamory Weekly #30

The new Polyamory Weekly #30 is up!

Coming up on this week’s show: a monogamist sounds in about Jacques Attali’s article; MinofSin and minx sit down and discuss Christian faith/ethics/spirituality with respect to polyamory; and Michelle Belanger’s book Sacred Hunger is finally out!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. Thanks for listening!

0:00-1:0 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com

1:30-5:15 Listener mail
Eldyn Blackthorn mentioned PW in his audio blog here, which led minx to realize that the answer to poly questions is very often, “just the same as you would if you were monogamous.” Also, Brodie wrote in to let us know he posted a link to PW at Polymatcher.com forum. And a monogamous listener comments on Jacques Attali’s article on “Monogamy: Here Today, Gone Tomorrow.” Great points on the assumptions/tolerance issues!

5:15-37:35 Interview with MinofSin: Faith, ethics and polyamory
Is poly incompatible with Christianity?; sex, lust, love and masturbation; what does religion gain from calling polyamory unethical?; Paul’s sense of urgency; 15:40 what is the relationship between poly and spirituality?; how did we get from esoteric love in John to so many social restrictions?; embracing Jesus’ type of love; abundance and miracles; 25:00 adultery in monogamy and polyamory; evangelical monogamy vs. tolerant polyamory; more on adultery and religion; living for love.

37:35-40:06 Listener mail: poly and spirituality
Brent N.’s follow-up thoughts on poly and spirituality, including some Wiccan principles.

40:06-41:35 Announcement: Sacred Hunger is out!
For vampire fans, Michelle Belanger’s book on vampire folklore and modern vampires, Sacred Hunger, is out! She’ll be signing copies at Hex Hollywood on October 31st; buy the book at www.lulu.com.

41:35-44:10 Announcements: Poly and the media

  • minx’s interview for the nice folks at www.radio-menteabierta.com on what poly is and the swinging vs. poly issue will be up–but translated into Spanish!
  • Also, the local article I interviewed for is a no-go, in case you were wondering.
  • And minx is in the midst of creating poly seminar concepts for poly conference (which don’t tend to pay travel expenses), so fundraising through PW might be upcoming; we’ll see.

44:10-45:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Touching myself!

Ok, I haven’t been able to successfully log back in to the Touchyourself.org message board, but for those who pledged or would like to pledge a per-minute rate for my masturbation this weekend, here is the final tally: 32 minutes (or three orgasms, if you’d like to go by the big O’s)! Woo hoo!

So whatever you had pledged or would care to pledge now ($1 per minute, $5 per orgasm, what have you), just click on Touchyourself.org, click “Message Board,” and all the charities from Good Vibrations to I Cum in Peace are listed along the side–just click to donate your pledged amount to Hurricane Katrina relief!

Show Notes for Polyamory Weekly #29

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Coming up on this week’s show: more poly resources, how NOT to be a slut, poly singers, and an interview with RatBastid on breakin’ up is hard to do.

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. Thanks for listening!

0:00-1:20 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com

1:20-6:00 Announcements and Resources

6:00-11:15 Listener mail: how do you come out as poly and NOT seem like a slut?
Jason in Virginia asks about how to come out and not get hit on, and minx calls for advice from listeners.

11:15-13:15 Topic: a non-human S.O.?
Ganked from –does WoW count as an additional S.O.? minx comments on hobbies/addictions as S.O.’s within a poly family.

13:15-16:45 Listener mail: labels
Badsnake wrote in to share her family’s various labels, including “Emergency Backup Girlfriends,” “Special Friend” and “the Sidedish,” as well as her preference for the terms “primary” and “secondary.”

16:45-18:40 Listener mail: living honorably and Zen
comments on with “hoping” that others will react to our living honorably.

18:40-37:50 Interview with RatBastid: breakin’ up is hard to do
RatBastid shares his story of how he and his wife expanded past monogamy with another couple and how he came to be able to deal with the wife of that couple, D, breaking up with him but continuing to see his wife. And he shares how he decided what he stands for and was able eventually to feel frubble for his wife and her lover.

37:50-39:40 Listener mail: finding poly through the internet
Woodrant wrote in about finding polyamory through the internet; a special welcome to our Violet Blue and Fleshbot listeners

39:40-42:00 Wrap-up
Upcoming interviews: Susan Wright of NCSF will come on to discuss poly vs. swinging and coming-out tips; and I will be discussing poly and spirituality/ethics soon as well.

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Something I’m proud…

… that I said in freeflowing conversation:

Communication is a choice. In some parts of the poly family, yeah, it flows naturally, but in others you have to make a little bit of an effort. And it’s your choice to make an effort or not.

Any Chicagoans willing to talk to the media?

Heard from the RedEye reporter today–she’s putting the article on hold because she couldn’t find a Chicagoan who could talk about going from mono to poly.

If anyone is up for this, please email me at cunningminx@gmail.com, and I’ll forward your info/email on to the reporter. If not, no biggie.

Polyamory Weekly #28 is up!

The new Polyamory Weekly is up!

Coming up on this week’s show: Kinky Kollege, the Polyamory Weekly drinking game, unindicted co-conspirators, poly in the media, a Dutch threesome, earbud-worthy podcasts and a whole conference on the big J.

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-600-5677. Thanks for listening!

0:00-1:20 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com

1:20-3:05 The PW drinking game
Alien_sunset suggests the PW drinking game!

3:05-6:15 Kinky Kollege: Lolita Wolf’s poly seminar
Two things that struck a chord with me: first, if you have a strong emotion, make an agreement. Second, a bit of advice (from her, not me!): Live honorably, and let others do what they will.

6:15-18:15 Listener mail
Dollfan comments about the film When Two Won’t Do and minx puts out a call for positive poly films; MS writes in about labels and “unindicted co-conspirators;” brennustar talks about being poly and Christian; Kel writes in with a coming-out story, which encourages minx to recommend some Zen books for those who are so inclined: Nothing Special: Living Zen and Everyday Zen: Love and Work by Charlotte Joko Beck; B2 writes in about the benefits of PW for his own monogamous relationship and how much he’s enjoying Radical Ecstasy from the Greenery Press

18:15-23:00 Polyamory in the media: comments
minx discusses her first mainstream media interview; darkmane comments that we aren’t persecuted enough to really ask for media attention

23:00-31:00 Polyamory in the media: NYT story, Foreign Policy article, first Dutch civil union
New York Times short story from September 4, 2005 is Three Men and a Woman by Stephen Elliott. The article on www.foreignpolicy.com by Jacques Attali is Monogamy: Here Today, Gone Tomorrow. The article about the Dutch threesome forming a civil union is in the Brussels Journal

31:00-34:15 Earbud-worthy podcasts!
Coloring Outside the Lines podcast by listener Takanami
Sex with Emily, available at sexwithemily.com
And my San Francisco buddy is just about to debut Queer Sex Weekly

34:15-35:15 Announcement: the Jealousy Conference
Info on the Jealousy Conference in Berekly, CA, October 14-16, is available here.

35:15-end Wrap-up
If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

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