PW #55 Show Notes

The new Polyamory Weekly #55 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:45 Announcements & Resources

5:30 Listener mail
Buboe wrote in with dating advice on gradually introducing personal info on dates; J suggests bringing up monogamy on a date to feel out a person’s poly proclivities; minx muses on how exactly to bring that issue up casually; 12:10 wrote in to share the tokens that she and her partners have exchanged, including rings, necklaces and a collar; Amanda shares a story of her mother’s failed attempt at polyamory

14:30 Poly in the media
What About Brian, a new show on ABC, seems to have a poly-possible story line; posted to the LJ polyamory community about an episode of Bullshit! on “Family Values” that includes an interview of a poly family.

18:00 Announcements
Thanks to Laura for her donation; any lawyers out there willing to do an interview?

18:30 Topic/Question
Which photos do you put up at work? How do you explain them?

20:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

PW #54 Show Notes

The new Polyamory Weekly #54 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

2:15 Resources & Links
Check out this mainstream article about being a boobiesexual! And this link is an easier way to see the Montel Williams video from a while back.

4:00 Listener mail
Assisi wrote in about “Polygamy: the Rape of Rachel Strong” and to warn about fallout in the poly community; minx comments on the choice whether to engage someone who might have negative views of polygamy/polyamory as a result of Big Love7:20 R comments on the variety of tokens she and her SO’s share; 10:10 B continues the conversation about Difficult Conversations and the issue of blame vs. contribution; minx says that this book should be required reading for every poly person!! 13:10 Tom calls in to the comment line about being poly for pleasure

15:45 Topic: How and when to come out to a “normal” potential partner?
minx has been flirted with by a normal person she met through work–how and when is the appropriate time to come out as poly and/or into BDSM? First date too soon? Third date too late? Don’t date vanillas at all? How much honesty is too much honesty? What do you think?

20:45 Poly in the Media
In more positive sexual news, a Minnesota church has voted to stop performing civil marriages for heterosexuals because civil marriage isn’t offered to same-gender couples. Yay for religious institutions seeing the unfairness of the marriage laws! 23:55 In this article, the author muses on whether gays should adopt polyamory as a relationship model instead of going the way of monogamy and “live their life in the illustion that the only working model of couple is the one inculcated to us by a heteronormative society.”

27:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Jealousy seminar

The jealousy seminar that and I gave a GD2 in Chicago last weekend is up!

Direct download is here.

PW #53 Show Notes

The new Polyamory Weekly #53 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00-1:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:00 Comments on creating the jealousy seminar
The jealousy seminar will be posted soon; please be patient with the lack of editing and audio quality! minx muses on the joy of being poly and presenting with your partner.

5:35 Listener mail: audio comments
A voice from a GIRL on the comment line!! Woot! And Moose comments on dealing with jealousy by using honesty, honesty and honesty–with yourself, with others and by creating a space for others to be honest with you.

8:45 Resource: Difficult Conversations
This book, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Doug Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heene and Roger Fisher, is brilliant! They discuss three conversations within each conversation: the what-happened conversation, the feelings conversation, and the identity conversation. Read or listen to this book today!

14:20-end Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Boobiesexuals!

OMG! It’s catching on! Here is the first media mention of “boobiesexual” by someone who has never officially met me. I think it needs to go in the lexicon now!

Tee hee!

Polyamory Weekly #52 Show Notes

The new Polyamory Weekly #52 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00-1:40 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:40 Housekeeping
PW schedule; is there a lawyer in the house?; minx gets nekkid photos back

4:30 Announcement: minx gives talk on jealousy at GD2
If you’re local to Chicago, check out minx’s (and ’s talk on jealousy this Saturday, April 8th, from 4:00-6:00 p.m. at GD2

5:40 Topic: labels primary and secondary
What I wish I’d said when questioned about whether or not I’m actually “secondary” to Graydancer:

11:15 Topic: Tokens
How important are tokens and play rules with respect to primary/secondary? Tokens can be meaningful, but they can also be taken away. What do you think?

15:20 Listener mail
Brent comments on stealing and hiding the joy in polyamory; 17:20 Jason in VA comments on stealing; 19:15 JP comments that poly is loving, not “sexy;” 21:45 Jim used PW to stay awake when driving cross-country and wrote a glowing review of the show![blush]; 23:25Erik sent in this unofficial LDS site; 23:40 Elfin wrote in about a successful poly/BDSM and monogamous/vamilla pairing; 26:00 B wrote in that being poly helps with his wife’s DID; 27:35 J provides link to Stephen Colbert’s riff on polyamory; 28:00 Jason in Virginia describes a “polysensual”

28:45 Article: How to Share a Lover
This great article recommends leavingsyour expectations at the gate; not tolerating secrecy or lies; and clarifying your own values and goals in life.

30:15 Resource: Kinky podcast
minx recommends Kinky Sex Radio for anyone into BDSM, whether newbie or experienced.

32:10 Poly in the media
This article from the Village Voice compares Big Love with The Girls Next Door makes a call for getting polyamory on the air. Any volunteers for a poly reality TV show? Anyone? 36:00 This article by Dale Carpenter argues against the gay/polygamy slippery-slope fear; 38:05 One Many, Many Wives, Big Problems from the National Review fears that polygamy would make marriage a zero-sum game and the social ramifications thereof; Agnoster posted this reply; 43:40 The Reality of Polygamy, an article written by a lawyer, seems to think that polygamy isn’t economically viable; minx comments on welfare/public assistance catching up with new family structures; 47:30 Hers, Hers, His and Hers, the Chicago Sun-Times article on polyamory, is reasonably fair in spite of the fact that minx is reportedly a man now!

51:00-end Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email me at cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro/outro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

And YOU thought I couldn’t pass!

Not a bad article in the Sun-Times about poly:

Hers, hers, his and hers

So… paragraph five:

A 36-year-old Oak Park man who calls himself Minx lives alone. His male partner is married to a woman, and those two live in Madison, Wis. Minx isn’t involved physically with the woman, but he talks on the phone with her about once a week, and they text message each other more than that.

When Minx marked his four years with the male partner, the woman helped celebrate. Minx, on the married couple’s anniversary, made the two breakfast “just as you might do for a very good friend.”

“It’s a lot of work to make all the relationships work harmoniously, to be sure. But the payoff is in the depth and breadth of emotional connections that stem from the communication required,” said Minx, who hosts a weekly podcast — an Internet radio show — on the poly life.

Hmmm. All that work on my swagger must’ve paid off!!! ROFL!

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