PW #81: Tantric Sex

The new Polyamory Weekly #81 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:30 Resources and Announcements
no sign for “polyamory” in ASL; Cherie let us know about the Florida Poly Retreat, March 15-18, 2007, which Anita Wagner, Robyn Trask and Franklin all speak at–check it out at www.floridapolyretreat.com; she also comments on the Return to the Original Orgasm segment; minx comments and tells a story about ‘s advice on her first experience with a woman; Anna Sharman has a new book out called “Open Fidelity: An A-Z Guide”, available at www.openfidelity.info; Jason in Virginia calls in to comment on the guy from show #78 who might have been exposing his hugging fetish

6:30 Topic: Mistress Matisse’s Things Polyamorous People Should Know
Matisse wrote this wonderful tell-it-like-it-is column for Seattle’s The Stranger, including comments that written agreements don’t mean that no one will get hurt; make sure “it’s fine” means that it’s REALLY FINE (we don’t allow “fine” as an emotional description in our family at all!); minx also comments on Matisse’s statement that it is unethical to knowingly enter into a relationship as someone’s secondary partner and then start bitching because you don’t get the same rights and privileges as the primary. Seek your own primary. minx comments on the basic truth of the statement but comments that relationships seek their own level, and changes need to be dealt with

11:10 Topic: Why We Need Conservatives
Lorin wrote in about the function that conservatism serves in a changing society

14:45 Interview: Tantric Sex
How they got into tantra; a definition of trantra; what tantric sex isn’t; 20:30 how to get started in tantric sex; a deep reverence for your partner(s) moving into a sense of collaboration, exploration and discovery; 23:45 ebb and flow in arousal period; tantra 101 tips; eye-gazing technique (tantra in three minutes a day!); 30:30 the “goal” is achieving mystical experiences through sexuality; how do you change engrained sexual practices; fantasy tennis; 36:45 are the orgasms really better?; the key is keeping at the edge of the cliff and turning the whole body into a genital; 42:00 find out more at www.tantrapm.com, where you can buy a signed copy of the book and sign up for an online course

43:50 Our October sponsor: Kinky Ropes

44:55 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Mistress Matisse RAWKS!

All-hail to the fabulous Mistress Matisse for telling poly like it is:

The Stranger’s Control Tower

PW #80: Dealing with jealousy; Polly & Marie sitcom

The new Polyamory Weekly #80 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Our October sponsor: Kinky Ropes

1:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

2:10 Resources and Announcements
Thanks to Jonathan for his donation; the Poly Living Conference takes place in Philadelphia in February; poly-mono groups are available at the Yahoo! Poly-mono group and the CPN Yahoo! Poly-mono group; check out this article on therapy with clients who are bisexual and polyamorous by Geri Weitzman; 5:00 Amy Gahran weighs in on the Advice Goddess’ write-in guy as being creepy; 8:00 Angel calls in to say that Schoolhouse Rock’s “Three is a Magic Number” is her family’s poly song–and she sings it for us!!; 10:00 Heather calls in to share an experience with insecurity about an outside erotic relationship taking precedence over a friendship; 13:05 Val Sam comments on learning how to be brave and on trust in communication; minx comments on the difficulty of being honest and vulnerable with someone who doesn’t trust you or a metamour who isn’t in love with you; 17:35 Jonathan from Florida asked if there is a sign language sign for polyamory–minx is researching

17:15 Topic: Dealing with Jealousy
This article from the BBC is intended for monogamous couples and is a great communication starter, with exercises on discovering your jealousy triggers and writing how those incidents make you feel as well as listing what you and your partner can do to help

20:45 Topic: Return to the Original Orgasm
minx talks about why she decided to share her original orgasm story and the benefits of sharing sexual experiences; D wrote in to share the fact that her first orgasms were from pulling herself along the side of the bathtub and how she went on to explore other methods of orgasm with her partners

23:40 Poly in the Media
This article is a review of a 1933 Noel Coward play, “Design for Living,” that is poly-friendly in 2006; 26:00 a new sitcom pilot for a show called “Polly & Marie” is waiting to be picked up–check out the trailer here and check out the show’s MySpace page here; minx is heartened to see polyamory getting into the mainstream media but is concerned that the trailer focuses too much on sensationalized sex and not on loving, long-term committed relationships–what do you think?

29:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Boobiesexuals, unite!

[grin] Checked out the Cafe Press Poly Weekly store, just to see, and so far, we’ve sold six shirts. Six more, and Cafe Press will cut PW a check (it’s a $25 minimum profit), which will then be donated to The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom! W00t!

PW #79

The new Polyamory Weekly #79 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:30 Host Chat
Bonus show because of the time-sensitive interview

2:00 Topic: Return to the Original Orgasm
minx talks over her recent experience with returning with her partner to her original masturbatory technique and the emotions and intimacy that followed–do you have a story to share as well?

11:15 Interview: Anita Wagner
Anita Wagner talks about her configuration and intro to poly; 17:15 her jealousy seminars; Anita and minx talk jealousy; 20:55 Building Bridges conference October 13-15 near Seattle; keynotes and sessions on practical issues and sexual issues; 29:00 coming out to her Southern Baptist family; choosing which S.O. to bring to her mother’s funeral; 32:05 Anita comments on Chris, Hannah and Jean’s current custody battle for Hannah’s daughter Rhiannon; support them at saveourpolyfamily.org even with small donations

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

PW #78 Show Notes

The new Polyamory Weekly #78 is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com.

1:30 Announcements and Resources
Tantric sex interview delayed; participate in the Boobiethon to support breast cancer awareness month—why not send in a pic of your boobs, clothed or unclothed?; Anita Wagner provides poly support in the D.C. area; Noneyourbiz started a poly group on MySpace; Stephen Elliott’s new book My Girlfriend Comes to the City and Beats Me is out—check him out at www.stephenelliott.com; E asks if there is a group to support the monogamous partners of poly people—do you know of any?

4:30 Poly is the New Black
My dear friend comments/rants on polyamory as a signifier of relationships and poly as a state of mind

6:45 Sponsorship issues
Thanks to donators this week; possibility of move to PodShow network

8:00 Listener Mail
Ratbastid sent in another limerick; Jason in Virginia commented on those who break up to see others, not realizing they are poly; Damon commented on his male perspective on seeing his two female partners happy with him; J suggests having PW correspondents, and minx LOVES the idea! Who wants to send in the first correspondent segment? Huh? Huh? Huh?; 13:50 somerandomcanuk suggested Juice as an alternative to iTunes; minx comments on the spirit of community at the sex-positive adult meetup at Podcast Expo; J wrote in with a question about how to choose between two partners, both of whom need support simultaneously; minx responds by asking who would you see in the hospital if both of your daughters were in different hospitals at the same time; 19:45 ShenJingDo comments on masturbation and platonic love; minx comments on choosing the level of masturbatory disclosure in your relationships

23:00 Visit our new sponsor, KinkyRopes.com

24:00 Poly in the Media
Doug wrote in about a canceled Big Love knockoff show, coins the word polymoneyous and requests hentai tentacle porn; check out this show on poly in the Netherlands; yet another article on how bisexuality doesn’t exist and the author doesn’t believe on can be in a relationship with a man and woman simultaneously; a new book on Tracy and Hepburn comments on their bisexuality; an advice column by Amy Alkon is inappropriately titled “Along Came Polyamory” and leads to quite the kerfuffle between polyamorists and Ms. Alkon; her blog post is here; Amy Gahran’s are here; the discussion on the LiveJournal poly group is here; 32:45 the actual original advice column is interesting as well—minx muses on whether the guy in question had a hugging fetish; this Zenit article is another “won’t someone think of the children” articles, if you’re interested

35:15 Folsom Street Review
Thanks to everyone who came by the booth to say hello and our hosts , , and E. We’re out of boobiesexual buttons, but if you’d like your very own, check out the Polyamory Weekly boobiesexual shop at www.cafepress.com/polyweekly (profits to go to NCSF)

21:45 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Geez, snark much?

Oh, if you’d care to correct the journalist, her email is adviceamy@aol.com . However, she doesn’t seem terribly open to constructive criticism. Her unfortunate response to my email:

Thanks, but I know all about polyamory, and I know you’re a pal of another humorless polyamorist, Amy Gahran. Read my blog and you might learn something:

http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2006/09/amy_alkon_is_a.html

Sorry I can’t help you out with the missing sense of humor. Nor with the inability to comprehend irony.

How disappointing. Still, it’s our job to correct misconceptions we see in the media, so please don’t let the possibility of receiving a response like this one keep you from offering corrections to journalists worldwide. We do need to push for correct use of the term and encourage journalists to take responsbility to do their research.

Advice goddess kerfuffle

In response to Amy Alkon, the Advice Goddess’s article Along Came Polyamory, my email:

Hello, Ms. Alkon–

I am writing in response to your column entitled “Along Came Polyamory” in the Ventura County Reporter. I am the producer and host of the Polyamory Weekly podcast, an internet radio show devoted to discussing issues related to non-monogamy.

I have to write to correct you with respect to the title of the article. While you mention open marriage once in passing, the title “Along Came Polyamory” is inaccurate and misleading. The example in question isn’t polyamory (for a definition, click here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory ) but a man with nonmonogamous tendencies. While I applaud you for mentioning in your response that the man in question is “just a partner who’s cheating,” you in fact don’t mention polyamory (just open marriage) in the article at all, so I wonder what you think the title has to do with your response. Since you don’t provide a definition of polyamory or links to any resources in your article, your readers who are unfamiliar with polyamory will read your advice and assume that what you are discussing is indeed polyamory.

You seem to be aware that this man’s behavior isn’t polyamorous, but you are doing your readers a disservice by choosing to use the word “polyamory” in the title simply because you could more easily make a cute pun with a date-movie title.

If you’d like more information about polyamory, please contact me; I’d be happy to help.

Yours,
minx

Check this out

I think I need to add to my Friends list, but in the meantime, check out ‘s post on Poly is the New Black

ROFL!

From the Podcast Expo floor yesterday:

A guy with a microphone marked “The Marriage Show” came up to me and asked me if I was married. I said no, but with an evil glint in my eye gestured to and said, “But he is.”

The man turned to Graydancer, held the mic to his face, and asked what was the secret of his happy marriage! Graydancer looked daggers at me and said something about communication and supporting your wife’s dreams. :-) Awwww, what, no “my girlfriend” or “my wife’s lover” is the secret to our happy marriage???

ROFL!!

When the mic was off, he came out to the interviewer as poly and (I think) scared him shitless. Boy, is THAT interview going to be deleted but QUICK!

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