In response to Amy Alkon, the Advice Goddess’s article Along Came Polyamory, my email:
Hello, Ms. Alkon–
I am writing in response to your column entitled “Along Came Polyamory” in the Ventura County Reporter. I am the producer and host of the Polyamory Weekly podcast, an internet radio show devoted to discussing issues related to non-monogamy.
I have to write to correct you with respect to the title of the article. While you mention open marriage once in passing, the title “Along Came Polyamory” is inaccurate and misleading. The example in question isn’t polyamory (for a definition, click here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory ) but a man with nonmonogamous tendencies. While I applaud you for mentioning in your response that the man in question is “just a partner who’s cheating,” you in fact don’t mention polyamory (just open marriage) in the article at all, so I wonder what you think the title has to do with your response. Since you don’t provide a definition of polyamory or links to any resources in your article, your readers who are unfamiliar with polyamory will read your advice and assume that what you are discussing is indeed polyamory.
You seem to be aware that this man’s behavior isn’t polyamorous, but you are doing your readers a disservice by choosing to use the word “polyamory” in the title simply because you could more easily make a cute pun with a date-movie title.
If you’d like more information about polyamory, please contact me; I’d be happy to help.