PW #86: Home for the Holidays

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Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; everyone welcome my real-life brother, AustinBrother, as our co-host this week!

1:50 Listener Mail
Chris writes in about Christianity and monogamy, blaming the Roman Empire for favoring monogamy over other family structures;

4:50 Topic: Home for the Holidays
minx shares her general tips for coming out:

  1. Choose your timing carefully
  2. In private is usually better
  3. Be comfortable with yourself
  4. Be honest with yourself about why you’re coming out and what you expect
  5. Be noble–be more tolerant of them than they are of you
  6. Be prepared to answer questions
  7. Have a party line “I don’t expect you to understand or approve, but I wanted to be honest with you and eventually accept”

minx and AustinBrother discuss possible family reactions (OtherBrother would focus on the sex and mom would ignore it)

16:50 Poly in the Media
CBS4 did this reasonably fair article on polyamory in Florida with an attempt at scandal by “going undercover” to (gasp!) the LIBRARY to find polyamorists; 21:05 Our new Deputy Assistant Secretary for Population Affairs, Erik Keroack, a Bush appointee, is known for giving a PowerPoint presentation explaining how women who have sex before marriage “use up” their oxytocin and lose their ability to love (seriously). And yes, he’s in charge of family planning in this country!

Articles on him and his oxytocin theories he’s presenting as fact:

37:50 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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PW #85: Historical Monogamy

The new Polyamory Weekly #85: Historical Monogamy is up! Direct download is here.

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Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; everyone welcome J as our co-host this week!

2:30 Listener Mail
J makes correction for minx’s mispronunciation of “Samhein”; 4:30 Rob shares a four-way limerick; 5:00 the question of the history of monogamy is raised; minx mentions Robin Baker’s Sperm Wars; we discuss some aspects of Wikipedia’s entry on monogamy, including sexual dimorphism and evolution and ask when and where Christianity became associated with monogamy; minx rambles about the letters of Paul and social taboos

14:35 Poly in the Media

30:30 Still seeking a family correspondent!

32:00 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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A survey

I took this survey; it’s a lot of open-ended questions, so come ready to type.

Hello:

My name is Alexandra Borys and I am a student at the University of Mary Washington. I am conducting a research project to learn more about polyamory and the polyamorous community.

I am writing to ask if you’d be willing to post a short questionnaire that I’ve created on your website . This would be a huge help to my research project and my personal education.

The link to my survey is:
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=973552836125

PW #84: Long Distance Relationships

The new Polyamory Weekly #84: Long Distance Relationships is up! Direct download is here.

Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; everyone welcome as our co-host this week!

1:44 Listener Mail: NRE and long-distance relationships
Nightshade sends in a poly limerick and asks about joking about poly first; 4:30 Toadfamiliar had advice for RC, who had spent all day arousing his girl and then, to his dismay, their friend CaneMan gave her an intense scene instantly; Toad suggests that RC primed the pump or, as minx puts it “loosened the lid on the ketchup bottle;”
9:00 B asks for advice on dealing with NRE in a long-distance relationship; minx suggests:

  1. Absence makes the heart grow fonder; take your time apart as a gift that keeps you from taking your partner for granted
  2. Value the time apart for working on yourself as an emotionally whole individual with interests apart from loving your sweetie
  3. Take advantage of text messaging, camera phones, IM, video chat and Skype for keeping in contact
  4. Be thankful that your love doesn’t live 1,000 miles away–if you really need to, you can jump in the car and drive there. So… you you really need to, or can you wait another week?

adds that it’s also very important to maintain phone and chat dates and treat them as just as valid as in-person dates; minx adds that it doesn’t always have to be “big” communication–a text message, camera phone image, brief chat, can tide over nicely when an hour-long video chat isn’t feasible;

14:50 D asks about how to meet poly people in the heart of the Bible Belt; check out D’s #polyamory channel on IRC at Freenode.net or pagan channels at PaganPaths.org

16:45 Topic: Slippery slope and gay marriage
Vannevar Morgan comments on the slippery slope argument by countering “it’s been this way for millenia” with “one-fifth of the world’s population (Muslims) the religious doctrine is that a man who is able should support up to four women” and point out the many world religions who do support either polygamy or no marriage at all; D asks why people feel the need to impose their own definition of morality on someone else; comments on the argument being similar to one she has with a friend on what constitutes being an “artist” or not; in that case, the criteria are strict because the one setting the criteria is threatened by other definitions; minx comments on people naturally being drawn to those like us and afraid of those who are not; 23:00 minx also comments that the way we act and treat each other in our society does affect us as a society

24:50 Poly in the Media

  • Check out this great comic in Time magazine poking fun at some conservative opinions about the gay marriage ban
  • Stanley Kurz is at it again, claiming that gay marriage ban opponents have said too much and are now need to admit that what we really want is for everyone to be able to marry a goat (OK, I paraphrase a bit–what the heck is a “post-marriage society,” anyway??); points out that marriage has been redefined through the ages already–it’s no longer legal to beat your wife and it is legal for interracial couples to marry
  • 28:55 Brent sent in this article on the results of legalizing same-sex marriage in Scandinavia, including horrible things like lower divorce rates and no man-on-dog marriages yet
  • 29:50 this article in the Scotsman is a statement from a poly wife whose husband’s lover had been found murdered saying that their relationship was positive and about love; the commentary to the article is interesting in that most commenters focused on this not being news and just shock-mongering on the newspaper’s part
  • 36:20 a few fun election day quotes are here

37:00 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

PW #83: How Come He’s Better Than Me?

The new Polyamory Weekly #83: How Come He’s Better Than Me? is up! Direct download is here.

1:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; minx talks over the PME crowd, uncluding the The Swingercast and Sex Is Fun!; and we’re still looking for PW correspondents in the following areas:

  • Poly Families/childrearing
  • Poly and Politics
  • Anything else you think we should cover

6:30 Sponsor: Kinky Ropes.com!
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7:30 Announcement
Stephen Elliott was interviewed for WWeek.com and answered the question “Is sex a political act?”

9:30 Listener Mail
Dixie asks about symbols for polyamory; minx replies with the standard infinity sign overlaid on a heart; check out Abzu Designs to see poly pendants with this symbol; RC wrote in (incorrectly called RatBastid–my cut/paste error!) about emotions and his technique of holding other people’s emotions as valid but being skeptical about his own emotions; minx says this is great but be careful about your partners doing the opposite–being skeptical/critical of your emotions but assuming their own are valid; 16:45 minx muses/rants about the recent spate of pseudo-poly questions being posed to advice columnists; 19:00 Heather calls in a damn sexy poly story about “Two Cocks in One Pussy”!!

24:50 Topic: How Come He’s Better Than Me?
RC shares a very erotic tale of spending an entire day arousing his girlfriend and then being very upset to see a dear friend, Cane Man, turn her into Jell-O in two minutes flat. He comments on the value of remembering how important he is to her intimacy circle versus the temporary guest star; minx comments on the power of new/occasional sexual energy vs. established relationship energy and the value of remembering that even the best guest stars probably wouldn’t get such sensational responses long-term. And remember, too, that the very reason that she can experience something so intense is because of you and your relationship.

33:45 Poly in the Media
[link to come]What’s the Real Story on Same Sex Marriage is another one of those annoyingly conservative articles with creative use of quotation marks and from someone who’s never read a book, including the Bible; 37:15 [link to come] A new show on TBS called “My Boys” is about one girl who has five male friens with whom she apparently occasionally has sex

37:50 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

If you like the Halloween song, visit HyperNonsense.com

PW #82: Dealing with the Monkeys

The new Polyamory Weekly #82: Dealing with the Monkeys is up! Direct download is here.

0:00 Sponsor: Kinky Ropes.com!
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1:00 Introduction
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; welcome as goofy co-host of the week!

4:00 Listener Mail
Ffantom sends in a limerick; Jason sends in an audio limerick; Paul sends in an audio comment about Mark and Patricia’s interview on tantric sex; 8:30 thespy comments on return to the original orgasm and asks about who does the theme music–it’s “Good Suspicion” by Pacemaker Jane; pimps his new shows, Rope Video and Tales from the Kink; Calico writes about the poly play “Dutch Love” by Chicago playwright Claudia Allen

14:00 Topic: Dealing with the Monkeys
tells of dealing with inadequacy monkeys during an event in which he watched minx and share good scene energy after he and had just a so-so scene

23:10 Poly in the Media
This advice columnist dealt with a gal writing in about possibly being poly that being poly “is not something you can will to be true”; we talk about the difficulty of the reality of having emotional attachment to more than one person; 29:00 Stephanie Sellars’ essay “Lust Life” in the New York Press is a personal, honest look a polyamory; minx and comment on her comments about swingers and polyamory; suggests the new iScribe calendar program; 32:00 the Irish paper The Sunday Independent ran an article on “Let’s Face It: Monogamy Is Getting a Tad Monotonous”; minx comments on her recent discussion with her mother and not not monogamy-bashing

35:00 Wrap-up
PW has a new best friend–let’s all thank J for editing PW! He’s edited for the last three weeks and has allowed the minx a SOCIAL LIFE for the last few weeks! We love J!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

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