PW #92: Three Legal Parents!

The new Polyamory Weekly #92: Three Legal Parents! is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com How fun was it to meet Marc and Fausto from the Feast of Fools podcast? minx tells an embarrassing story about meeting Fausto!

4:15 Listener Mail
Deb calls in to comments on the needs vs. wants discussion; minx comments on being addicted to sugar

7:50 Poly in the Media
sent in an advice columnist giving uninformed advice to a poly question in the Peoria Morning Star; minx argues that most people don’t “choose” monogamy–they’re not aware of other options, so monogamy is the unquestioned default; minx comments on the biological nature of monogamy based on studies discussed in The Myth of Monogamy; minx also chuckles off the columnist’s “survey” giving choices of monogamy or serial monogamy;

16:50 Topic: Canada Declares Three Legal Parents
Val provided this link to a CBC audio program on this story; RatBastid pointed out this article on Yahoo! explains the logic of the court decision being in the best interest of the child; the Alliance for Marriage and Family (no surprise) opposes this as outside the “realm of nature” and asks why we should stop at three parents, why not more–she’s onto something here!!; not suprisingly, no reasons for limiting the number of loving parents are given

22:55 Poly in the Media
Amy Gahran sent in this article on an alternative radio station in Bloomington that adresses not just GLBT issues but also related issues like polyamory.

25:25 Wrap-Up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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PW #93: Michelle Belanger Talks Tolerance

The new Polyamory Weekly #93: Michelle Belanger Talks Tolerance is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com

1:40 PW Publicity
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3:05 Interview: Michelle Belanger
3:30 Ben Franklin Hellfire club; high IQ and kinky college professors
6:05 introduction “a modern renaissance vampire involved in all aspects of fringe community”
7:40 book plugs: The Psychic Energy Codex and Vampire Voices, an anthology of the vampire community, coming in the fall of this year; on diversity
10:05 On tolerance: comes from a lack of familiarity
12:35 etymology of the word “evil”: outside the boundaries, what is different; this is why gays can be intolerant of bisexuals
14:40 the need to belong, especially among fringe groups; why everyone hates the furries
18:05 knowing the person before the label; fighting intolerance with educating yourself about those who are different—if something bothers you, find out WHY
20:25 if you’re threatened by something your kids do, do it with them instead of forbidding it
21:35 how to come out; start by gauging their flexibility regarding small things and see if they’re willing to expand the world they live in; sometimes we presuppose rejection and get angry in advance; think of it as gauging a new piercing; introduce things slowly
25:05 Michelle suggests starting by asking, “Do you believe there is one true love for everyone?” and having a stupid amount of patience; Some may never accept it; hatred can be inspired by fear;
29:05 minx asks why one friend responded with, “if you’re poly, then my marriage is meaningless—that’s an insult to my marriage”; Michelle comments that most people do have someone else from their past they still love, even when married and the fear of the “but what if… ?”

Coming up on next week’s show
Michigan’s laws against adultery and dealing with poly and disability.

Wrap-Up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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PW #91: The Poly Walk-In Closet

The new Polyamory Weekly #91: The Poly Walk-In Closet is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com

1:40 Listener Mail
Thanks to Jason who wrote in to share his story; thanks to Marc for his donation to get minx a new car stereo; BTW, you can always make a donation to support PW by clicking here and hitting “Make a Donation”; if you’re interested in discussing the hotwife lifestyle (watching your wife with other men, he suggests checking out OurHotWives.org; minx comments that while this is a great lifestyle for some people, this doesn’t usually constitute frubble, which is explicitly non-sexual; Simon wrote in to share some historical poly couples; 5:00 Alex wrote in to share his own personal Orgasm Day and on the Poly Paradise Theme Camp at Burning Man, a great source of community for those lucky enough to go to Burning Man (hint, hint–see donate button above! minx wants to go!); Alyssa wrote in with a rant about poly being trendy;

10:35 Topic: The Poly Walk-In Closet
wrote an insightful article on being “in the closet” with poly–why one might choose to stay inside and yet how toxic the closet can be, along with his and his partner’s own policy of the “walk-in closet” with respect to poly.

15:25 My Poly Family
Earthwalker shares some of the many benefits that his children have from being in a blended poly family

20:00 Poly in the Media

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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PW needs new album art/logo!

Hello, all, and Happy New Year!

Now that Global Orgasm Day is over and you’re all happy, I’d like to ask a favor. I desperately need new album art for PW–the bit that I have was originally intended as a banner ad and isn’t even square! I’d be most grateful to any talented designers who might be up for trying their hands at creating new art for PW.

Info (doesn’t have to be included; only the title is essential):
Polyamory Weekly
www.polyweekly.com
… because it’s not ALL about the sex!

Here are a few photos that might help:

Now that sounds reasonable

Check out this article from a Canadian paper (with my highlights) about a court allowing THREE (count them, three) legal parents for a child.

The story is about the biological father of a child for a lesbian couple in Canada. The article points out, “The father would have lost his parental rights if the lesbian partner had been able to adopt the boy under Ontario law.”

The article goes on to specify that the lesbian partner brought the case against the biological parents (her lesbian partner and the biological father), and that they all supported the action. More interesting is that “the sudden death of the biological mother was the couple’s main reason in asking for legal status, the court noted. If the woman did not receive the legal rights before her partner died, she would not be able to make decisions on behalf of their son.”

… which would, of course, really suck.

The lawyer is quoted as saying, “‘It’s very good news for her, for her son and for her family,’ Jervis said. ‘She’s been the mom of this child since he was born, but this grants legal recognition to her status.’”

Indeed. Granting legal recognition of a parent’s status? Crazy!

The article concludes by quoting the lawyer, noting that it’s a good thing for the law to catch up to societal norms and respond to how things are, not how we wish they could be (or how we yearn for what some groups perceive how they used to be):

“What we do know from social-science research right now is that children raised by their married biological mom and dad do best, but we also know that’s not a fact of life for a lot of kids out there,” he said. “Let’s put in (some policy) that supports the outcomes for the children the best we can.”

How refreshing to have a “won’t someone think of the children” article that is actually showing true concern for the childre, not what Has Always Been and Is Therefore Best.

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