Podcast Award

Voting for the Podcast Awards seems to be down–what a bust. Don’t see how this could possibly end up being fair at all.

Damn. I really wanted to make a showing!

Podcast Awards!

Voting has now begun for the Podcast Awards! Please visit Podcast Awards and vote for Polyamory Weekly in the Mature category!

You can vote one time per email address per 24 hours until August 15th! Thank you!!

Podcast Awards!

Yay! Poly Weekly made the nomination for the Podcast Awards in the Mature category!

Thanks to all who nominated. Voting begins July 28th and continues through August 11th. You can vote once a date (per email address) in that time period. Spread the word!

And BTW, I see that Escape Pod was nominated as well. I think I know who my date to the ceremony will be!

Poly Weekly #117: Polyamory Weekly #117: Moving in the Direction of Greatest Courage

The new Polyamory Weekly #117: Moving in the Direction of Greatest Courage is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments

2:30 Host chat
minx pleas for folks to donate through the Tip Jar and to write a review on iTunes or Podcast Alley or wherever you listen to PW

3:20 Interview, part II: Tacit
Tacit, host of the Xeromag poly site, discusses heinlein and jealousy; don’t confuse the trigger for the root; expressing your needs, even when a new person comes along
11:45 life rewards people who move in the direction of greatest courage; the rewards of a husband reaching out and talking to the wife’s new lover, who was succesfully exploring kink with her;
14:00 his new book, More Than Two, his LiveJournal is a Tacit, and his mega poly site is at Xeromag poly site; the book’s focus is on practical tools to make relationships work on a daily basis
17:35 comments on NRE–he thinks it keeps you from getting to the good stuff and knowing who the person really is; a shared life
19:45 Franklin long-distance relationships; his polysaturation point for non-LDR’s (three); and LDR’s requiring deliberate time versus volume of mundane time; minx comments on needing a poly sugardaddy to support her LDR habits; knowing where your boundaries are with discussing sex
24:45 having a lover/main partner who takes it upon herself (is “proactive”) to ask about and discuss his relationships with new partners instead of waiting for him to tell her what is going on
29:35 optimism for love

30:00 Wrap-up
Upcoming show: What geek tools do you use to maintain and manage your relationship? Polyamory for geeks!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Geeky question

What geeky tools do you use to manage and maintain your poly relationships?

Poly Weekly #116: Tell Me What You Want

The new Polyamory Weekly #116: Tell Me What You Want is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments

4:00 My Poly Family
Earthwalker discusses how to argue, explaining to kids that it’s not their fault, negotiating fighting boundaries and rules, letting the kids know after how things worked out, and keeping in mind that little ears hear what you say and notice what you do

10:50 Interview, part I: Tacit
Tacit, host of the Xeromag poly site, discusses does love suck? does love conquer all?
16:20 love is the drive and motivator but doesn’t provide the tools or the basis for the relationship, much like love can inspire you to become a doctor, but you still have to go to medical school
20:50 the concept of what a relationship “should” be; bugs and features of human beings; the uniqueness of human beings and the relationships they create; “fair” versus “same” and “unique”; building relationships that meet your expressed needs and your partners’ expressed needs
26:30 the most valuable skill/rule #1 of poly: being able to know what you need and say it; accepting what you are vs. what you “should” be
30:20 not stating what you need can gradually corrode and poison a relationship–then any stress makes it explode
32:50 expressing a need vs. expecting a partner to fulfill it–for example, kink; your partner is with you because you add value to your partner’s life, NOT because love conquers all or because you meet a checklist of needs; check out his site at XXX
38:05 needs can be attached to a relationship, not a person–sometimes you need something from this relationship, and it doesn’t help to get that same need filled by someone else; sucking cock is contexual; intro to jealousy

40:25 Wrap-up
Stay tuned for the second half of the interview and Tacit’s views on jealousy next week. Bumper segments for his interview is by George Simmons, “Tell Me What You Want.”

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Conservapedia?

I’m a fan of Wikipedia and often use it as a resource. Not the only source, mind you, but a damn good one.

So I had to chuckle out loud at a conservative group who found Wikipedia too “liberal” in some of its definitions and so started the Conservapedia. http://www.conservapedia.com/Main_Page

Poly Weekly #116 delayed

NOTICE: because of some issues with LibSyn, Poly Weekly #116 won’t be posted today. And it’s a GOOD one–oral sex, arguing and I even let Tacit talk sometimes!

Stay tuned. Once LibSyn answers my million pleas for help (and insistence that no, I’m not at my 250 mb limit for this month yet!), PW #116 will be posted.

Poly Weekly #115: Being Jewish and Poly

The new Polyamory Weekly #115: Being Poly and Jewish is up! Direct download is here.

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Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page! And tell a friend about PW.

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments

3:45 Listener mail
Shasta wrote in about the jealousy seminar and how she used it to deal with her jealousy issues with her husband; minx apologizes for posting the wrong jealousy seminar, but hey, that one was better!; 6:45 Deb in an audio comment invites minx to MichFest for naked camping; Vannevar Morgan writes in to argue statistically about the gender pay gap based on the American Association of University Women’s report Behind the Pay Gap , but minx finds the arguments annoying and goes all ranty

11:45 Comments on PW 112: Listener Mail Extravaganza!
Steve comments that text chat can indeed cause issues; Tambourine Man comments as a sufferer of bipolar disorder that he prefers (when properly medicated) that people not walk on eggshells and jus talk to him, plus he invites minx to be naked outside his house in Iowa; 17:30 J comments on dealing with a manic-depressive in her own relationship and that everyone needs to pull his/her weight, including the one suffering from the condition

19:00 Comments on PW 114: Introverts and Extroverts
Damon comments on Myers-Briggs and ambiverts and perverts; TobyG Twitters a comment as well

21:30 Topic/Question: Time Management
RedSneaker asks about time management with poly when one or more partners get busy/more demanding jobs–how do you deal with time management before it becomes a dealbreaker?

22:30 Topic: Being Poly and Jewish
This article from Heeb Magazine brought up the question of being poly and Jewish; resources listed include KinkyJews.com and the AhavaRaba listserv; interesting info include that the Torah is silent about lesbians; some couples consider “concubine” status to bring a third into the relationship; 29:15 Jennifer comments that Judaism is less a religion and more a way of life–so long as you and God have a peace with how you live your life, it’s OK; comments from the LiveJournal polyamory community include the fact that since issues of Jewish law are complex, it’s more of a “talk with your rabbi” thing than a “let’s all talk about it” thing; also, it’s not really something to be “out” about; keep in mind that less than 1.6% of the U.S. population is Jewish, and fewer than that are poly

35:30 Wrap-Up
Next week: time management for polyamory. Today’s bumper music for the poly and Jewish segments and outro music is I Love a Jew by Stucky & Murray.

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

Poly Weekly Special Edition: Negotiations Roundtable

The new Poly Weekly Special Edition: Negotiations Roundtable is up! Direct download is here.

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Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!, and please nominate www.polyweekly.com for a Podcast Award in the Mature category!

From the Heartland Polyamory Conference, listen as minx and others participate in a group discussion of negotiations: how to make them, how to know where your limits are (and why), and how and when to use veto power or interrupt an orgasm with a freakout.

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.

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