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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments
2:30 Listener Mail
K responded to PW #109 on meeting metamours–she considers it a requirement and tells a story with the moral “if she doesn’t tell me so herself, it isn’t happening,” Rob from North Carolina on the issue of soulmates from PW #112 and New Relationship Energy vs. love as a product of the work you do to keep a relationship going; 8:20 Psi comments on PW #108: Poly and the Prisoner’s Dilemma says that if you go with the strategy of cooperation, you can’t fail; 11:15 HomeDespot blames country music for cheating being more socially acceptable than polyamory
12:10 Poly and the Double Standard, Redux
Rob Twitters that double the number of partners is standard :-); Becsplusmolly suggests that women with children see that monogamy provides security; GBBarnacles enjoyed the Hot Bi Babe discussion; Savanni comments that some men are earning the “Hot Bi Babe” title for themselves!; Darkmane shares his secrets of how to get a Hot Bi Babe; 15:15 Moose calls in an audio comment about stripper pole at campgrounds and hey, was minx naked that weekend? :-); Nytemagik also enjoyed the naked discussion; 16:30 D’gou takes exception to PepperMint’s use of the word “letting” with respect to his partner; PepperMint clarifies that the word “let” refers to boundaries that he has set for her as well as boundaries she has established for him
19:15 Topic: Introverts vs. Extroverts
This article by Jonathan Rauch on the care and feeding of introverts was the subject of much discussion when I posted it here and to my own blog (the comments are a great discussion); minx discusses the idea that introverts can be seen as aloof or snobby; Rauch clarifies that introverts simply find other people tiring and suggests that introverts find a way to state that in social settings; minx suggests extroverts learn to cope with awkward silences and that even extroverts need time to recharge; Aiyume mentions on the Myers-Briggs scale; 26:30 some really great observation on introverts from the Poly 101 session on Poly for the Introvert in Austin, Texas; UFO comments that he only gets worried when people comment that he’s not having fun; Steve Eley used improv comedy and podcasting to break out of the introvert mold; 31:45 SweetAinsley comments that introverts and extroverts view conversations differently–extroverts focus more on flow and dislike pauses; introverts seek out pauses and don’t talk just to fill space; minx shares what is going through her extroverted head during a pause in conversation; Badmagic comments that extroverts don’t necessarily “draw energy from other people” while introverts don’t, but rather it’s a spectrum of how much recharge time folks need; he suggests that introverts try just listening, but be warned people might overshare; 36:40 Karen comments that introversion makes trying to find a job really difficult
Next week: Polyamory and Judaism–if you have info or are willing to talk on the show, please email me! Today’s bumper music for the introversion segment and outro music is “The Assumption” by George Hrab.
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If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.