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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments; welcome our co-host for today’s show, Steve Eley of the Escape Pod podcast; dorks versus geeks
4:30 Topic: What geeky tools do you use to create and maintain your poly relationships?
Far and beyond, the most popular geeky tool for maintaining poly relationships was Google Calendar. Alissa started with 30boxes, an Ajax-based calendar tool; Google calendar, however, allows tagging for entries (personal, sexual, work, volunteer, medical, etc.) and allows for sharing among as many people as you like according to those tags; for syncing issues, RatBastid suggests syncing to iCal and then Palm using and/or Spanning Sync to sync between Google calendar and iCal and Missing Link to sync iCal with his Palm
13:30 More geek tools: ring tones, Steve’s heuristic, social media sites
GCalDaemon for syncing; TriSiren mentions that in addition to geek tools like IM and SMS, each lover has his/her own ring tone (hers is the Imperial March), but they also talk over their weekly Google calendars in person; Ohari shares how the family uses Google calendar; Steve shares his heuristic for social media sites: if we’re not hoping to work together or sleep together, please don’t ask me to join stuff; minx suggests using the tools that your friends/family use
18:00 More geek tools: yahoo groups, AirSet.com and the OhMiBod iPod vibrator!!
- Anita Wagner says her family has its own Yahoo! Group
- AirSet is recommended
- webcams and video chats are essentials
- IncrediMail is a mail program with stationery, 3D effects and cute images for customized love notes
- Edwarddain also uses Foucauldian Theory
- Farecast is great for cheap fares to your LDR
- Can you believe there is a vibrator you can connect to your iPod?? OhMiBod has them–donate so minx can do some product-testing!!
24:40 Still more geek tools: Facebook, wikis, Skype
TOCityGuy mentions Facebook, LiveJournal (great for polling); don’t forget you can create a wiki for your family or group; Steve and minx discuss whether geek tools take the romance out of things (NO!); Skype is great for free phone calls (we watch Battlestar Galactica together over Skype as a video date!)
32:30 How to choose?
Ask people which media they prefer and listen to the answers; try different things and see which media work for you
34:25 Head minx
Steve points out one of the downfalls of technology: without more direct contact (video chat, phone, in person), the Head Minx (the minx in his head) takes over–and she’s more based on his own insecurities than on the person minx actually is. So he needs direct contact to “reset the Head Minx.”
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This week’s outro and bumper music is Code Monkey by Jonathan Coulton.
If you like the intro music, check out Pacemaker Jane, a cool band out of Ohio.