Poly Weekly/Escape Pod meetup this weekend!

The votes are in and the time and place has been chosen. This weekend’s Escape Pod/Poly Weekly brunch will be SUNDAY AT 11 AM at Marie Callender’s in Ontario, CA:

MARIE CALLENDER’S
2149 E. Convention Way
Ontario, CA 91764

The brunch is buffet, and (as I recall) there are good vegetarian options.

Feel free to spread the word — but if you’re coming, please drop a text to Steve’s cell, 678-517-2350, so we know how big a table to get. See y’all there!

A poly folk song

“Of all the ways I’ve ever dated/It’s never been so complicated.”

Not making a good case for the argument of poly being simple or easy, but a fun poly folk song.

My Boyfriend’s Girlfriend (Isn’t Me)

Thanks to Ken Haslam for the link!

Los Angeles-area meetup?

Are there any Los Angeles-area listeners who would be interested in doing a meetup in conjuction with Podcast Expo in Ontario this weekend?

If there’s enough interest, Steve Eley and I will set up another combo meetup/brunch. Reply in comments to me know!

Poly Weekly #124: New Things You Need to Know About Sex

The new Polyamory Weekly #124: New Things You Need to Know about Sex is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments. Thanks to everyone who donated–we’ve printed over 1,500 PW postcards in the last month, and over half of them have been distributed!

5:00 Listener Feedback
Graydancer and RoxieFox create the term “polyobvious” in an audio comment to describe a poly relationship in which everyone’s relationships are transparent; 7:30 Ki gives us a positive shoutout; 8:45 another audio comment about the hot poly erotica and the sibling interaction being a little squick-inducing; 10:00 J points out that geeks give tech gifts because it’s an area they know and it’s in their comfort zone; he recommends www.chorewars.com; Skip recommends Second Life, a 3D interactive virtual environment–where a threesome can watch the same streaming video together from all over the world!!

17:20 Topic: Poly replacing extended families
Cynical Soul comments that yes, the poly family does replace her dwindled nuclear family; Jennifer has five families–biological, two medieval ones, and poly ones; this is all decided on the individual’s needs

21:10 Question: How do you love?
Skie Velvet asks about lifetime love–how to you deal with your ex’s? Do you stop loving them and break contact once you break up, or do you keep them in your life, even if they’ve hurt you badly?

26:00 Comment: Points
Skie Velvet also comments on NOT using points in relationships–too tit-for-tat to really be productive

27:30 Topic: New Things You Need to Know about Sex
Read the full article here. How many of these things did you know already? Hopefully, not too much of this was news to you!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Poly Weekly #123: All my ex’s

The new Polyamory Weekly #123: All my ex’s is up! Direct download is here.

Subscribe now with iTunes one-click!

Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

2:30 Review
Van Halen

13:00 Meetup Live: Diana
Diana shares her background and poly experience so far. And there’s cake.

16:45 Meetup Live: the Poly Southeast group
Several Atlanta area polys share their living situation at the meetup; boobs are abundant; and RadiantBaby comments on dealing with introverts; she recommends the book The Introvert Advantage

22:15 Meetup Live: ElGecko
Some positive feedback on the Hot Tub cast.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Look at us! We’re “socially destructive”!

Thanks to Green for the heads-up on this. Considering this guy’s lack of Google and Technorati juice, I doubt I’d ever have found this tiny little blog. But look at us! Polyamory Weekly is “easily the most dangerous and socially destructive podcast I’ve ever heard”! The full review:

This is easily the most dangerous and socially destructive podcast I’ve ever heard. The program is about Polyamory, the practice of having multiple sexual partners, provided everyone consents and knows what’s going on. It advocates just about every form of perversion you can imagine and the host frequently decries the fact that group marriages aren’t legal in the United States.

The program is not the most sexually explicit, nor is it the most offensive. It’s dangerous because the program seeks to normalize Homosexuality, Bisexuality, wife swapping, bondage and a host of other unChristian behaviors. They side AGAINST the Mormons who want to legalize underage brides, but if all those Mormon brides are 18 or older, they’re all for it.

If your child is listening to Polyamory Weekly, then I recommend you respond as if you’d found deviant magazines in their possession. Do not react with anger, as that will only make matters worse, but respond with Christian love and understanding. Your child has been exposed to dangerous and radical ideas, and needs help with the confusion of ideas that such exposure can create.

Look at us! We’re “socially destructive” and expose children to “dangerous and radical views”! (That was a very quick trip to the “won’t someone think of the children” argument, wasn’t it?)

I have two points of contention with this review. First, what is with Mr. Cornswalled’s bewildering use of random capitalization? What the heck is up with capitalizing “Podcast” and “Homosexual”? When did podcasts and gays become proper nouns? Perhaps I should recommend Grammar Girl! Second, it’s considered proper netiquette to link to any online item you’re reviewing, even if you’re slamming it. I don’t particularly want to send traffic to this guy’s site, but I still provide the link so that readers can visit the site and read his writings themselves. Not providing links to blogs or podcasts you review is considered rude.

At any rate, considering this guy’s POV, I consider his words a rarin’ compliment. See, he also advises parents who discover their children listening to This American Life and even the squeaky-clean A Prairie Home Companion to “delete it if you see it.” Plus, he also makes the brilliant observation that Violet Blue’s Open Source Sex is “pornography.” OMG! You mean, she talks openly about SEX? Really? On a show called “Open Source Sex”? Um… yeah. Give him the Obvious Award!

Right-leaning Christians hate us. Polyamory Weekly has arrived! (Apologies to any Christian listeners–you know I love you guys and welcome your feedback, too. And no need to say “he doesn’t represent us.” I know.)

D’oh!

It’s really funny/tragic if you’re not poly, and a very nice grin if you are poly:

Poly Comic

Matisse’s New Control Tower

The smart and sexy Mistress Matisse’s latest column is on poly veto power.

Only it’s not. Not really. It’s really about jealousy, insecurity and communication. Her point is that if you communicate well and deal with your jealousy, you don’t really need a veto. which tends to be prone to backfiring when used, anyway. Or can use “veto” as more of a warning for a lover who has on the rose-tinted NRE goggles.

She and Twisted Monk were the first ones I heard use the phrase “don’t put your dick in a crazy” as their primary rule of polyamory. Simple. Elegant, even. :-) Love that rule!
And yes, sometimes it’s your partner’s job to point out that that cute ass and winning smile you’re gaga over are indeed bat-shit crazy. But that’s not so much a veto as a reality check, isn’t it?

Point is, you can’t wield veto like a weapon. You also can’t use it as a shield against your own insecurities. Her scenarios A and B are dead-on–what are you going to do, really, when you feel you need to wield the veto? Make it an ultimatum? Oh, yeah, everyone I know just LOVES those. And if you’re only wielding the veto because the new partner threatens you in some way, well, even if your partner doesn’t date that person, your insecurities are still there and will pop up the next time he/she tries to date someone prettier/more successful/smarter/in better shape than you.

Here’s a crazy idea: why not just communicate your doubts to your partner? Matisse gives a great example of stating concerns rather than wielding a veto. I bet you dollars to doughnuts it starts a conversation rather than ending it.

New blog author: J, our Poly Tech Geek

Hi! I’m J, and I’ve been editing PW for some time now, but I wanted to help out a bit more. I think I sound ridiculous on the podcast, thus I do the editing. ;) So I asked Minx if she would mind me doing a poly geek segment for the website, with maybe the occasional tie in on the podcast. She said it was a great idea.

So a bit about myself. I consider myself a neophile. And no, that doesn’t involve corpses. What that means is that I feel a compulsion to have the latest and greatest gadgets. I know; I know–boys and their toys. So I have been trying to figure out how to share some of my findings. Much to my chagrin, patient as my wife is with me, she doesn’t share mylust for technology. So here I am, out on the web, hoping to share what I’ve found along the way.

I’ve been working with Windows-based PCs for years, doing general support, system building, networking, etc. I’m starting to get into Linux more, with my present job and some projects at home. Mac, I can say, I haven’t had much recent experience with. In the following articles I am going to keep a vendor/service provider/OS neutral point of view. Enough of the rambling though.

So that’s me and where I’m coming from. I’m curious to know what everyone would be interested in these articles. What do you guys want to know about? If there are areas that I don’t have any experience in, I will find out about it and write the article from the “as I’m doing it” point of view.

Now I don’t want to start a flame war or the never-ending Mac vs. PC thread, but I definitely want to know what people use in the following categories, so I know what to cover:

  1. Computer OS
  2. PDA/Phones, ie Palm OS, Windows OS, something else
  3. Phone provider, ie Verizon/Sprint/T-Mobile/AT&T/Etc.

And I am going to try to keep the following format:

  • Poly application
  • Everyday usage
  • Geek factor
    • What do you think?

Poly Weekly #123: All my ex’s

The new Polyamory Weekly #123: All my ex’s is up! Direct download is here.

Subscribe now with iTunes one-click!

Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

3:00 Listener Feedback
Salamander loved the erotica on episode 121… except for two Siamese twin brothers kissing; regarding Poly Weekly #120 on toxic relationships, D’gou liked the reference to the Midwest Teen Sex Show; Van Halen leaves an audio comment on recognizing destructive patterns; he also recommends Type O Negative as poly-friendly; Minx reminds us of Gaia Consort; Ethernight reminds us to pay attention to what your friends think with respect to toxic relationships–Minx agrees that you should listen to all your friends and see what the consensus is

11:50 Topic: Poly as extended families
Do you think polyamory fills the need that many people have for extended families? Write us to comment on this topic for next week’s show!

12:30 My poly family
Earthwalker provides this great segment on summer vacation and the kids with his poly tribe!

17:30 Poly in Sci Fi
Copper wrote in to comment on an example of poly in sci fi from an episode based on a Harlan Ellison story

18:30 Topic: Dealing with Ex’s
Minx talks about the vagaries of dealing with dealing with your ex’s and ex-metamours at social events in the weeks and months after a breakup

25:45 Thanks!
Thanks for your donations, which have supported printing costs for postcards for several large conferences and for several poly groups.

27:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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