i think a promo video for a podcast is an ingenious idea.. but why make it all about breasts? and why utilize a sexual pop culture term like “boobiesexual”?
all we see in the promo are breasts, and a collar, and chainmail, and lingerie, and all we hear are “boobs” and sexual descriptors of boobs, minx’s name and “polyamory.” people immediately associate breasts with sex and sexuality, and so now they’re also associating sex and sexuality with minx and polyamory.
yes, sex sells. but if it’s not all about the sex, then why is it portrayed that way?
Um… because I coined the term “boobiesexual” as a way to break out of the limited het/bi/homo labels that effectively define so few of us.
And… um… because it’s fun. Remember fun?
so now they’re also associating sex and sexuality with minx and polyamory
As far as I’m aware, polyamorous people do have sex. They talk about it , even. And they celebrate it instead of fearing it and treating it as something to be ashamed of.
[sigh] There will be more promo videos with more poly-specific situations. But those take a budget, skill and time that one little Minx just doesn’t have right now. If you have an idea for a promo video you think would promote the show in a way you find positive, I’m all ears.
Send me an outline, script and storyboard, and the board of directors will take a look at it and see what we can do.
Seriously, PW is a community show. The overwhelming majority of responses to the lighthearted video have been positive, but I do take feedback seriously. If you’re up for contributing something better, please do!
My boobies are in there… YAYYYYYY!
my apologies for not getting back to you sooner! i didnt realise replies wouldnt be emailed. oops. i was also kind of upset that my response wasn’t read on the air (lots of positive feedback is always read), but since i didn’t catch that you’d at least responded by comment here, my apologies for that too.
i do remember fun. every day in fact, in my fun poly life that does actually have lots of sex. i’m certainly not ashamed of sex and am very sex-positive.
however, i’m also a realist, and with all of the negative press non-monogamy gets and all of the pro-abstinence out there shading everything the rightwingers see, i’m hesitant to say that the first video promos for a show that has had the unique position of being the absolute most popular form of discussion out there about polyamory (not even for podcasting, i’d say for any format– you’re international even!)– should be sexual in nature.
since polyweekly has such a unique position of truly being at the forefront of what i really think is the beginnings of a social movement, i think it’s important that while being bold and brazen does turn heads and get noticed, and showing that we’re fun and happy and not always serious makes us seem more “real”…. it’s important to stress that poly is about love and commitment and, as you say, “not all about the sex.”
my ideas? i’m not a visual-thinker. i fully admit i have no talent, but i’m happy to discuss ideas. while i think i’m good at deconstructing symbols and ideas and advertisements as a whole, i’m certainly no good at creating them from scratch. the only thing that comes to mind is something akin to some of the post secret videos out there… postcards/images/short descriptions relating to various poly families, or poly singles and what they’re looking for in a family or definitions of family.
Yeah, I did decide not to read the comments for this issue on the air. I felt it would become a “defend the Minx” show, and that didn’t really seem the best use of the air time. I made mention in passing, but I didn’t want to make this issue a Big Deal on the show.
The video isn’t 100% perfect. It’s not the absolute best representation of poly or or Poly Weekly even–it was a first attempt. I’m taking the feedback seriously and working hard to come up with an idea for future videos that would still be fun and YouTube-appropriate that might resonate with listeners a bit more.
the idea of a photo collage is a good one (and one of my first ideas), but I didnt’ think it would be compelling. Maybe with the right narration, it could have been better than I was envisioning.
At any rate, I would like to keep future videos fun and compelling, so keep an eye out. Thanks for your comments, Jennifer!