Another poly resource

If by “resource,” we can mean “personal opinions from those who are living their lives as poly and trying to make sense of it,” then this is a great resource: The Ordinary Extraordinary. Anna and Alan share their opinions, experiences and photos (politely divided into naked and clothed) about their poly lifestyle. Like the rest of us, they face misconceptions as well as some wonderful open poly experiences.

And they’re nice enough to share with the rest of us. Thanks, guys!

In Houston, TX

The Minx will be in Houston, TX this weekend visiting a friend. Any candidates for a meetup? And does anyone know of anything kinky going on this weekend?

In case it’s easier…

… here’s the YouTube version:



Living apart together

This article on a couple who are married with kids but who have different homes a la Diego Rivera and Frieda Kahlo are a new statistic: the bands of couples who choose to “live apart together” for various reasons.

As I read the article, their obstacles don’t seem all that insurmountable–different tastes in decorating styles, music, noise level, cleanliness. Frankly, it sounds to me like the types of differences couples and triads and quads have dealt with for ages.

But I think I missed the point on the first read. Remember what we’ve been talking about lately on Poly Weekly about construction our relationships and civil and emotional unions deliberately? That’s exactly what this couple did–sure, they probably could have smoothed out all the wrinkled and lived together, but why? Because everyone else does? Because it’s expected? Because that’s what married people do–share bathrooms and toothbrushes and complain about leaving the toilet seat up or down?

Good for them. Good for them for looking at marriage and a living arrangement as a choice rather than a given and actually deciding what works for them.

Boobiesexual promo video!

It’s here! The first promo video for Polyamory Weekly, soon to be posted on YouTube (once I figure out how).

If you like the video and want to help promote Poly Weekly, please post it to your blog with a link back here! Here’s the embed code (replace opening and closing [ with <):

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Poly Weekly #129: A Year and a Half In

The new Polyamory Weekly #129: A Year and a Half In is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #129

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

2:00 Interview: Max and Lorelei
Warning: this interview entails descriptions of a D/s relationship
Max and a naked Lorelei share with a naked Minx how they met; Lorelei shares how she found a place in an already busy poly household, which includes Mistress Matisse and Twisted Monk as well. Lorelei shares how they met and became Max’s service submissive in the household; 13:00 they address the “ripples” or adjustments that had to be made in the existing household to make room for Lorelei; 15:30 Max discusses that his new relationship was more threatening to his secondary partners than to Matisse because they felt they had less stability; time management; the No-Surprises rule; 22:40 Lorelei addresses the state of her current poly and how not bottoming to others for a while has expanded some of her BDSM skills; the value of having a supportive metamour like Mistress Matisse

29:00 Wrap-up
Thanks again to Max and Matisse for their hospitality; also to Monk and Freudian_slip for their hospitality as well!

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

Poly Weekly #128: Free Gift with New Purchase!

The new Polyamory Weekly #128: Free Gift with New Purchase! is up! Direct download is here.

Subscribe now with iTunes one-click!
Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments.

1:20 Announcements

  • Check out the new LiveJournal community, Poly_german for German-speaking polys
  • Loving More is hosting a one-day hotel seminar on November 3rd at the Clarion Airport in the Bay Area

3:30 Topic: Free Gift with New Purchase
Minx and Steve Eley discuss the idea of free gift with new purchase. You know, that great bonus gift you get when companies are trying to woo you–free cosmetic bag, cheap cable, low introductory interest rates on your credit card? How about not treating your old partner like your credit card company treats you–great stuff when you first sign up, but nothing special after they’ve “got” you. How about a reward for loyal, existing customers? How come just the new, NRE relationship gets all the goodies? Steve shares how he rewards his wife with bonus stuff when he starts a new relationship with someone else. In short, here’s how to keep your existing partner from feeling like and old cable customer while your new partner gets all the goodies. And Chore Wars? Yeah.

22:30 Listener Feedback: the Four-Year Itch
Grizzly audio comments that the first four are the basis relationship and the next two are to see if it will work after; Minx comments that it should be about making a deliberate relationship choice instead of “forever” being the default; Steve says there should always be a check-in feature to relationships; Laura asks why get married at all then?; Minx rants that there are many things that are worth enjoying in life that don’t last forever, including:

  1. Your childhood
  2. Your grandmother
  3. Christmas dinner with your family
  4. That great pizza you had last night
  5. Firefly
  6. The New York Marathon
  7. Mardi Gras
  8. The first snowfall of the year
  9. Flowers
  10. Boobs

38:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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