The new Polyamory Weekly #141: You’re Fat, redux is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #141
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.
2:00 Announcements & Promo stuff
- Don’t forget to check out the new Poly Weekly forums to sound off!
- Many Loves Seminar on February 16 at the Center on Halsted, Chicago, IL, $15
- I’ll be at Conflation, the Firefly-themed relax-a-con next weekend
- Review of the first meeting of the Poly Weekly book club! We decided to meet again next month to finish our discussion of Ravenscroft’s Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and the Hopeful next month, Wednesday, February 27th, at the Center on Halsted in Chicago, 6:00-9:00 p.m., on the second floor by the white couches
8:50 Topic: You’re Fat!, redux: How much honesty is too much honesty?
- First type of response: society is wrong (she shouldn’t have to lose the weight; he should still find her attractive; as a culture, we’re overweight)
- 17:30 Second type of response: try the indirect approach; use positive reinforcement (invite your partner on your walks
- 20:00 Third type of response: find out what’s at the root of the weight gain (depression, poor self-esteem) and address that; there is usually a reason people stop taking care of themselves; consider that this is affecting the sexual desire of both partners, not just the man;
- 26:00 Fourth type of response: if you have built trust with your partner, you can bring up any issue, even weight gain (if you have a history of bringing up difficult issues for the good of the relationship, your partner will have faith in you in this, too)
34:50 Wrap-up
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This website should be required reading for any conversation surrounding this issue:
“But Don’t You Realize Fat Is Unhealthy?”
I enjoyed the show and left a voice comment. But this one works better as a post. There is a great discussion of this exact topic here: http://laurietobyedison.com/discuss/?p=459 I’d recommend it highly.