Poly Weekly #155: Multiple O

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:04 Setup for the review
Minx and FencerT went to see “Multiple O”, a play playing in Madison’s Broom Street Theater based on the book The Ethical Slut by by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt.

2:45 Review of Multiple O
Minx discusses her impressions of the play along with some paticular scenes she wanted to call out. Some of the scenes were quite arousing, funny and sexy at the same time–quite unusual. However, the local Isthmus reviewer was not as impressed by the play. Some of the points the reviewer brought out were valid but “not sexy?!? Please! This play was hot as hell!

8:10 Interview with cast and crew of “Multiple O”
The cast discusses what brought them to doing this play and other issues around production.
17:30 John, the writer and director, talks about the inspiration for the play and some of the challenges in making it.
25:20 The cast discusses what they took away from being part of this play.

31:20 Cast controversy
The production of “Multiple O” hit some interesting snags. Minx investigates what caused some of the original cast members to leave the production.
32:13 Minx discusses the controversy around the safe sex and safe acting practices of the production, including snippets of an interview with Kimberly, an original cast member who left the show.
35:08 Wrap-up of the play with some praises and final criticisms.

36:05 Wrap up: The Wet Spots sing “I Want to Come”
We leave you with The Wet Spots singing “I Want To Come”.

SPECIAL THANKS to Raymond for putting together this week’s show notes!

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Poly Weekly Book Club meets WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 6:00 p.m.

Hello, all!

This month will be more of a munch, since most of us haven’t had time to order and read the book yet. But go ahead and order it, come this month, munch with us, and we’ll discuss the book next month!

The book: John Gottman’s The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work
When: WEDNESDAY, JUNE 4, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: The Center on Halsted, 2nd floor white couches

Also, The Mad Baker of Green Bay is taking requests for snacks–what yummies would you like for him to bake for us this time?

Also, I’d like to ask y’all a question. A documentary filmmaker from CurrentTV is doing a short documentary on how Poly Weekly is made. I’m toying with the idea of inviting him to this munch/book club meeting, mostly because I’d like the publicity for the Center on Halsted. However, I’d have to instruct him to keep the camera on me ONLY and not on the group at all. IF there were a camera there documenting the making of PW, would it deter you from coming? Would it hinder your participation?

Please be honest–I’d rather have a good munch than good footage. Thank you!

RSVP with subject line “Book Club” to cunningminx@gmail.com or reply here so I know to look for you. Thanks!

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Poly Weekly #154: Metamour Relations

The new Polyamory Weekly #154: Metamour Relations is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #154

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:00 Host Chat
Poly Weekly book club’s discussion of Eros, a Journey of Multiple Loves; hmmm why not start a PW movie club? And then we got derailed and began discussing today’s topic, metamour relations.

2:40 Announcement
Broom Street Theater in Madison, Wisconsin has put on a stage interpretation of The Ethical Slut, which runs through June 8th

3:00 Roundtable: Metamour Relations
Alan’s metamour not only spoke with him but loaned him instructive books; Chris and his family tend to meet people as friends first, anyway
5:30 What does “friend” level entail in the case of metamours
7:15 dealing with awkwardness of meeting metamours for the first time; forcing a friendship; openness, trust and respect is required, like in a business relationship
12:30 dealing with a metamour you don’t trust; Buffy and Faith as metamours finally finding a way to connect
18:00 how does a metamour come in to an existing dynamic? whose job is it to work on the weirdness?
23:00 communication styles
26:30 how can we make it easier on secondaries coming in? how much responsibility goes to the “hinge” between current and new partner
34:00 knowing how you want to be treated and communicating that; dealing with NRE and how much time/energy you put into it; knowing the existing partners’ dynamic

40:30 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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Poly Weekly #153: Listener Feedback Frenzy!

The new Polyamory Weekly #153: Listener Feedback Frenzy is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #153

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:00 Announcement

  • Broom Street Theater has just opened its run of Multiple O, based on The Ethical Slut, which runs through June 8th
  • 5:30 Listener Mail
    Amul comments on the poly roundtable from Conflation “you do the thing you’re scared of, and you get the courage after, not before”
    9:15 Chrysallis shares his coming-out story
    11:05 Steve Eley comments on the Sexy Shenanigans episode and historical non-monogamy about William Moulten
    13:00 Lea, a family therapist in California, asks about the connection between engineers/geeks/role-playing gamers and poly; if you need a poly-friendly therapist in California, visit First Street Therapy
    17:20 Jacob from Texas sends in Torchwood spank for the Minx!
    18:40 BravoTango and bringing “metamour” to the community; why no one wants to discuss polygyny and polyandry
    23:55 Feedback on #150: Five Places to Meet Poly People

    • Nobilis agrees on being friendworthy before dateworthy; met his first poly family in the SCA
    • Adam mentions Snuggle Parties and trance dance events as places to meet people, including LoveTribe
    • Quidis adds swing parties to the list

    32:35 Jacob from Texas comments on Graydancer’s reading of “Pressure” for Escape Pod and my own reading for Podcastle, “For Fear of Dragons“; this gives me a chance to pimp out both podcasts–Escape Pod for science fiction and Podcastle for fantasy; I also just did a reading for Pseudopod, the horror podcast
    39:50 Jamie in Mississippi says it’s illegal to start up a poly group there!
    41:50 Bubba wrote in to ask about poly seniors
    44:00 Helen Fisher spoke on love and monogamy again at TED; download the video here

    45:15 Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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    Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

    Poly Weekly #152: Trans Like Me!

    The new Polyamory Weekly #152: Trans Like Me! is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #152

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    0:00 Introduction and host chat
    Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

    1:00 Host Chat
    A Cunning Minx freshly back from Sex 2.0 relishes the memories of the conference! Rachel Kramer Bussel, eroticist and cupcake whore, was a delight; Regina Lynn from Wired; Audacia Ray, vixen extraordinaire and Melissa Gira made it amazing!

    My first session was on sacred sexuality; Elizabeth Wood’s session on creating a sex-positive commons online was a great discussion; my own seminar on “Poly Pervs Like Me: Where Are They Hiding?” was packed full; Regina Lynn’s session on the history of cybersex was hysterical and enlightening; the last session of the day was Viviane of Viviane’s Sex Carnival with tons of great online tools

    Plus, I learned that I’m too old to be a pole dancer!

    8:00 Interview: Trans Like Me: Benny
    Joanie had asked about transitioning from being a woman’s husband to being her wife and wanted to know about being poly and transgendered
    9:30 Introduction: Benny is 26 and has been thinking about transitioning from a young age; kinky and pansexual for a long time
    11:00 labels in the trans community
    13:00 when and how it’s OK to ask what the transgendered story is; only OK to ask about genitals if the person is a potential partner
    18:20 prejudice within the poly community
    23:00 poly and kinky overlap; etiquette with trans folks in the poly community
    28:00 using the wrong pronoun; rude outings
    Check out his podcast, Young and Kinky on the 18-35-age kinksters

    33:45 Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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    Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

    Poly Weekly #151: Can you love two at once?

    The new Polyamory Weekly #151: Can You Love Two at Once is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #151

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    Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

    0:00 Introduction and host chat
    Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

    1:30 Host Chat
    Looking forward to Sex 2.0 conference; introducing Alan’s segment from the Poly Living conference

    3:30 Topic: Can you love two at once?
    This stems from a Dear Abby question from a woman who says she is in love with two people at once and wonders if that is possible–just asking the question in this way shows progress. And Abby’s response isn’t too bad–she begins by saying that you can love two people for different reasons. She then shows her monogamous bias, but the openness with which the question is addressed shows a marked difference from past responses.

    7:50 Report: Poly Living Conference
    Alan of the Poly in the Media blog took a voice recorder to the Poly Living conference and brought us along for the ride!
    9:00 Anita Wagner discusses her workshop on jealousy; she recommends communication, education and owning one’s own jealousy
    11:20 Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio discusses her workshop on bisexuality; Alan asks about being “bisensual” or “bi-intimate” without being bisexual
    14:45 Michel Z talks about being more honest in relationships and when not to be 100% honest
    16:15 C.T. Butler discusses the consensus decision-making process as a formal model for decision-making within a poly family; cooperation rather than competition
    18:30 Deborah Anapol, the conference’s keynote speaker, points out that we need to live outside our conditioning and take charge of our own relationship decisions
    Alan applauds that Loving More stepped in to take over the conference after George Marvil’s death–quit giving to the tobacco corporations, go to PolyLiving.org for next year’s conference; check LovingMore for their east and west coast retreats in the meatime

    21:15 Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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    Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

    Poly Weekly #150: Five Places to Meet Poly People

    The new Polyamory Weekly #150: Five Places to Meet Poly People is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #150

    Subscribe now with iTunes one-click!
    Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

    0:00 Introduction and host chat
    Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

    2:00 Host Chat
    Review of the Poly Weekly Book Club that discussed Anapol’s Polyamory: the New Love Without Limits

    5:45 Five Places to Meet Poly People
    This stemmed from the book club discussion–when Anapol’s book was written, poly people used to have to place ads and interview potential tribe members. We should all consider ourselves damn lucky that we have come into polyamory during the age of the marvelous interwebz, when we can easily Google “polyamory” and find definitions, explanations, how-to’s and groups that meet in real life to find like-minded folks.

    First, look for groups in your area. Look first for like-minded folks in a support network in your area, not just potential partners to date. It will be difficult to find poly partners if you’re not out as poly to some extent. Be brave and meet other poly people first, before looking for sexual partners. Then…

    1. Use the internet to find poly meetup groups in your area. Go and meet people and ask questions.
    2. Science fiction conventions. Seriously, guys, there’s something about exploring alternative realities that makes sci-fi geeks poly-friendly. If you’re not brave enough to go to a convention, go to Meetup.com and do a search in your area for whatever your specific taste of sci-fi geekery might be.
    3. BDSM and kink events. Kinky people tend to be familiar with non-monogamy, probably because negotiating the fulfillment of someone’s fetish outside a relationship isn’t all that uncommon.
    4. Pagan circles and events. Drumming circles, pagan events, Burning Man, trance events–these are all alternative spiritualities and will have poly- and poly-friendly folks in them. But please, don’t fake interest in this type of spirituality just to find poly people.
    5. Renaissance faires and SCA events. Not quite sure why, but medieval re-enacters and rennies tend to be open to polyamory. Maybe it’s the costuming? Men in kilts?

    23:30 Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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    Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

    Multiple O: a play based on The Ethical Slut

    Ever wonder what it would be like if The Ethical Slut were a narrative story, like a play? Writer/director John Sable has created a live theater version of this poly classic, now playing at Madison’s Broom Street Theater, May 2-June 8, 2008.

    The synopsis:
    Multiple O flier
    Carol and Chris are the typical middle-class urban couple. They’re married. They’re in love. The each have a girlfriend on the side.

    Adapted from “The Ethical Slut” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, Multiple O tells the story of one couple’s mis-adventures as they learned how to create a healthy non-monogamous lifestyle the hard way – by making every mistake in the book.

    This show contains significant amounts of nudity and sexual content. No one under 18 will be admitted.

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