Poly Weekly #157 RTFM!

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

0:58 Announcements!

  • poly book club in chicago
  • Documentary maker from Current TV wants to make a documentary on Poly Weekly
    • He is going to the book club. If that bothers anybody let minx know.
  • Chicago, Jun 13th 7:30pm. Tristan Tarimino the writer of “Opening Up” is reading and hosting a discussion at Women and Children 1st in Chicago. Minx is trying to get a group together beforehand for dinner.

4:15 The Topic!! Let’s make a Manual for ourselves!
Mickey from Livejournal wrote a “dating” cv.  She created her own catagories that were more specific to her.  Minx really like this idea and used it as a jumping board to making her own manual.

6:25 everybody should write their own user manual.  This lets people know how to treat you.

6:55 Minx discusses her user manual.  (I have to admit, I would probably have taken very detailed notes here even if this wasn’t my job! – FS)

7:05 How to turn on The Minx emotionally.

8:20 How to turn the Minx on sexually.  (WOW – FS)

9:33 How to fuck up a relationship with the Minx

11:05 How to deepen a relationship with the Minx

13:00 Minx discusses her Frequently Asked Questions (Minx’s FAQ).  These are common questions you might have during your relationship with The Minx.

13:44 An interesting one. “What do I do when you cry?”  Hold her you idiot!! (I guess the tact of staring at you like an alien doesn’t work – FS)

17:00 ask Minx what should be added to her FAQ or send in your own FAQ.  In fact, take it to the forum.

17:45 Alan brings us another “Polyamory in the news.”

18:02 THe June issues of Redbook, Glamour, and Marie Claire all have some great, positive articles that includes polyamory.

19:24 Lot’s of books coming out.  Pete Benson’s “The Poly Handbook”, Jenny Block “Open”, Tristan Taramino “Opening Up”.

20:40 Both Jenny and Tristan are doing book tours across the United States. (If you happen to be in the seattle area Jenny is doing another reading this Sunday at the SPCC sexpositiveculture.org – RF)

20:48 Andrea Zanan has the cover story of “Capital Xtra” in Ottowa.  She will be featured at POlycamp Ontario.

21:15 EénVandaag got an 8 minute TV segment to discuss the polyamory lifestyle.

21:55 Belise Arainage comes out for honest and open relationships

22:04 Loving More Magazine is back!

Check out the Poly Weekly in the News website.

32:01 Start a blook club in your area.  There are so many books to choose from.

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Chicago Many Loves and Milwaukee Non-Monogamy Workshop

Two big events!

First, the Chicago Many Loves seminar is this Saturday, June 14th!
A continuing series designed to provide a supportive and safe environment for people to explore issues of non-monogamous practice and identity. Topics for this month are two very different but often related topics, “Poly Community” and “Poly Cheating.” Open to adults age 18 and older who either practice or are curious about non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamory.

Held Saturday, June 14th, from 10AM to 1PM at Center on Halsted (3656 North Halsted, Chicago, IL 60613). Please contact David Rodemaker at 773.472.6643 x472 or drodemaker@hoursinc.com for more details. Come to the second floor reception area and check in there. $15 fee. Space is limited; RSVP appreciated but not required.

Second, Negotiating Non-Monogamy is back!
Location: Milwaukee A Woman’s Touch
Date/Time: Saturday, July 12th, 1:00 – 2:30 PM
Cost: $35 per person; everyone over 18 welcome.

Open marriage, swinging, polyamory, oh, my! These days, more and more couples are choosing non-monogamy for their own intimate relationships. But the path from monogamy to an open marriage, a swinger lifestyle or polyamory can be a tricky one if you’re not aware of the pitfalls you might hit along the way and the discussions that you and your partner need to have in order to avoid them. Plus, those Hot Bi Babes are just a myth, anyway–they don’t actually exist. Like unicorns.

So forget the unicorns and join Minx for a fun and frank discussion of how to negotiate new boundaries–and discover the joy and intimacy non-monogamy can bring to your existing relationship.

Minx is host of the popular Polyamory Weekly podcast, now with over 150 weekly episodes, and has spoken on topics relating to multiple loves at the Heartland Polyamory Conference, GD2 and other events. Her work has been featured on Podfinder, ErosZine and Penthouse Forum, and she currently hosts a poly book club in Chicago. Plus, Janet Hardy once complimented her ass. To register, visit A Woman’s Touch.

Poly Weekly #156 Practical Polyamory with Tacit

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:34 Introduction of our guest!
Tacit Franklin Veaux from http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html is working on a book proposal for a practical guide on dealing with poly. Minx sits down with him in Atlanta to talk about his new project.

2:00 Interviewing Tacit
Minx and Tacit are outside enjoying the fresh air of Atlanta. It took Tacit about 15 minutes to get the request for a proposal!

3:14 Tacit puts the request out for people to contact him with their great stories. He would love to hear from people who are really succesful or who have made mistakes and worked through them. You can mail him at tacitr@aol.com (Yeah, I know. I was thinking the same thing. AOL? Really? – FS)

4:20 Some interesting topics in Tacit’s book we might not have seen in other books. He plans on having a practical how-to guide outside of the other subcultures (e.g. paganism, bdsm). Also, poly/mono relationships and poly relationships that aren’t based on a core “couple.”

8:20 (Man, is it loud out there! :) – FS)

8:45 What happens if our partner compares us to the other people? How do we not let that bother us?

10:15 Great story about Minx’s sex life. Pretty hot!

12:37 NRE shouldn’t totally make your brains dribble out your ears!

14:00 How does trust and faith play into this? To Tacit, faith implies a lack of evidence.

16:20 Minx attempts to drag teasers out of Tacit. He mentions a chapter on common Poly mistakes

17:00 Tacit outed himself to his hairdresser who thought poly was ok because “all men cheat anyway!” He delicately let the conversation drop.

18:25 Media liked to present poly like what the hairdresser thought. Fortunately, that is changing.

19:30 Minx puts a call out to the Religious Right to persecute her! and um, something about having sex with goats….

20:08 It would appear Tacit gets around… Thanks for the interview Tacit! You can hear Tacit again on episode #116.

22:38 Another thanks to Tacit. A very tired Minx is getting ready for Shibaricon where she won’t be too “tied up” (Get it! Tied up! HAHA! erm, anyway – FS) to do some interviews while there.

SPECIAL THANKS to Raymond for putting together this week’s show notes! (That’s me btw – FS)

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Review of Astro Vibe

Review of Astro Ride

First, the basics: Astro Ride is the first toy from Adam and Eve that I got to try. It’s a ribbed, flexible, waterproof anal vibrator, and it looks like this:

OK, now the fun begins! We first tried inserting it just by itself, but it’s a bit big at the tip, so we prepped the ass with a few fingers and a more tapered anal toy first. Once this puppy was in, however… I think the immediate response was, “OK. New. Favorite. Toy!” The vibrations are positively ecstatic and unlike anything I’d felt before. Why did it take me so long to get a vibrating anal toy?? But just for fun, we paired it with a vaginal vibrator as well. Turns out that was a bit too much stimulation, so we switched strategies. I was curious was his experience would be, so we left the Astro Ride in (yay for me!) and tried some good, old-fashioned PIV sex.

The hardest part was figuring out the best position. Since the Astro Ride doesn’t have a flared base, it can be a bit tough to keep inside and a-vibin’ in some sexual positions. We tried girl on top first, which was a bit awkward until I leaned in closer to him, which gave him a delightful sensation. His response was something like “Wow wow wow wow wow,” I believe. :-)

Next up was missionary, which worked the best. I didn’t have to worry about the Astro Ride falling out, and he had control of his own penetration, which he ended up doing shallower than usual to take advantage of the ring of vibey goodness being transmitted through my urethral sponge. His response? “I think if you were a gay man, this would be a slice of heaven!” Mine? This is one of the most relaxing toys I’ve experienced.

“People say you need to take the stick out of your butt. I think that you need to get the stick in your butt and vibrating.” Soooo relaxing; it was better than a massage!

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