Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory

This week’s Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

You can help build episode 200!
Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

Announcements
Poly dating on OK cupid
This American Life #374: Somewhere Out There

Topic: 12 Pillars of Polyamory
From Ken Haslam’s talk at New York PolyPride

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

First Chicago Pleasure Salon

Hey, all!

The meeting of the first Chicago Pleasure Salon will be Tuesday, April 7th, Villain’s at 649 S Clark St, Chicago, 6:00-10:00 p.m.

If you’re sex positive and want to meet other SP types, come on out!

All My Love opens in Chicago

All My Love, a new theatrical presentation about the perils and pitfalls of open romantic relationships, written by and starring Artistic Director Tony Fiorentino. All My Love is a smart, fun and thoughtful look into the world of polyamory and is the fifth production presented by Diamante Productions. All My Love is now open and runs through Sunday, May 10 at the Theatre Building Chicago, 1225 W. Belmont Ave. Performances are Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays at 8 p.m. and Sundays at 3:30 p.m.

The play follows middle-aged divorcée Ellen, as she explores the world of open relationships. While juggling multiple men, she must temper the jealous passions of her primary lover, Jack, while teaching her twin daughters, Abby and Lynn, the meaning of love through the prism of polyamory. The play takes an interesting turn when Jake decides to seek his own romantic opportunities within their alternative lifestyle, threatening Ellen with the competition of a younger rival. All My Love is a critique of Western society’s most cherished notions of love, monogamy, and marriage.

All My Love is offering $10 off all tickets when a group of ten or more people buy tickets to a single performance. To reserve your group today call 773.327.5252 and mention the code “POLY GROUPS” when purchasing ten or more tickets.

Review: Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage

Yes, adult product reviews are BACK, along with our sponsor, AdamEve.com (and a special discount with coupon checkout code “Minx”)!

Can’t afford to go out in this economy? Cheaper to stay in and have some good, old-fashioned carnal fun. If you’ve been wanting to try bondage, Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage is a great place to start. First, Nina just rocks–she’s a talented and respected educator who isn’t just making videos for a quick buck; she’s genuinely part of the kink scene.

Also, she looks great in black latex.

The DVD breaks down into three main sections with a postlude. The first 18 minutes are the bondage discussion, in which Nina and the lovely Carmen Luvana (hot blond from the cover) talk about what you need to know and discuss before you dive into tying up your loved one. They cover the “why” of bondage–remember how much fun it was to play Cowboys and Indians when you were kids? Or Pirate Ship? The thrill of the chase and capture can be a lot of fun. And then Nina walks us through the negotiation process in detail, covering basic trust, past issues that might come up, physical limitations, and the nature of consent. As Nina points out, “consent is a continually renewing contract that doesn’t stop the first time someone says yes.”

Next, the lovely ladies cover safety, including the availability and use of safety shears and the use of common safewords such as green, yellow and red. Next up is basic principles of anatomy–tie wrists first, not ankles, what to tie them to, what to do when they struggle. In short, a pretty fun yet educational discussion.

DON’T SKIP THAT PART! The opening discussion is a great place to start and will make the porn much more fun to watch after!

Demo 1: Nina Hartley restrains Randy Spears
This segment starts about 18 minutes in and is delightful if you’re a woman looking to restrain your man. Nina starts with a sensible and sexy negotiation on the bed before slapping Randy in restraints and teasing him with her ass, hands, feet and mouth. (BTW, I love how Nina giggles, with a gleeful “hee HEE!”) Next, she walks through anal prep and penetration on herself. Man, is it nice to see a woman enjoying anal sex!

Demo 2: Nina and Carmen Luvana with Tommy Gunn
This segment begins about 50 minutes in. The cute bombshell Carmen Luvana, clad elegantly in powder-blue latex, cuffs on herself; then Tommy shows up to collar her. I have to say that the white shoes, cuffs, collar and flogger weren’t appealing to me; call me old-fashioned, but I like basic black. Still, the scene could be great for beginners who want to look cute in bondage. The best scene by far was with Carmen’s hands tightly harnessed behind her as she went down on Tommy (and he seemed to enjoy it, too!) And Carmen is just adorable when she occasionally exclaims in Spanish; co cute!

The video closes with a postlude–a reminder to focus on consent, communication and safety first. As Nina says, “the quality of your experience will be determined by the honesty and intimacy of your relationship”–so communicate first for hotter, kinky sex!

Poly Weekly #197: Monogamy at Poly Living

This week’s Poly Weekly #197: Monogamy at Poly Living.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

You can help build episode 200!
Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

Interview: Gini and Lauren, monogamists at Poly Living
Gini and Lauren share their experiences at monogamous documentors of Poly Living 2009.

4:20 Minx Interviews Jenny Trask and Lauren
Jenny and Lauren are monogamous at the poly living conference. Minx talks to them to get their impressions of the conference.

Minx talks about lessons learned with Jenny and Lauren. Jenny talks about how the skills necessary for poly relationship are very much like what you need for monogamous relationships. Jenny also brought up the jealousy workshop and how much they enjoyed it.

Lauren talked about learning from the interviews and one on one discussions.

Minx asks Jenny about her sisters, Robin.

Lauren talks about the filming process and what they have been shooting.

Discussion moves to challenges in monogamy.

21:00 Minx wraps up her experiences of Conflation

25:00 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
a listener wrote in with an awesome story of of a marriage ceremony between 3 lovers.

26:30 Listener Feedback
Tara called in about episode 146.

PolyOldFart wrote in about Tacit’s interview. POF mentions that sometimes being honest about your ex isn’t always trashing, it is necessary.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly #196: Jealousy roundtable

This week’s Poly Weekly #196: Jealousy roundtable.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:00 Pre-Discussion
Minx introduces Gabriel and they have a short discussion about Conflation.

9:05 Poly Round Table from Conflation
and we begin the jealousy discussion; moving to the nature and origin of jealousy; minx takes it back to the steampunk vibrator.

22:50 Minx and Gabriel discuss what to expect on the next episode.

24:20 Listener Feedback

GeekFox comments on episode 193 that sometimes, ex’es really are just jerks.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly #195: Steampunk polyamory!

This week’s Poly Weekly #195: Victorian (steampunk) polyamory!.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:33 Discussion: Victorian/Steampunk polyamory!
Victorian poly roundtable discussion from Conflation. Skunk begins the discussion talking about women’s place in society. Minx then asks the panel what contraceptives were used; hysteria and the common cures; Alex brings up famous open relationships and others are brought up by the group; lack of poly fiction; Heinlein

25:50 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Poly Manners takes a question about how to approach somebody already in a current relationship.

30:40 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Vicki from Facebook shares a great experience over dinner.

32:30 Listener Feedback
Charlene wrote in about episode 192.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly Book Club meets Wednesday, April 1st

Difficult Conversations

What: Stone’s Difficult Conversations
When: Wednesday, April 1st, 6:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
Where: Lidos Caffe, 122 N. Marion Street, Oak Park, IL
What: hearty discussion of relationships among poly and poly-friendly folks

Please RSVP so we know to look for you–we usually meet in the back room. See y’all there!

Poly Weekly #194: How to Have a Happy Relationship, Pt. 2

This week Poly Weekly #194: How to Have a Happy Relationship, Part 2.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements
Clarisse Thorn‘s Sex Positive film series is still going strong; upcoming events:

  • Tuesday March 3, 7.30 PM: Cheap Sex workshop at Early to Bed — $15, or $10 for students and low-income
  • Tuesday March 10, 7 PM: “BDSM: It’s Not What You Think!” and other short S&M documentaries at Sex+++

4:05 Further relationship musings with Tacit
Minx asks how to learn from the ending of a relationship; Minx and Tacit talk about honesty in your relationship;
(minx is way hot with the glasses…-fs)
Minx talks about how we present ourselves; Minx asks Tacit for further observations since he wrote his article; Tacit brings up how some people have legitimate reasons for not fully coming out with everything about themselves. Tacit talks about how important it is to be honest with the person you are forming stronger relationships with. If you are dating somebody, you should tell them you are poly. Minx and Tacit talk about methods of broaching being poly with potential dates.

20:30 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Goose wrote in with a happy valentine moment.

22:00 Listener Feedback
Amul wrote in and ranted about his friends who do not understand polyamory.

A caller talks about episode 164 and how relationships are measured as succesful.

Lorin wrote in about episode 191, feast of love. He tells a story about his break up.

Galahad also wrote in about episode 191.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Living Keynote: audio + slides

For the curious, the audio plus sides posting is on SlideShare as well; here is the QuickTime version (bit wonky, but the best I could do in the airport):

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