Sex 2.0: Out: the challenges and rewards of being sex-positive

GraydancerFrom Graydancer‘s session at Sex 2.0:

  • “When you come out, you make yourself vulnerable to disapproval, criticism, and discrimination.” -Pat Califia
  • Coming out to partner/children: lead your children down a critical thinking path to determine where prejudices and biases come from
  • Downside of coming out to children: you become a resource for thing like anal sex
  • Best response from a family member: “I don’t approve of it, but I can see why you do it.”
  • Worst response from a family member: “You’re dumb.”
  • Tip: have at least one token vanilla friend
  • Great case study of someone who was out at work: Jack McGeorge, the openly kinky weapons inspector. When opponents tried to discredit him, his boss Hans Blix stood up for him and refused to accept his resignation
  • YKIOK = “your kink is OK”–a response Graydancer got when he came out at work
  • Others benefit from your living out loud: if someone has come out to a person before, it’s more likely that person will be more accepting/familiar with the idea the next time
  • What catalyzes change? Pride, self-esteem, self-disclosure
  • Sex-negative=don’t do anything to be ashamed of. Sex-positive: don’t be ashamed of the things you do

Sex 2.0: The new sex educators

Ducky DoolittleNotes from Ducky Dolittle’s session at Sex 2.0:

  • Ducky started doing peep shows on 42nd Street and spent a lot of time being ashamed of her work. Then she met Annie Sprinkle and decided to become an educator. Got her GED and set out to create an army of sex educators to invade the world.
  • Ducky talks money: sex educators need to talk to each other to compare notes on what and how they were paid for certain gigs and share notes about the most reliable clients
  • It’s on sex educators to create a standard that others can look up to: we need accreditation
  • The trials of choosing a sponsor–we need to get paid for our speaking (and no one makes money from a book) but we don’t always get to choose each toy that the sponsors promote. What do you think of Sue Johanson or Dr. Ruth? The point: have a critical eye to content and talk to other educators.
  • Dr. Ruth still maintains a private practice three days a week–very few can make a full-time salary as a sex educator
  • “The number one way we learn anything in life is through gossip.” We all have the ability to be great sex educators if we take the time to listen to others.
  • Who is your favorite sex educator and why? Answering these questions will help guide your path as a sex educator. Who came up in the session as fave educators: Heather Corinna, Betty Dodson, Dan Savage

Poly Living Conference coming to Seattle October 2010

From Loving More:

This October Loving More is thrilled to announce for the first time Loving More® will holding a
major polyamory relationship conference in SEATTLE WASHINGTON! Loving More is excited to bring this wonderful conference to an equally wonderful part of the country.

The PolyLiving Conference features a range of informative workshops from basic to advanced and from intellectual to experiential, covering topics both fun and serious.

Poly Living, orginally founded by the late George Marvil, is a place to learn relationship skills that support healthy polyamorous realationships.

  • Friday night Keynote,Concert and Reception
  • Saturday to Sunday- 18 Amazing workshops by nationally known polyamory facilitators
  • Saturday Luncheon

Click here for pricing and details

Featuring in Concert Friday Night Bone Poets Orchestra
Bone Poets Orchestra (formally known as Gaia Consort) will be preforming in concert Friday following the keynote. Psychedelic Steampunk in the tradition of Jethro Tull, Pink Floyd and other hallucinogenic masters.

Sex 2.0: Seattle, May 22-23

SEATTLE – Sex 2.0 celebrates its third year May 22-23, 2010, in Seattle, Washington, at the Quality Inn. For the first time, the conference is heading to the West Coast and expanding across an entire weekend, attracting local and national influencers, entrepreneurs and enthusiasts who are defining the future of sex and technology.

Sex 2.0 focuses on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks — or both? These questions, and many more, are addressed within a safe, welcoming, sex positive space.

Topics this year include building your sex positive presence online, using the internet to connect with people as a sex coach or educator, participatory community organizing for social and sexual freedom, the new sex educators, and more. There will be panels on new media, distance sex work, and using the internet to improve the sex industry.

Featuring certified sexologist and author of Sex Secrets of Escorts: Tips From a Pro, Veronica Monet, as the keynote speaker and a discussion leader. Other session leaders include educator, writer, and founder of Cuddle Parties, Reid Mihalko; executive director of the Center and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, Allena Gabosch; world-premiere rope bondage podcaster, author and activist Graydancer; president of Love U Parties, author, sex educator and activist, Ducky Doolittle; author, high priestess, and founder of Temple of the Red Lotus, Inara de Luna; sex advice podcaster Dr. Dick (Richard Wagner), Ph.D., ACS; and many more.

The conference welcomes all sex positive individuals 18+, the GLBTQ, poly, kinky, sex workers, podcasters, eroticists, activists and more. At Sex 2.0, everyone is a participant, rather than a passive attendee, joining conversations rather than listening to presentations. Respecting the confidentiality and protecting the identities of participants who wish to maintain a degree of anonymity is a top priority at Sex 2.0.

Profits will go to the Northwest chapter of the Sex Workers Outreach Project, which is dedicated to the fundamental human rights of sex workers and their communities, focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy, and to the event producer, the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture.

Advance registration is mandatory, given the relatively sensitive nature of this event. Registration is open and tickets are $50 until May 19 or tickets sell out.

The conference is being held at the Quality Inn at 618 John St., in the heart of Seattle beside the famous Space Needle and Seattle Center. It officially runs from 9 a.m. Saturday to 4 p.m. Sunday, with parties on Friday and Sunday.

Learn more about the event and register at www.sex20con.com.

Sex 2.0 is being produced and sponsored by Seattle’s Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that promotes the many ways sex is beneficial through education, outreach, the arts, advocacy, and research programs that serve the public.

Poly Weekly 237: Personal Growth with Steve Pavlina

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Poly Weekly iPhone app with PDF show notes and audio extras is available now!
  • Sex 2.0 is May 22-23 in Seattle! Just $50 now and open to anyone sex-positive.
  • Open Love NY has its next meeting April 27. For upcoming events, check out their Facebook group.

  • PolyCharms.com has some lovely poly-friendly jewelry
  • Ready to be a representative and spokesperson for polyamory to the press? Check out the Poly Media Association first for tips and training on dealing with the media and representing well.

Interview: Steve Pavlina
A talk with Steve Pavlina, personal growth guru, on his poly explorations, his coming out as poly on his blog, his pending divorce and the public reaction to it all

Happy Poly Moment
From Malx–taking care of a partner on a business trip

Feedback
From Sean on Poly Weekly 233: What is sex?

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 236: Will the gays get there before the polys?

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Topic: From Dear Margo
A quick commentary on a Dear Margo reader response: will the gays get there before the polys and why

Happy Poly Moment
From Christoforo: a happy poly square
From Clover: men in kilts bonding over heavy weapons, just to make me jealous

Feedback

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Wrap-up
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