Poly Weekly 243: Time for Poly Camp!

Quintus shares tales from the front of poly organizing and the secrets of what Poly Camp is really like

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • PolyCamp 2010 is August 26-29 Millersylvania state park with classes for people new to poly and discussion groups for those of us who have been around awhile, artistic workshops/classes, spiritual workshops, tribal interests (drumming and belly dancing), music and dancing, and more!
  • Poly Family Weekend is Sept. 17-19 at the Atlanta Airport Crowne Plaza with guests Jessica Karels, Simon Deacon and yours truly!
  • Shine, a Burlesque Musical is in Seattle, July 8-18 at the Theater off Jackson. Not only is this a sex-positive musical, it is a poly-positive musical. From some of the promo materials: “Count on the Wet Spots to twist the old love triangle story arc into some beautiful new poly-friendly configurations. Sort of like a macrame wall hanging. Made of sex!” Follow them on Twitter and join the Facebook page.

Interview: Quintus demystifies Poly Camp
Quintus (who by the way is quite hot) joined us to talk about what Poly Camp will be like in August and also about his own poly family

Feedback

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 242: Jessica Karels Talks Modern Poly

Jessica Karels shares the secret of founding and running Modern Poly

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • PolyCamp 2010 is August 26-29 Millersylvania state park with classes for people new to poly and discussion groups for those of us who have been around awhile, artistic workshops/classes, spiritual workshops, tribal interests (drumming and belly dancing), music and dancing, and more!
  • Poly Family Weekend is Sept. 17-19 at the Atlanta Airport Crowne Plaza with guests Jessica Karels, Simon Deacon and yours truly!

Interview: Jessica Karels of Modern Poly
Jessica Karels took time out of her busy schedule at Sex 2.0 to chat with us about poly activism, poly leadership and Modern Poly

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 241: Kink on Tap

MayMay and Emma of Kink on Tap give away a Poly Camp Too weekend

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • If you’d like to pitch in for my airfare to emcee the event, visit the tip jar at http://www.polyweekly.com–and thanks to Mark, Alan, Chris and XX for the donations so far!
  • Twitter or email polyweekly@gmail.com if you’d like to beta test the Android app. Use subject header “Android app”—thank you!

Interview: MayMay and Emma of Kink on Tap
MayMay and Emma offer to give away a prize: two tickets to PolyCamp Too for July 9-12 near Vancouver. To enter, visit and leave a comment saying why you want to go to this great poly camping event BEFORE June 21, and you’ll be entered to win!

MayMay and Emma host Kink on Tap, a podcast recorded live every Sunday evening and covering topics relating to sexual freedom, sexual moeurs and the sex-positive community.

Vagazzling: pro or con?

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 240: JD Sawyer Counts Down from Ten

Podcast novelist J.D. Sawyer shares his mojo surrounding his country house mystery podcast novel, Down from Ten.

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • If you’d like to pitch in for my airfare to emcee the event, visit the tip jar at www.polyweekly.com–and thanks to AW for the first donation!

Interview: J. D. Sawyer
J.D. Sawyer, podcast novelist extraordinaire, talks about the hot sex… um… “poly themes” in his country house mystery podcast novel, Down from Ten.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 239: Poly teenager Josh

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Sex 2.0 was May 22-23 in Seattle. Stay tuned to hear the Media Whoring panel
  • Contact the Poly Media Association for tips before speaking to the media about poly; email info@polymediaassocation.com

Interview: being a poly teenager
Josh, now 20, talks with Joreth and Minx about what it was like to explore and identify as polyamorous as a teenager (blame it on Heinlein).

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 238: Happy Poly Moments

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

User-generated audio: Happy Poly Moments

  • Jacob from Texas wants to know if there is a term for metamours getting along well
  • Benny shares a Happy Poly Moment
  • Tom asks about organizing an LLC
  • Wolfsbane shares a Highlander-oriented Happy Poly Moment
  • Comments on Poly Weekly 228 on atheism
  • Graydancer’s Happy Poly Moment
  • John on non-verbal communication
  • Leaky_Pen calling live from a Happy Poly Moment!
  • Correction to Poly Weekly 236 on the Family

Feedback

  • Darin on Eharmony and poly
  • Niko on monogamy/cheating

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Win a PolyCamp Too weekend!

How long has it been since Poly Weekly has given away a prize? Forever!

Now, thanks to the generosity of MayMay and Emma, you can win a weekend for two at Polycamp Too in Nainaimo, B.C., Canada, July 9-12.

Theme of Weekend: The Polyamorist’s Tool Kit

Friday July 9 (check in anytime after 2:00pm) to Mon July 12 (check out 11:00 am)
Location: Living Forest RV & Campgrounds, Nanaimo, BC

There will be workshop sessions, children & youth activities, a house concert, and a Poetry Slam (author’s reading) this year! There are only 25 campsites available in our group camping area. There’s running water, electricity and WiFi. There is a group shelter area where most events will be held. It’s a great time every year – don’t miss out!!

Want to win a pair of tickets to this weekend, a $170 value? Just write a comment below saying why you think you should be the one to go. We’ll draw a winner from the entries on MONDAY JUNE 21, so be sure to post your winning comment by then!

Lessons learned at ShibariCon

This year, ShibariCon was a fantastically exhausting experience! I almost didn’t go–too much work to do, and too many mundane tasks relating to some real estate I still own in the area. Grudgingly, I admitted that OK, I’ve committed to volunteer; of course I’ll go. But I won’t have fun.

And when I arrived, something changed. All the alienation I’d been feeling due to Seattle’s famous chilly reception melted away. It melted in the warm hugs of friends I was genuinely happy to see and who were genuinely happy to see me. For the first time in over a year, I felt like I belonged in the scene. Doubts, fears and insecurities melted away in the face of catching up with old friends and making new ones. I became the classic Minx, happy, bouncy and ready to have some fun.

I don’t want to be all cheesy and tell you not to be afraid of going to a conference alone. It still sucks to do that, and it’s still hard to try to connect with people in a weekend setting when you’re flying solo. You’ll still get turned down or blown off for scenes; I know I did and was. But my experience ended up being so deliciously positive that I want to share that joy, just in case it might inspire bravery the next time you fly solo at an event.

Stuff I Learned at ShibariCon 2010

  • I do belong here. The only one thinking otherwise was me.
  • When I am my own best self, wonderful things happen. And when I feel at home and welcomed, I am my own best self. Self-doubt is what kills the confidence, and without confidence, nothing is fun.
  • Scheduling at a con is hard/tricky. Cut yourself and your play partners some slack.
  • Don’t take it personally. Instead, find a way to take care of yourself that involves sharing your pain (and joy) with others.
  • Hide your crazy. But let little bits show in fits of controlled vulnerability. A controlled burn, if you will. :-)
  • Never compare yourself to others in any way. Instead, focus on what is making today awesome for you. If you close your eyes and feel a lack of awesome, put your finger on why, and then go ask for that.
  • Geek negotiation tip: if you’re unsure of where to start but you know you want to play, instead of asking a person for a scene or play, ask trusted friends whom they would recommend for play who might be free tonight.
  • Give your cell phone # to hot guys/girls so they can text you. (Outside the con space, of course)
  • Love yourself. Love your kink. Be fascinated by others’ kink.

All of this has me thinking about teaching a ShibariCon for Newbies/Solos class next year, with specific activities designed to help people check their emotional baggage at the door and have the confidence to have fun. Wouldn’t that be a GREAT way to start a con?

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