PW 300: Celebrating YOU the listeners

Listeners call in to share why they are poly, what they have learned and tell a poly joke and limerick or two

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Introduction

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1:00 Host chat

  • Reminiscing over how Poly Weekly got started in 2005; Amy Gahran was our first commenter
  • What I have learned: no one is ever alone
  • Shared pain is lessened and shared joy increased
  • Poly isn’t that weird

6:15 Topic: It’s all about you!

  • Happy poly moment
  • Alan from Poly in the Media
  • Amy Shiner, blogger for the Huffington Post: “If I weren’t poly, I would be asexual…”
  • Billy from Chicago answers “how many poly does it take to screw in a lightbulb?”

10:10 Topic: What are you thankful for?

  • Erica of St. Paul – to have found the woman within
  • Reid of Reidaboutsex.com – his partner Allison and cheap dental work in Mexico
  • Sarah – friends on her side

12:00 More contributions!

  • Emma with a happy poly story
  • Grace in VA with excellent advice: “If I want something, I need to work my ass off on me first”
  • Rob from Oz telling how poly saved his career
  • Dan Sawyer
  • Chris Bingham with a poly limerick
  • Vicky from London with words of advice
  • Paul with what he learned about poly in 2011—it works if everyone is adult and communicates

23:55 Thanks

Thanks to H for his generous, $300 donation!

24:55 Wrapup


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PW 299: The busy poly professional woman

How does a poly professional woman focused on her career make time and energy to date at all?

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Introduction

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1:00 Host chat

9:20 Topic: How does a busy poly professional woman find time to date?

A listener writes in to ask how a full-time woman who puts her career first and still handles the home responsibilities can find dating anything other than exhausting. Also, what to do when your partner has more free time and energy to date, causing dating envy.

  1. First, sympathy—I work for a startup and have also made work my priority, so it is very hard to find energy to date after putting all your passion into your work.
  2. Second, evaluate your priorities. Do a goal-setting session using Your Best Year Yet to establish your priorities for the next 12 months. If dating isn’t that valuable to you and doesn’t make the list, treat it like any other type of jealousy and act accordingly. If it is, try making 1-hour lunch date “chemistry tests” or make weekly OKCupid online vetting nights (with wine and a girlfriend!) to get started.
  3. Third, take immediate action. It sounds like the chore split was created when you had more free time, so redistribute household chores to give you more time and energy for self-care and other essential/fun priorities.
  4. Finally, it might be helpful to listen to the episodes on introverts and on jealousy.
  5. And bonus: “sleep is the new sex” It’s the ultimate luxury and vice; treat it as a precious resource!

25:00 Thanks

Thanks to Paul for his donation! And welcome Olaf to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

26:00 Wrapup


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PW 298: The care and feeding of drama

The care and feeding of your poly drama–and how to avoid it!

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Introduction

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1:00 Host chat

We’re closing in on episode 300. And it’s all YOURS! Call in your poem, limerick, story, joke, Happy Poly Moment, book review, rant; whatever! Call in to 206-202-POLY or attach an mp3 to email to polyweekly@gmail.com. Without YOU, there will be no show!

4:45 Topic: The care and feeding of drama

Drama doesn’t just happen; it needs insecurity, neurosis, lack of communication and passive-aggressiveness to survive. So how do you avoid drama? Cohost LustyGuy and Minx go over the basics:

  • Definition of drama: Adding amplitude to emotional reactions vs specific behaviors
  • Ways to avoid drama
    • After initial immediate reaction, decide how you are going to behave
    • Own your own shit (and communicate it!)
    • Communicate in little bits, often, before the situation builds to a confrontation
    • Talk about behaviors, not your judgments of them
    • Talk about your own actions and feelings, not the other person’s
    • Talk about the topic at hand, and only one at a time
  • Examples from Lusty and Minx
    • Early miscommunication + disconnect re: staying over
    • Elle taking finances back from LustyGuy

34:00 Thanks

Thanks to Paul, Marcie and Paul for their donations! And welcome Emma, Vir and Amy to the Poly Weekly Playmate subscription!

35:00 Wrapup


Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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