The care and feeding of your poly drama–and how to avoid it!
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Introduction
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1:00 Host chat
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4:45 Topic: The care and feeding of drama
Drama doesn’t just happen; it needs insecurity, neurosis, lack of communication and passive-aggressiveness to survive. So how do you avoid drama? Cohost LustyGuy and Minx go over the basics:
- Definition of drama: Adding amplitude to emotional reactions vs specific behaviors
- Ways to avoid drama
- After initial immediate reaction, decide how you are going to behave
- Own your own shit (and communicate it!)
- Communicate in little bits, often, before the situation builds to a confrontation
- Talk about behaviors, not your judgments of them
- Talk about your own actions and feelings, not the other person’s
- Talk about the topic at hand, and only one at a time
- Examples from Lusty and Minx
- Early miscommunication + disconnect re: staying over
- Elle taking finances back from LustyGuy
34:00 Thanks
Thanks to Paul, Marcie and Paul for their donations! And welcome Emma, Vir and Amy to the Poly Weekly Playmate subscription!
35:00 Wrapup
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