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- 1:30 Promo: Sex and Death podcast
2:45 Topic: When metamours attack
Joreth, Puck and Minx address a tough situation: J starts dating a guy who is in a relationship with an older man, a respected tantric guru. Upon meeting J, the guru declares that she and the guy cannot have sex. A bit later, J and the guy have sex. She asks the guy if the guru was OK with it and then assumes it’s OK to have sex with the guy. She attempts to contact the guru but doesn’t hear back.
A bit later, she and the guy mess around in the place the guy and the guru share. The guru comes home and bans all communication between her and the guy. She makes more attempts to get the three of them together, but the guru does not accept her invitation.
Where did communication fail and what can we do to prevent this happening in the future? We recommend:
- Own the communication with both your partner and your metamour. NEVER rely on your partner to communicate with your metamour on your behalf. That’s your job.
- Trust but verify.
- Know your own boundaries and negotiate with all parties involved. You have a right to know what the boundaries are, why they are there and when/if they will change.
22:00 Feedback – Episode 299, Poly Professional Woman
- Gary points out that the poly professional man can have challenges dating the busy professional poly woman!
- Vir suggests taking a high-level view of the work load, distinguishing work-for-pay (including school and homework) and maintaining-the-home. He suggests tallying the hours spent on all aspects and rebalancing the load when the situation shifts. For example, look at:
- Travel time to and from work/school
- Working outside the home (job/classes)
- Paid work at home (professional work/homework)
- Non-paid work maintaining the home (cooking, cleaning, shopping)
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