PW 331: The scheduling dance

How to manage a poly dating schedule without stepping on toes

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1:00 News and host chat

• LustyGuy cohosts
• I’ll be giving Content Creation for the Online Activist at CatalystCon September 14-16 in Long Beach

2:45 Topic: The schedule dance

Herbalwise calls in to ask best practices for coordinating schedules with a new partner while being considerate of the existing partner. If you can’t do a regular date night because of kids and whatnot, how do you grab time while remaining considerate of the life partner?

• Question: why can’t dates be scheduled?
• Question: why are you hesitating to speak to your life partner about dates and scheduling?
• LustyGuy points out the importance of time budgeting
• Minx recommends the three C’s of poly dating:
• Clarity – be clear about what you want, need and will accept
• Calendar – used shared calendars (Google is popular)
• Communication – communicate with all parties before, during and after dates as needs shift and change
• Recommendations from listeners via Facebook, Twitter and Google+ include:
• Shared Google calendars and unlimited texting plans
• Only have as many partners as you can handle and schedule time-wise
• Schedule some events long in advance and leave blocks of time open for serendipitous meetings with lovers
• Overlapping social circles, group dates and double dates
• Teuxdeux for tasks

33:00 Happy Poly Moment

DDom shares joy in discovering a close community via FetLife.

37:00 Wrapup

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