Can Aspies be polyamorous? Can polyamory aid a person with Asperger’s?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- LustyGuy, L and I did our goal-setting for 2013. Lots of fun with Your Best Year Yet!
- The North Texas Poly Group shares the following new vocab terms:
- CONFRUBBLED: Confused but happy about it. “I don’t know whose hands those are, but they are doing a great job!”
- FROXY: The pleasure one gets from working up a metamour in anticipation of your sweetheart doing very bad things to them. Like compersion, but sexy and just a tiny bit mean. The enjoyment one gets from participating in alloerotic narratophilia.
- OUTLAWS: The parents of your socially-illicit life partner. “We went to go have dinner with the outlaws Sunday evening. They love playing with our kids so much, they’ve nearly adopted the boys as grandbabies already!”
- 5:10 Miss Poly Manners on (defining one’s own behavior) versus rules (restricting someone else’s behavior) versus agreement (two+ people agree to after discussing boundaries and expectations)
11:05 Topic: Poly and Asperger’s
A listener asks: can you be poly with Asperger’s? Does it help?
- The Wikipedia definition of Asperger’s
- Listener M writes in to share her own experience and a study by sexologist Dr. Amy Marsh, who found in one on-line survey that 25% of autistic responders said they were either poly or switched freely back-and-forth between monogamy and polyamory.
- Another question about autism and poly
- And oh, BTW, Asperger’s is no longer an official diagnosis; it’s “autism spectrum disorder”
21:00 Happy Poly Moments
- Kit shares a snuggly happy poly moment
- Jamie shares a great story of a frubbly weekend by which a partner got to spend more time with her daughter over the holidays due to their poly relationship
- Bruce shared the simple pleasure of a wine-tasting with his girlfriend and metamour
24:00 Feedback
- A listener calls in to ask about dealing with jealousy when in the “s” part of a D/s relationship. Poly and kink overlap, but not all kinksters make the effort to do poly well. Want your kinky poly relationship to succeed? Read Raven Kaldera’s Power Circuits and apply his wisdom!
- What’s NRE in Norwegian? Forelsket!
29:25 Thank you
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Wrap up
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Thanks for this awesome podcast, and all of them in general.
One thing that caught my ear was when you used the phrase “suffering from Aspergers”. There are many within the community that would not agree that they “suffer”. To them, that is the same as saying that someone “suffers from being transgendered”. It is just the way they are.
I’m sure it was a slip of the tongue, (mmm … always a nice image … squirrel!). But as I hope you will agree, there can be specific language that is preferred, and also some to be avoided as it is misrepresentative.
Can Aspies be polyamorous? As an Aspie and a lifelong poly/bi/switch, I think the answer is definitely yes.
Can it aid? I think sometimes; it depends on the person’s particular flavor of Aspergers, which is complex and poorly understood, and affects different people differently.
Favorite poly moment:
Dave, a paramour, arrived at the house to pick up my partner (Rachel) for a date. While he was waiting for her to finish getting ready, he told me that he had come from his parents house, where he just had an odd conversation. His parents had asked where he was off to, and he replied that he was going over to Charles’ house to pick up Rachel for a date. They asked who was Charles, and he replied that Charles was Rachel’s partner; which caused a bit of confusion on the part of parents. Dave explained polyamory, and a parent asked “But isn’t it really weird dating a poly woman?”. Dave replied; “No, it’s great. Charles has to do all of the heavy lifting in the relationship; Rachel and I can just have a good time.”
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Curtis: Yes, slip of the tongue! Damn slippery thing.
Usually I say, “Living with [name of condition].” Charles: what a great story! I like that way of positioning poly dating!