PW 366: Poly in small town America

How do you meet and date polys when you live in a small town?

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1:00 Host chat

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9:05 Topic: How to be poly in small town America?

Listener H writes in to ask for advice on the following questions:

  • How do you meet poly people in a small town when you’re in the Bible belt and not out?
  • Do you ever feel lonely being “poly single”—with a partner but seeking others? How do you deal with it?
  • How do you find the right poly people and determine that they are who they say they are?

And listener Forrest has donated the following three works of art. Email me at polyweekly@gmail.com with your advice. The first three to respond receive a beautiful, hot work of art!

16:00 Happy Poly Moment

  • Listener K shares a wonderful tale of starting a healthy poly relationship with lots of sexy bed time
  • Aura shared two Happy Poly Moments:
    • As the adults discussed new construction to the house to accommodate a new partner, a kid asked about the new partner moving in and expressed delight that the answer was yes
    • Her husband’s mother gave positive feedback on the family dynamic, outside of any poly prejudice

20:10  Feedback

Wrap up

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PW 365: Building your poly community with meetups

Wondering where the polys in your area are? Start a meetup and find out!

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1:00 Host chat

7:45 Topic: Building your poly community through meetups

Steve Culhane, an organizer of the Charlotte Polyamory Network, gives advice on how to start a successful poly meetup if you don’t have a group in your area.

  • Start a group for the right reasons: for community, not sexual partners
  • How to safeguard member privacy
  • Get started: schedule a meetup in a public place
  • Put newbies on your board! Bring on resources/help to keep the group going beyond your own involvement.
  • Take steps to keep drama out of the group
  • Relationship Equality Foundation
  • Don’t get discouraged when attendance drops—change location or ask the board for new ideas
  • Charlotte Polyamory Network

35:00 Wrap up

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PW 364: I’m in love and got vetoed!

What to do when your relationship is vetoed AFTER you fell in love

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1:00 Host chat

Showtime poly series starts a new season

Now we’re “stuck” with non traditional marriage

10:30 Topic: I’m in love but just got vetoed!

L writes in for advice. What do you do when you trust that the couple really is poly and end up falling in love with the guy, only to have his wife veto you a bit later when she breaks up with her own boyfriend?

  • This sucks and is unfair and unkind.
  • Lying about the nature of your relationship isn’t healthy.
  • Expecting him to leave her isn’t terribly healthy, either.
  • Accept and grieve the loss. Value yourself and the experience.
  • Next time, vet the couple to be sure each person is stable, fully embraces polyamory and is personally secure.

22:35 Happy Poly Moment

  • B in Seattle shares a Happy Poly Moment. British comedies FTW!
  • Cate shares a beautiful story of a metamour leaving a footprint of food and love. Want to win a metamour of the year award? Be a Hot Dish Elf!

26:00 Feedback

32:00 Wrap up

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