How do you keep one deteriorating or unhealthy relationship from affecting others?
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5:05 Topic: How to keep one bad relationship from affecting others
- First, your relationships are part of who you are, so there is no way to 100% avoid one affecting others. However, you can minimize the effect.
- Good general rule: never complain about one partner to another. It’s unfair to both your partner (who can’t speak up for herself) and her metamour (your new partner), who is only getting one side of the story. Your new partner isn’t your therapist.
- Get a therapist. Ending your first poly relationship is nothing to sneeze at, especially when it involves continued cohabitation and transitioning to friendship without a break.
- Be wary of transferring “anchorship.”
15:45 Happy Poly Moment
- A shares a lovely story about a teachable poly moment!
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- Erica gives props to her own excellent communication skills
- Julia shares a tale of being brave (which often looks a lot like being silly)
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