How and when to come out to your doctorwhat your doctor needs to know about your poly lifestyle

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1:30 Announcements

6:30 Poly in the news

Why poly is so feminist

9:30 Topic: Coming out to your doctor

With cohost Koe Creation.

  • What your doctors need to know
    • The gender of the people you have sex with
    • The number of people you have sex with
    • What you use in terms of barriers and birth control
    • Any health conditions or concerns that you or your partners have that might affect the experience of identifying or treating an STI
  • How and when to come out and which doctors to come out to
  • Minx’s advice to doctors about intake questions that will help the patient feel more comfortable revealing their relationship orientation and sexual identity
  • 28:10 Advocating for the type of STI testing you want and why “test for everything” isn’t clear enough
    • Model “reactive” and “non-reactive” versus “clean” or “positive”

36:30 Happy poly moment

J shares a wonderful holiday happy poly moment

38:30 Thanks!

Thanks to Jason, Doug and Zoya for their generous donations this month!

39:30 How to make this podcast better

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  1. One thing I would like to add is that when I come out to my private practise health practitioners, I hand them reading material to keep :

    Guidelines for Care of LGBT Patients – :
    What Psychology Professionals Need to Know About Polyamory :

  2. David Wheeler January 9, 2017 at 2:59 pm · ·


    I would love to get statistical transmission data in cases or oral and digital penetration and sex. Our Austin Poly group were told by some of our local medical practitioners that the chances of transmission were less than with other forms of penetration, but they could not give us statistics.

    I haven’t been successful finding such on my own (though I have looked).

    Do any of y’all have any data on this, please? Or could y’all point me to a source?


    • David–

      Specific data, no. But keep in mind that HSV and HPV are transmitted by touch, and it’s not uncommon to be unaware of the exact cause of the infection, so I wouldn’t expect that there would be accurate numbers on it. I had a partner whose HSV breakout location was on his thigh. So you could use a condom to cover the penis from here until Sunday, but if you touched that spot on his thigh and then used that body part (leg, knee, finger, tongue) to touch anything else, BAM! You’ve transmitted. And since people can be asymptomatic for days, weeks or years, it would be impossible to tell which activity on which day lead to the transmission. Make sense?

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