507: How do I get control of my fears?

How do I get control of my fears and insecurities in order to better deal with poly situations?


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1:30 Announcements

Welcome Kevin Patterson to the cohost chair

3:30 Poly in the News

About Carrie Jenkins

8:15 Topic: How do I get control of my fears?

Listener Lost and Confused writes in to ask how to get control of her own fears and insecurities so she can feel more comfortable with poly situations. We advise:

  • give yourself credit for owning your shit
  • this is experience shock
  • don’t consider it a confrontation
  • don’t do all the processing on your own—invite others to join you
  • do regular check-ins versus One Big Deal—like an agile scrum meeting with progress, blocking issues and next steps
  • do the “and then what” exercise

23:11 Feedback

LuvAsThouWilt wrote in about the earth being non-moon-ogamous

24:50 Happy Poly Moment

  • GreedyPaul wrote in with a Happy Poly Moment about poly sickies taking care of each other
  • PolyWanterLust wrote in with a story to give those introducing poly to a monogamous marriage hope

27:30 How to make this podcast better

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  1. OliveGC March 2, 2017 at 5:29 pm · ·

    Hey there, I just wanted to dash there seems to be some missing audio? Mostly when Kevin should be speaking it seems.

  2. Put your earbuds in both ears. 🙂

  3. Russell March 3, 2017 at 6:26 pm · ·

    The audio is off compared to prior episodes. You’re only in the right channel and Kevin/guest only in left and really low quality.

    Other than that love the podcast. Keep up the awesome work!

    • Russell–

      Thanks for the feedback! There were two issues with the audio: first, Kevin’s microphone was poor quality; I have since mailed him a better-quality microphone of mine for future cohosting. Second, I forgot to hit the “mono” button on the final mix, so we got the ping-pong effect. Ugh! I just posted the remix, so at least you can hear us both in both ears now! And Kevin should sound better in future shows. Stay tuned!

  4. Thanks for telling my non-moon-ogamous pun 🙂

    Kevin had asked if I was the same LuvAsThouWilt who followed his tumblr…. yes, I am also LuvAsThouWilt on tumblr (and reddit and a few other poly friendly places around the web.)

  5. TooCleverByHalf March 15, 2017 at 9:33 am · ·

    If you can, get your guest to record audio there end too, then send you the wav file afterward. It’s more work for you editing it back together again, but it will sound much better. It’s not too bad though 😉

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