By Cunning Minx, on December 24th, 2012%
 Embracing Yes Means Yes and the fact that consent is sexy
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- No holiday chat here, just good kerfuffles of the week with LustyGuy cohosting
3:15 Topic: Nice guys rape, too
As part of the Good Men Project, Alyssa Royse penned this piece trying to explain that nice guys can commit rape, unbeknownst to them. The backlash against her piece has been significant. Our key objections:
- Saying that women give off “mixed signals” is not only wrong but irrelevant; it can come off as a rape apology
- Agreed that “no means no” does not work
- However, “yes means yes” does work 100% of the time
Backlash pieces:
21:45 Topic: Pink loves consent
A group of feminists in Baltimore coordinated a masterful spoof of Victoria’s Secret PINK site, which is typically targeted at teen and college-age women and bears thongs sporting motifs such as “Sure Thing” printed on skimpy thongs. PinkLovesConsent was such a pitch-perfect spoof of the site (now bearing panties sporting “Ask First” and “No Means No”) that even VS employees believed it to be real and congratulated the company on its embracing of women’s issues.
Sadly, Victoria’s Secret had nothing to do with it. But wouldn’t it be great if they had?
26:35 Happy Poly Moment
- Irina shares a happy poly moment about a kick-ass metamour
- Alicia shares a happy poly moment of being welcomed into a relationship
30:00 Feedback
34:00 Wrap up
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By Cunning Minx, on September 19th, 2012%
Be sex-geektastic with these nifty iPhone camera apps
Freshly back from CatalystCon, quite a few folks had asked for information on the camera apps I was using at the conference to keep the social media stream fun and lively. This post is for the social media geeks and geek wannabes. Most of these apps are free or $.99, so, assuming you have the iPhone already, they’re pretty low-budget-friendly.
Of course, if you are at an event, always be sure to ask for permission before taking someone’s photo and before posting publicly to a social media site. Many of our favorite activists and educators can’t be photographed publicly in a sex-positive environment for fear of losing their jobs, so always check first!
Five iPhone camera apps for the con
 IncrediBooth fun with Cunning Minx and SexNerdSandra Incredibooth from Synthetic, LLC. Remember those photo booths that populated boardwalks and pizza restaurants of our childhoods? You’d squeeze in one with your best friend, press your heads together and take four wacky photos in quick succession. Why? Because back then, cameras were bulky and required skill to use, and we didn’t all carry them around with us all the time. Incredibooth is a fun iPhone camera app that lets you relive that childhood fun, minus the cramped, smelly booth. The red curtain swings back, the red light blinks, and you and your buddy take four shots in 20 seconds, all captured in good, old-fashioned black-and-white glory. Get your photos, grab some popcorn and cotton candy and then hit the Ferris wheel! (Thanks to SexNerdSandra for trying it out with me!)
 CatalystCon Ptch Ptch is the free app that I used to instantly create this one-minute CatalystCon video with music bed sharing my CatalystCon experience. It allows the user to mix photos from your photo album immediately with music and styles into a fun short video. Creating a Ptch is pretty easy: drag your favorite photos or video clips, add captions if desired and select a style such as “matte,” “epic” or “vivid” to personalize the video. Then choose a song from the app’s music list. Ptches can be shared by email or posted publicly to social media sites Twitter and Facebook (no Pinterest yet, sadly). Making a video in five minutes flat? Pretty amazing!
 Megan Andelloux on Autograph This! Autograph This Wanna be a star or just feel like one? Don’t laugh; someone at a recent event actually asked for an autographed picture, and my first reaction was, “I bet there is an app for that!” And indeed there is, for .99 from Vamp Apps. Autograph This allows the user to either use an existing Photo Album photo or take a new one and then sign it with a finger using light or dark “ink,” whichever has the best contrast to the photo’s background. The photo can then be posted to social networks or sent via private message. Run into someone famous? Snap a pic and ask him/her to sign with a finger. Someone thinks you’re famous? No more carrying those pesky 8×10 glossies around; just use your finger! (Thanks to Megan Andelloux for the demo autograph!)
 Sex and the Media panel on FrameLens #ccon FrameLens is a nifty $.99 app that creates an instant collage as you snap photos. It’s a great alternative to the “here are four people at a lunch table” shot. Choose a frame of three, four or more and tap each frame to instantly snap a photo! I found this app very helpful for shooting panels: use the bigger shot to show the whole panel and the smaller frames for close-ups of each speaker. You can also pull photos off an album and even add captions and change the color or frame. Try it at your next lunch, dinner or conference for a more active and vibrant way to capture the spirit of the event.
PowerCam is a free iPhone camera app that enables the user to apply instant, live filters and effects to images and video BEFORE and WHILE shooting them. What you see on the screen before you snap the shot is what you get. What I love about this app is the ability to apply over 50 live filters (such as neon outline, sepia, watercolor sketch) to live photos and videos before you take them. It’s like having Photoshop on your phone for every picture and video. Also, the app allows for easy sharing to social networks such as Facebook and Twitter, and you can save the photos to your iPhone native photo gallery.
By Cunning Minx, on September 16th, 2012%
Social media content creation and strategy for sex-positive activists and educators
First, thanks so much to Dee for inviting me to speak at CatalystCon, and second, thanks to everyone who attended and participated in this amazing session. I had a blast and hope you all did as well!
By Cunning Minx, on August 25th, 2012%
An interview with Anthony and Vanessa on the reality process behind Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating
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1:00 News and host chat
- I’ll be giving Content Creation for the Online Activist at CatalystCon September 14-16 in Long Beach
3:00 Interview: Anthony and Vanessa from Polyamory: Married and Dating
35:00 Feedback: how do I convey jealousy to my partner without him off?
A writes in to ask for advice. Her new partner was previously monogamous, and when A has occasional bouts of jealousy and insecurity, the new partner will just end the new relationship to make it easier on A. “How can I go about asking for the care I need without scaring him off?”
- Edward: tell him you’re feeling jealous and explain it’s not a call to action
- Ken: communicate the feeling of insecurity and ask him to help you understand it
- Sarah: just say how you feel and reassure your partner that they don’t need to act
- Scott: African masks and a voodoo ritual (to scare your partner off)?
- Becky: admit feelings to yourself first and admit they aren’t rational; say “I don’t need you to change what you’re doing, but I just wanted you to know what is going on”
- Dave: preface with “I feel kinda dumb bringing this up, but…” and share your feelings
- Gigi: preface with “I realize this is really more about me and not about the situation… “ and share your feelings
- Andrew: be responsible for your feelings and express them so that it’s clear to your partner that you know you are responsible
- Lindsay: communicate root of your jealousy clearly and own your feelings
42:00 Thanks
Thanks to Joan for the donation this week!
43:00 Wrapup
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By Cunning Minx, on April 10th, 2012%
 Freshly returned from MomentumCon, a recap of the sessions on feminism, sexuality and sex-positivism today. Plus, using “what would monogamists do?” as a guiding question.
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Introduction
Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen
1:00 News and host chat
20:45 Topic: What would monogamists do?
A listener writes in to ask how to act around her partner’s OSO (metamour) and challenges the What Would Monogamists Do guiding question. How much flirting is OK around your SO and OSO, and how should you act towards your metamour in social situations?
29:30 Happy Poly Moment
- Summersnake shares a moment of compersion when sending his wife off to spend time with her sweetie
- Don writes in to share compersion and joy at his partner’s meeting the metamours
33:25 Feedback
Taylor on controlled male orgasms through controlling the flow of chi
Wrap up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
By Cunning Minx, on August 15th, 2011%
 Building a poly community – thoughts from Polycamp Vancouver Island
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Introduction
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
3:30 Topic: Live from the Pillow Palace
Live from the Pillow Palace at PolyCamp Vancouver Island, a nine-day camping event within a caring and giving community. Pierce, Quentin, Cora, Kiki and Scott talk about sex education vegetables, Kiki’s new head shaving and the birth of the poly community in Vancouver.
25:45 Feedback
Anne brings up and defines the “Joey Potter effect.” The Joey Potter = a person trying to live monogamously while romantically attracted to more than one person. The JPE involves frequent breakups with one love interest to date another, relationship sabotage and overanalysis of one’s own motivations.
28:00 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on April 18th, 2011%
 Jessica Karels of Young Metro Poly What’s up with the young modern poly movement: interview with Jessica Karels
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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
- Shoutout from Mako Allen of the new Big Little podcast on age play
- Seeking pregnant poly women for cable documentary: IPA2Casting@sirensmedia.com – Call Poly Media Association before you go!
- Casting company seeking “those who feel comfortable sharing personal and sexual details of their relationship lives—including their fears, secrets, unmet needs, and the ways in which they connect & disconnect in relationships.” Send name, age, occupation, brief bio, relationship goals, contact information to relationshipcasting2011@gmail.com (and call the Poly Media Association first!)
Interview: Jessica Karels of Modern Poly
Feedback
Raven wrote in regarding episode 266 on Charlie Sheen’s polyamory and another listener gave another insight to the reality show Sister Wives from the same episode
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on April 4th, 2011%
The MomentumCon iteration of personal branding for the sex-positive educator/activist using the social web. A GREAT session with great questions from the MomentumCon crowd! Thanks to everyone who attended, asked questions and kept me honest. I had a blast!
A few additional notes that came up:
Browser and iphone application for managing Twitter and Facebook accounts, including analytics and scheduling: HootSuite
Design and brainstorming graphics tool for Mac and iPad users: OmniGraffle
Social media analytics dashboard across properties: Unilyzer
By Cunning Minx, on March 26th, 2011%
So excited to debut my new talk on personal branding on the social web for the sex-positive educator, activist and organizer!
Thanks again to the Atlanta Poly Weekend staff for bringing me out; it’s been a wonderful experience!
By Cunning Minx, on October 5th, 2010%
A smokin’ hot interview with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture
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 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
- Reporting live from Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco!
- Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010
Interview: Allena Gabosch
The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares the origin story of the Center in its current state and her own experiences with polyamory. Live from Paradise Unbound!
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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