Poly Weekly 260: Replacing “primary” and “secondary”

Special guest cohost Steve Eley chats about replacing  the term “primary” and gives advice to new poly kinksters

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Introduction and host chat

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Topic: A replacement for “primary” and “secondary”

      Listener question

      • Exploring poly and kink; how do you start dating?
      • What do you do when one partner wants kink only and the other wants full-on sexual relationships?

      Teaser

      Wrap-up
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      Poly Weekly 259: Mo and the Magic Banana

      Mollena Williams, monogamous-identified kinktastic chick, talks about entering a poly BDSM arrangement

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      Introduction and host chat

      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

      Announcements

      Interview: Mollena Williams, the Perverted Negress

      • Are you poly-identified? Why or why not?
      • How did an emotionally monogamous person gel with entering a poly BDSM, cross-country arrangement?
      • Why is this banana magic?
      • The importance of metamours
      • Visit Mo and her mojo at her site

        Wrap-up
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        Poly Weekly 257: Is it all about the sex?

        Is the dark secret of polyamory that sometimes it is about the sex with multiple partners?

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        Introduction and host chat

        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

        Announcements

        • MomentumCon is coming up April 1-3, 2011 in Washington, D.C.
        • Virginia poly meetup: Saturday, November 13th 4pm-6pm, Borders in manassas, 11270 Bulooch Dr, Manassas VA 20109, look for the parrot contact Grace: doyenworking@gmail.com, Becky: rebecca.loveking@gmail.com
        • Perverts of Color
        • SteamCon Nov, 19-21, Seattle

        Topic: Is it all about the sex?

        Happy Poly Moments

        • Thanks to Grace, Christian and Tina for sharing

        Wrap-up
        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Poly Dating 101: Tips for Poly Dating

        Had a great time giving this talk at Poly Living West, hosted for the first time in Seattle! As always, the discussion afterward was far more interesting and thought-provoking. Thanks to everyone who participated!

        Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic

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        Introduction and host chat

        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

        Announcements

        Interview: Sam and April of Black Box Republic

        Sam Lawrence and April talk about the inspiration for hip new sex-positive dating site Black Box Republic, how it came to be, and who should join and why.

        ****SPECIAL OFFER FOR PW LISTENERS: Use code radiobbr for 30 days FREE!****

        Wrap-up

        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Poly Weekly 226: How to choose a partner

        Poly Weekly #226: How to choose a poly partner direct download

        Introduction and host chat

        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

        Co hosts

        Joreth
        Pepper
        Franklin

        Announcements

        Jade Gate Studio in Portland, OR is hosting a Year of the White Tiger erotic art show and after party, 6:00 p.m.-2:00 a.m., Saturday, Feb. 13th, FetLife event announcement

        Topic: How do you choose a poly partner?

        Joreth, Pepper, Franklin and Minx discuss the two aspects of this question: how do you find, meet and get to know partners, and how do you vet them? Joe, Brendan, Polina and Jessica commented via Facebook that they simply run into people in everyday life, often when they are not looking, and get to know people that they like and who treat them well.

        Jeff asks for feedback via Facebook on a situation in which he made first physical contact (holding hands) with a new partner in his current partner’s presence, which led to a fight.

        Wrap-up

        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Poly Weekly #217: Do the math

        This week’s Poly Weekly #217: Do the math.

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        0:00 Introduction and host chat
        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

        [Rough show notes; full show notes to come]

        Announcements

        • Poly research study: University of Michigan is seeking participants 18 and older, healthy, not using hormonal medications (e.g. the Pill). A compensation (up to $80) is offered for the time. They are looking for: Heterosexual or GLBQ individuals in relationships; individuals in relationships with multiple people, or in
          polyamorous relationships; women and men. This study involves: completing questionnaires (e.g. background, health, social variables, & personal sexuality); and quick & easy saliva research samples. Contact Sari Van Anders, PhD at vanandersbpl@umich.edu
        • Vicky Rose speaking on polyamory in Madrid, October 27th. Facebook group here
        • Poly Family Weekend, Sept. 17-19, 2010
        • Know a poly-friendly professional who’d liked to be listed? Visit Joe Decker’s Poly-Friendly Professionals list and click “submit a link”

        News
        Facebook now offers a poly-friendly relationship status app!

        Topic: Term for craving affection?
        Ideas for a term for craving hugs, snuggles and affection? Let me know!

        Topic: Do the math
        From the Universe of Discourse, the stable bipartate matching problem.

        Happy Poly Moment
        This week’s is from the forums.

        Feedback: PW 214: Objectumsexuals
        Woman who married the Berlin Wall
        Japanese men and their pillow lovers: NYT article and one with pictures

        Favorite fan
        Thanks to Greyring for $69 donation!

        Wrap-up
        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

        Poly Weekly #201: Would *this* one make you less jealous?

        This week’s Poly Weekly #201: would this partner make you less jealous?.

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        0:00 Introduction and host chat
        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

        Announcements
        PolyCamp Ontario is August 14-16th

        Topic: Will this lover make you less jealous?
        Darin provided these links:
        Science Blogs commentary
        Original Psychology Today article

        1:35 Announcements
        Minx talks about Polycamp Ontario

        2:30 Today’s Topic
        Minx starts by talking about an article in Psychology Today “What kind of lover should I take to make you less jealous.”
        Minx talks about how men and women typically differ as far as what makes them jealous; what makes us feel threatened? Are these catagories
        actually useful considering how different each of us are? Article claims if you are going to cheat, choose somebody not as good as your partner.
        Minx goes through the comments and talks about what she sees.

        8:56 Miss Poly Manners
        Torn Between Two Lovers writes in and asks Miss Poly Manners advice on scheduling.

        14:10 Feedback
        14:12 Shaded wrote in and talked about what they have learned from Poly Weekly

        14:58 Musqurat called in, talking about your exes.

        17:40 Vincent wrote in about Episode 193

        20:05 John Doe wrote in about Feast of Love unhappy about the way Minx talked about religion.

        Wrap-up
        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Poly Weekly #193: How to Have a Happy Relationship

        This week Poly Weekly #193: How to Have a Happy Relationship.

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        0:00 Introduction and host chat
        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

        Poly Living conference

        Topic: How to Have a Happy Relationship
        Tacit, host of the Polyamory FAQ site, gives his observations on what it takes to have a happy relationship, mono or poly

        2:03 Minx Interviews Tacit
        Minx and tacit talk about the weather. Minx starts talking about Tacit’s article and how it has impacted people. They go through the list of points from the article.

        • You can’t get what you don’t ask for
        • If all your relationships in the same bad way, maybe it is you
        • If sex is becoming boring after a while, maybe you are letting it
        • Don’t expect to change your partner
        • A partner who is nice to you but not the waitress is not a nice person
        • (I googled monkeysphere too! -fs)

        • it’s possible to love somebody but have them not be a good partner for you
        • What you get out depends on what you put in
        • a person has cheated on somebody with you cannot be trusted to not cheat on you
        • Be wary of a person who trashes their exes

        Stay tuned next week for more!

        Wrap-up
        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

        Poly Weekly #187: Is he not that into me?

        This week Poly Weekly #187: Is he not that into me?.

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        0:00 Introduction and host chat
        Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

        Announcements

        11:30 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
        Hamilton wrote in to talk about his great New Years Eve with his two lovers and lots of wine.

        12:10 Is He Not Into me?
        Krista wrote in through facebook and told her story. She is in a situation where maybe one of her lovers is not really into her. Krista wants to know, what does that concept mean to poly people? Minx gives her impressions of the book “He Is Not Really Into You.”; Minx talks about how different relationships are different and that is OK. Poly has benefits that monogamy doesn’t have. If one person does not fulfill all our needs, we look for those needs in another. A relationship will fall to its own level.

        20:15 Feedback
        CJ wrote in and recommended Joe Haldeman, The World Series; Pechu Jay called and thanked Minx and judges for choosing her picture for Pimp Your Boobs; Stewart from Kansas City called in with his props for the podcast and his thoughts on massage.

        Wrap-up
        Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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        Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

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