Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Interview: Sam and April of Black Box Republic

Sam Lawrence and April talk about the inspiration for hip new sex-positive dating site Black Box Republic, how it came to be, and who should join and why.

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Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 226: How to choose a partner

Poly Weekly #226: How to choose a poly partner direct download

Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Co hosts

Joreth
Pepper
Franklin

Announcements

Jade Gate Studio in Portland, OR is hosting a Year of the White Tiger erotic art show and after party, 6:00 p.m.-2:00 a.m., Saturday, Feb. 13th, FetLife event announcement

Topic: How do you choose a poly partner?

Joreth, Pepper, Franklin and Minx discuss the two aspects of this question: how do you find, meet and get to know partners, and how do you vet them? Joe, Brendan, Polina and Jessica commented via Facebook that they simply run into people in everyday life, often when they are not looking, and get to know people that they like and who treat them well.

Jeff asks for feedback via Facebook on a situation in which he made first physical contact (holding hands) with a new partner in his current partner’s presence, which led to a fight.

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #217: Do the math

This week’s Poly Weekly #217: Do the math.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

[Rough show notes; full show notes to come]

Announcements

  • Poly research study: University of Michigan is seeking participants 18 and older, healthy, not using hormonal medications (e.g. the Pill). A compensation (up to $80) is offered for the time. They are looking for: Heterosexual or GLBQ individuals in relationships; individuals in relationships with multiple people, or in
    polyamorous relationships; women and men. This study involves: completing questionnaires (e.g. background, health, social variables, & personal sexuality); and quick & easy saliva research samples. Contact Sari Van Anders, PhD at vanandersbpl@umich.edu
  • Vicky Rose speaking on polyamory in Madrid, October 27th. Facebook group here
  • Poly Family Weekend, Sept. 17-19, 2010
  • Know a poly-friendly professional who’d liked to be listed? Visit Joe Decker’s Poly-Friendly Professionals list and click “submit a link”

News
Facebook now offers a poly-friendly relationship status app!

Topic: Term for craving affection?
Ideas for a term for craving hugs, snuggles and affection? Let me know!

Topic: Do the math
From the Universe of Discourse, the stable bipartate matching problem.

Happy Poly Moment
This week’s is from the forums.

Feedback: PW 214: Objectumsexuals
Woman who married the Berlin Wall
Japanese men and their pillow lovers: NYT article and one with pictures

Favorite fan
Thanks to Greyring for $69 donation!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #201: Would *this* one make you less jealous?

This week’s Poly Weekly #201: would this partner make you less jealous?.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements
PolyCamp Ontario is August 14-16th

Topic: Will this lover make you less jealous?
Darin provided these links:
Science Blogs commentary
Original Psychology Today article

1:35 Announcements
Minx talks about Polycamp Ontario

2:30 Today’s Topic
Minx starts by talking about an article in Psychology Today “What kind of lover should I take to make you less jealous.”
Minx talks about how men and women typically differ as far as what makes them jealous; what makes us feel threatened? Are these catagories
actually useful considering how different each of us are? Article claims if you are going to cheat, choose somebody not as good as your partner.
Minx goes through the comments and talks about what she sees.

8:56 Miss Poly Manners
Torn Between Two Lovers writes in and asks Miss Poly Manners advice on scheduling.

14:10 Feedback
14:12 Shaded wrote in and talked about what they have learned from Poly Weekly

14:58 Musqurat called in, talking about your exes.

17:40 Vincent wrote in about Episode 193

20:05 John Doe wrote in about Feast of Love unhappy about the way Minx talked about religion.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #193: How to Have a Happy Relationship

This week Poly Weekly #193: How to Have a Happy Relationship.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Poly Living conference

Topic: How to Have a Happy Relationship
Tacit, host of the Polyamory FAQ site, gives his observations on what it takes to have a happy relationship, mono or poly

2:03 Minx Interviews Tacit
Minx and tacit talk about the weather. Minx starts talking about Tacit’s article and how it has impacted people. They go through the list of points from the article.

  • You can’t get what you don’t ask for
  • If all your relationships in the same bad way, maybe it is you
  • If sex is becoming boring after a while, maybe you are letting it
  • Don’t expect to change your partner
  • A partner who is nice to you but not the waitress is not a nice person
  • (I googled monkeysphere too! -fs)

  • it’s possible to love somebody but have them not be a good partner for you
  • What you get out depends on what you put in
  • a person has cheated on somebody with you cannot be trusted to not cheat on you
  • Be wary of a person who trashes their exes

Stay tuned next week for more!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly #187: Is he not that into me?

This week Poly Weekly #187: Is he not that into me?.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

11:30 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Hamilton wrote in to talk about his great New Years Eve with his two lovers and lots of wine.

12:10 Is He Not Into me?
Krista wrote in through facebook and told her story. She is in a situation where maybe one of her lovers is not really into her. Krista wants to know, what does that concept mean to poly people? Minx gives her impressions of the book “He Is Not Really Into You.”; Minx talks about how different relationships are different and that is OK. Poly has benefits that monogamy doesn’t have. If one person does not fulfill all our needs, we look for those needs in another. A relationship will fall to its own level.

20:15 Feedback
CJ wrote in and recommended Joe Haldeman, The World Series; Pechu Jay called and thanked Minx and judges for choosing her picture for Pimp Your Boobs; Stewart from Kansas City called in with his props for the podcast and his thoughts on massage.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #182: How to welcome a new metamour

This week Poly Weekly #182:How to welcome a new metamour by Miss Poly Manners.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Through december give us your audio happy poly members. Send these to Minx. Make sure to use the title “Frubble” or “Happy poly story.”

4:38 Minx talks about the Polyweb Video on Youtube.

6:40 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Poly Manners is asked how to deal with a new metamour; Miss Poly Manners talks about how jealousy is not unnatural, nor is being afraid of the unknown and discusses techniques to work through these issues.

Poly YouTube video by Terisa Greenan

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #178: Five Things to Say on a Date

This week Poly Weekly #178:Five Things to Say on a Date.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

(burlycon kicked my ass so I am way behind on shownotes.  Lets see if we can fix that.)

8:30 10 Things Not To Say On A First Date
Minx goes through the list talking about what she agrees with and what she disagrees with.

17:26 5 Things To Say On A First Date&lt
Minx has created a list of things to say on a first date.  She walks us through each one of these.
SeroLynne’s blog entry on how to start a group
www.burlycon.com
New Dublin munch
Expansive Loving group
ZA poly South African munch
Stitcher Radio iphone app
Podcast Awards

10 Things Not to Say on a First Date

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly Book Club (NEW LOCATION): Wednesday, Sept. 3rd

Hello, all.

A quick reminder for next month’s Poly Weekly Book Club. Since it turns out that the city location isn’t convenient for most of the group, I’ve scoped out a new one that will be closer for most regular PWBookers:

Lido’s Caffe
122 N. Marion St.
Oak Park, IL 60301
708-660-0060
www.lidoscaffe.com

It’s 1/2 block from the Oak Park Metra stop and 1 1/2 blocks from the Harlem Green line stop. Metered parking lots are available on South Avenue and next to the shop. It just opened up two weeks ago, and they have a great room in the back with big tables for us. Menu includes coffee, Italian gelatto and even a few panini. They’re thrilled to have a book club meeting there, and it’s a lovely, quiet place for us!

Other details:

Wednesday, September 3rd, 6:00-9:00 p.m.

Book: If the Buddha Dated (and please come on out to meet with poly folks, even if you haven’t read the book!)

Please RSVP so I’ll know to look for you or if you have any questions.

Minx
cunningminx@comcast.net
www.polyweekly.com
206-202-POLY listener comments

Poly Weekly #156 Practical Polyamory with Tacit

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:34 Introduction of our guest!
Tacit Franklin Veaux from http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html is working on a book proposal for a practical guide on dealing with poly. Minx sits down with him in Atlanta to talk about his new project.

2:00 Interviewing Tacit
Minx and Tacit are outside enjoying the fresh air of Atlanta. It took Tacit about 15 minutes to get the request for a proposal!

3:14 Tacit puts the request out for people to contact him with their great stories. He would love to hear from people who are really succesful or who have made mistakes and worked through them. You can mail him at tacitr@aol.com (Yeah, I know. I was thinking the same thing. AOL? Really? – FS)

4:20 Some interesting topics in Tacit’s book we might not have seen in other books. He plans on having a practical how-to guide outside of the other subcultures (e.g. paganism, bdsm). Also, poly/mono relationships and poly relationships that aren’t based on a core “couple.”

8:20 (Man, is it loud out there! :) – FS)

8:45 What happens if our partner compares us to the other people? How do we not let that bother us?

10:15 Great story about Minx’s sex life. Pretty hot!

12:37 NRE shouldn’t totally make your brains dribble out your ears!

14:00 How does trust and faith play into this? To Tacit, faith implies a lack of evidence.

16:20 Minx attempts to drag teasers out of Tacit. He mentions a chapter on common Poly mistakes

17:00 Tacit outed himself to his hairdresser who thought poly was ok because “all men cheat anyway!” He delicately let the conversation drop.

18:25 Media liked to present poly like what the hairdresser thought. Fortunately, that is changing.

19:30 Minx puts a call out to the Religious Right to persecute her! and um, something about having sex with goats….

20:08 It would appear Tacit gets around… Thanks for the interview Tacit! You can hear Tacit again on episode #116.

22:38 Another thanks to Tacit. A very tired Minx is getting ready for Shibaricon where she won’t be too “tied up” (Get it! Tied up! HAHA! erm, anyway – FS) to do some interviews while there.

SPECIAL THANKS to Raymond for putting together this week’s show notes! (That’s me btw – FS)

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