Poly Weekly 260: Replacing “primary” and “secondary”

Special guest cohost Steve Eley chats about replacing  the term “primary” and gives advice to new poly kinksters

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Topic: A replacement for “primary” and “secondary”

      Listener question

      • Exploring poly and kink; how do you start dating?
      • What do you do when one partner wants kink only and the other wants full-on sexual relationships?

      Teaser

      Wrap-up
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      Poly Weekly 255: a Poly Vagabond

      The vagabond life of a poly musician

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      Introduction and host chat

      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments; or discuss your own topics at the forums; or visit our Facebook page.

      Announcements

      Interview: Jason “Krivo” Flores, on the life of a traveling poly musician

      • Is a “poly traveling musician” redundant?
      • Getting into poly
      • More info on Vagabond Opera

      Feedback

      New vocabulary suggestions from Niko:

      frubble – joy over your loved ones’ joy with others
      grubble – sadness over your loved ones’ sadness with others
      hubble – many getting physically affectionate when experiencing frubble.

      Thanks to Earl, Paul and Ken Haslam for the donations!

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Our intro and outro music this week is courtesy of Vagabond Opera: Chimeras be Met and The Transformation into Marlene.

      Poly Dating 101: Tips for Poly Dating

      Had a great time giving this talk at Poly Living West, hosted for the first time in Seattle! As always, the discussion afterward was far more interesting and thought-provoking. Thanks to everyone who participated!

      Poly Weekly 239: Poly teenager Josh

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      Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

      Announcements

      • Sex 2.0 was May 22-23 in Seattle. Stay tuned to hear the Media Whoring panel
      • Contact the Poly Media Association for tips before speaking to the media about poly; email info@polymediaassocation.com

      Interview: being a poly teenager
      Josh, now 20, talks with Joreth and Minx about what it was like to explore and identify as polyamorous as a teenager (blame it on Heinlein).

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Poly Weekly #214: Objectumsexuals

      This week’s Poly Weekly #214: Objectumsexuals.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      [Rough show notes; full show notes to come]

      Topic: Objectumsexuals
      The Globe and Mail article

      Feedback

      Miss Poly Manners: what you want

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Poly Weekly #201: Would *this* one make you less jealous?

      This week’s Poly Weekly #201: would this partner make you less jealous?.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      Announcements
      PolyCamp Ontario is August 14-16th

      Topic: Will this lover make you less jealous?
      Darin provided these links:
      Science Blogs commentary
      Original Psychology Today article

      1:35 Announcements
      Minx talks about Polycamp Ontario

      2:30 Today’s Topic
      Minx starts by talking about an article in Psychology Today “What kind of lover should I take to make you less jealous.”
      Minx talks about how men and women typically differ as far as what makes them jealous; what makes us feel threatened? Are these catagories
      actually useful considering how different each of us are? Article claims if you are going to cheat, choose somebody not as good as your partner.
      Minx goes through the comments and talks about what she sees.

      8:56 Miss Poly Manners
      Torn Between Two Lovers writes in and asks Miss Poly Manners advice on scheduling.

      14:10 Feedback
      14:12 Shaded wrote in and talked about what they have learned from Poly Weekly

      14:58 Musqurat called in, talking about your exes.

      17:40 Vincent wrote in about Episode 193

      20:05 John Doe wrote in about Feast of Love unhappy about the way Minx talked about religion.

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

      Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory

      This week’s Poly Weekly #198: 12 Pillars of Polyamory.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      You can help build episode 200!
      Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

      Announcements
      Poly dating on OK cupid
      This American Life #374: Somewhere Out There

      Topic: 12 Pillars of Polyamory
      From Ken Haslam’s talk at New York PolyPride

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Poly Weekly #179: Listener Feedback Extravaganza!

      This week Poly Weekly #179:Listener Feedback Extravaganza!.

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      0:00 Introduction and host chat
      Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

      1:54 ShiaShen called in about episode 96. ShiaShen has multiple Scelorsis and talks about the affect this has on your marriage.

      5:35 John from Saint Louis calls in to ask what social monogamy is and asks for some examples. Minx talks about how something could look monogamous from the outside but may not be really. This is social monogamy.

      7:07 Polychronicles calls in to wish his wife H and J happy one year anniversary! congrats!

      7:54 L wrote in on Episode 169: Stop hurting my partner! L is in a difficult situation where their sweetie is still with their hurtful metamour and there seems to be very little communication.

      13:32 Charlie wrote in episode 174: Fearless Communication. He brought up that standing up for yourself doesn’t have to include yelling. Yelling can be a trigger for people who have been abused. Minx talks about her own history and the communication she grew up and how that affected her.

      19:34 Responses to episode 175: Kalosexual?

      19:49 Ximinez writes in and comments that edamosexual” sounds like you are getting turned on by soy beans. Minx thinks it sounds more like Captain Adama from BSG.

      20:00 fountainoffilth likes the word onestamory, using the italian word for honesty.

      20;25 Tom suggests pithosexual with the greek root pitho-, meaning truth.

      21:10 Vrimj wrote in with the suggestion of trothophilia.

      21:40 MadBaker of Green Bay calls in and congratulating J on his new addition.

      22:22 Will called in with compliments and comments for Minx, Poly Weekly, and Poly Pride. He was, however, talking about his frustrations being a single guy at these kinds of events. (Honestly, kinda know how he feels. I am not single but my wife isn’t as much of a going out person I am so I go to events a lot by myself -FS)

      Wrap-up
      Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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      Poly Weekly Book Club (NEW LOCATION): Wednesday, Sept. 3rd

      Hello, all.

      A quick reminder for next month’s Poly Weekly Book Club. Since it turns out that the city location isn’t convenient for most of the group, I’ve scoped out a new one that will be closer for most regular PWBookers:

      Lido’s Caffe
      122 N. Marion St.
      Oak Park, IL 60301
      708-660-0060
      www.lidoscaffe.com

      It’s 1/2 block from the Oak Park Metra stop and 1 1/2 blocks from the Harlem Green line stop. Metered parking lots are available on South Avenue and next to the shop. It just opened up two weeks ago, and they have a great room in the back with big tables for us. Menu includes coffee, Italian gelatto and even a few panini. They’re thrilled to have a book club meeting there, and it’s a lovely, quiet place for us!

      Other details:

      Wednesday, September 3rd, 6:00-9:00 p.m.

      Book: If the Buddha Dated (and please come on out to meet with poly folks, even if you haven’t read the book!)

      Please RSVP so I’ll know to look for you or if you have any questions.

      Minx
      cunningminx@comcast.net
      www.polyweekly.com
      206-202-POLY listener comments

      Poly Weekly Book Club: If the Buddha Dated

      Hello, all!

      It’s that time again! Grab, borrow, rent or steal a copy of this month’s book club selection, If the Buddha Dated: a Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path. Thanks to Mary for the suggestion! This month’s book isn’t specifically poly, but it is about creating a whole spiritual you so that you can go out and date happily.


      Where: choosing a new location–stay tuned!
      When: Wednesday, September 3rd, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
      How: Go to http://tinyurl.com/5st8ze and order a copy, or check with your local library, read it, and come with comments
      Why: because we all need a little spiritual introspection every now and then

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