Sex 2.0: The new sex educators

Ducky DoolittleNotes from Ducky Dolittle’s session at Sex 2.0:

  • Ducky started doing peep shows on 42nd Street and spent a lot of time being ashamed of her work. Then she met Annie Sprinkle and decided to become an educator. Got her GED and set out to create an army of sex educators to invade the world.
  • Ducky talks money: sex educators need to talk to each other to compare notes on what and how they were paid for certain gigs and share notes about the most reliable clients
  • It’s on sex educators to create a standard that others can look up to: we need accreditation
  • The trials of choosing a sponsor–we need to get paid for our speaking (and no one makes money from a book) but we don’t always get to choose each toy that the sponsors promote. What do you think of Sue Johanson or Dr. Ruth? The point: have a critical eye to content and talk to other educators.
  • Dr. Ruth still maintains a private practice three days a week–very few can make a full-time salary as a sex educator
  • “The number one way we learn anything in life is through gossip.” We all have the ability to be great sex educators if we take the time to listen to others.
  • Who is your favorite sex educator and why? Answering these questions will help guide your path as a sex educator. Who came up in the session as fave educators: Heather Corinna, Betty Dodson, Dan Savage

Poly Living Conference coming to Seattle October 2010

From Loving More:

This October Loving More is thrilled to announce for the first time Loving More® will holding a
major polyamory relationship conference in SEATTLE WASHINGTON! Loving More is excited to bring this wonderful conference to an equally wonderful part of the country.

The PolyLiving Conference features a range of informative workshops from basic to advanced and from intellectual to experiential, covering topics both fun and serious.

Poly Living, orginally founded by the late George Marvil, is a place to learn relationship skills that support healthy polyamorous realationships.

  • Friday night Keynote,Concert and Reception
  • Saturday to Sunday- 18 Amazing workshops by nationally known polyamory facilitators
  • Saturday Luncheon

Click here for pricing and details

Featuring in Concert Friday Night Bone Poets Orchestra
Bone Poets Orchestra (formally known as Gaia Consort) will be preforming in concert Friday following the keynote. Psychedelic Steampunk in the tradition of Jethro Tull, Pink Floyd and other hallucinogenic masters.

Sex 2.0: Seattle, May 22-23

SEATTLE – Sex 2.0 celebrates its third year May 22-23, 2010, in Seattle, Washington, at the Quality Inn. For the first time, the conference is heading to the West Coast and expanding across an entire weekend, attracting local and national influencers, entrepreneurs and enthusiasts who are defining the future of sex and technology.

Sex 2.0 focuses on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks — or both? These questions, and many more, are addressed within a safe, welcoming, sex positive space.

Topics this year include building your sex positive presence online, using the internet to connect with people as a sex coach or educator, participatory community organizing for social and sexual freedom, the new sex educators, and more. There will be panels on new media, distance sex work, and using the internet to improve the sex industry.

Featuring certified sexologist and author of Sex Secrets of Escorts: Tips From a Pro, Veronica Monet, as the keynote speaker and a discussion leader. Other session leaders include educator, writer, and founder of Cuddle Parties, Reid Mihalko; executive director of the Center and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, Allena Gabosch; world-premiere rope bondage podcaster, author and activist Graydancer; president of Love U Parties, author, sex educator and activist, Ducky Doolittle; author, high priestess, and founder of Temple of the Red Lotus, Inara de Luna; sex advice podcaster Dr. Dick (Richard Wagner), Ph.D., ACS; and many more.

The conference welcomes all sex positive individuals 18+, the GLBTQ, poly, kinky, sex workers, podcasters, eroticists, activists and more. At Sex 2.0, everyone is a participant, rather than a passive attendee, joining conversations rather than listening to presentations. Respecting the confidentiality and protecting the identities of participants who wish to maintain a degree of anonymity is a top priority at Sex 2.0.

Profits will go to the Northwest chapter of the Sex Workers Outreach Project, which is dedicated to the fundamental human rights of sex workers and their communities, focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy, and to the event producer, the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture.

Advance registration is mandatory, given the relatively sensitive nature of this event. Registration is open and tickets are $50 until May 19 or tickets sell out.

The conference is being held at the Quality Inn at 618 John St., in the heart of Seattle beside the famous Space Needle and Seattle Center. It officially runs from 9 a.m. Saturday to 4 p.m. Sunday, with parties on Friday and Sunday.

Learn more about the event and register at www.sex20con.com.

Sex 2.0 is being produced and sponsored by Seattle’s Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that promotes the many ways sex is beneficial through education, outreach, the arts, advocacy, and research programs that serve the public.

Polyamory 201 with Tristan Taormino

Went to a fantastic session last night with my awesome friend Yvonne. Babeland in Seattle was hosting the ever-articulate Tristan Taormino and her Poly 201 session on poly relationships and what makes or breaks them. My notes from the session:

  • Key to dealing with NRE: patience, compassion, communication.
  • Key to dealing with poly time management: organization, Google calendar, negotiation skills.
  • It’s not just “you’ve got Tuesday nights;” time carries with it a tremendous emotional charge.
  • Key to dealing with poly micommunication: honesty, self-awareness, and (surprise, surprise) COMMUNICATION.
  • Disclose, disclose, disclose! You might not think it’s a big deal that your new girlfriend is a stripper, but your husband might.
  • Keys to addressing poly agreement violation: make explicit agreement with a checklist. Make a “gray area” rule.
  • Jealousy as a behavior is modeled and rewarded in our society. Too many pop culture songs, movies and TV shows make reference to someone “really” loving a partner if he/she gets jealous.
  • So let’s unpack jealousy: envy, posessiveness, competitiveness, feeling excluded, insecurity.
  • Re jealousy: when you think “someone is smarter than me,” you really mean “I am not smart enough”
  • Solution to jealousy: face your fear. Take it out to dinner. See it for what it is.
  • Harness NRE for good and not evil, knowing it will come back to your existing relationship. When your partner comes home all hopped up on endorphins, jump him!–Selfish person’s guide to NRE

Poly Weekly #227: Black Box Republic

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Interview: Sam and April of Black Box Republic

Sam Lawrence and April talk about the inspiration for hip new sex-positive dating site Black Box Republic, how it came to be, and who should join and why.

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Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 226: How to choose a partner

Poly Weekly #226: How to choose a poly partner direct download

Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Co hosts

Joreth
Pepper
Franklin

Announcements

Jade Gate Studio in Portland, OR is hosting a Year of the White Tiger erotic art show and after party, 6:00 p.m.-2:00 a.m., Saturday, Feb. 13th, FetLife event announcement

Topic: How do you choose a poly partner?

Joreth, Pepper, Franklin and Minx discuss the two aspects of this question: how do you find, meet and get to know partners, and how do you vet them? Joe, Brendan, Polina and Jessica commented via Facebook that they simply run into people in everyday life, often when they are not looking, and get to know people that they like and who treat them well.

Jeff asks for feedback via Facebook on a situation in which he made first physical contact (holding hands) with a new partner in his current partner’s presence, which led to a fight.

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #225: Modern Poly Fundraiser

This week’s Poly Weekly #225: Modern Poly fundraiser

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

  • Charlotte, NC has a new poly RPG meetup group: Mac’s Speed Shop January 17th 5:00 p.m.
  • Jade Gate Studio in Portland, OR is hosting a Year of the White Tiger erotic art show and after party, 6:00 p.m.-2:00 a.m., Saturday, Feb. 13th, FetLife event announcement
  • Interview: Modern Poly
    A chat with Mai Li, the PR branch of the new Modern Poly website, a place for poly activists, organizers and general poly folks seeking education to gather.

    Feedback
    Poly Weekly 222, Metamours, Change and Insecurity
    Cheyenne on taking time away from the primary relationship

    Wrap-up
    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly book club meets WEDNESDAY, MAY 6th

Ready for the next book club, sure to be fun? This one is a bit different–go see the new play here in Chicago, All My Love, and we’ll discuss next month!

When: Wednesday, May 6th 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Where: Lido’s Caffe, 122 N Marion St, Oak Park, IL 60303, (708) 660-0060, one block from the Harlem Green line stop; meters and lot parking available
What: All My Love, playing at the Theater Building
Who: anyone who is poly or poly-curious, whether you’ve read the book or not. Or who just likes great gelato!

Come on out and join us; we always have a great time!

NOTE: If there is interest in continuing the club after I leave the state in June, let’s please talk.

Poly Weekly #199: All My Love

This week’s Poly Weekly #199: All My Love, a review of the Chicago play on open marriage and interview with write Tony Fiorentino.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

You can help build episode 200!
Call in to 206-309-0806 or attach an mp3 to cunningminx@gmail.com to share your poly lessons learned: “If I knew then what I know now… “–what would you have done differently?

Announcements

Review: All My Love
The play All My Love runs in Chicago through May 10, 2009

Interview: All My Love writer, Tony Fiorentino

Happy Poly Moment of the Week
TheOgre is happy to see his girlfriend again

Listener Feedback
DonutRooter calls in about Psychology Today article questioning whether open marriage could be a solution to cheating

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #189: Coming Out Poly

This week Poly Weekly #189: Coming out poly… in Milwaukee.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

10:07 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Eater writes in with a concern about which partner should sit where while at a restaurant; Miss Poly Manners suggest being near the one you see less, or switch it up, and many other great suggestions.

13:58 Coming out Poly party
Minx talks about the great turn out to the Coming Out Poly party; Ash and Lindsay talk about the purpose of the party and their reaction; Ash and Lindsay talk about what they want from the group; they talk about how somebody could start their own group.

21:43 Minx talks to Boone
Minx asks Boone about the awesomeness that is coming out poly

26:14 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Fred wrote in and told us about the passing of his cat and how the large network of metamours helped be supportive.

27:38 Nobilis called in thanking Minx for her thoughts on relationships and how they impacted his own thoughts; Chris wrote in with his appreciation of episode 186. Kevin wrote in with his own comments.

30:55 Jillian wrote in commenting on Anita Blake.

32:40 Frya called in thanking Minx for the show as she works through the past episodes.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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