PW 328: My three dads

A proposed California law that would allow a child to have three legal parents. Also, movie review of Savages.

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Introduction

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1:30 News and host chat

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3:00 Topic: My Three Dads

California considers a law that would allow more than two parents for a child.

10:30 Movie review: Savages

Joreth provides a review of this poly movie. Alan at Poly in the Media’s report on the aggregated reviews: Savages, the Movie and Its Star Triad

Feedback

Vicky writes in to let us know that “vagina” is the proper medical term, but “vulva” is often used to refer to the external female genitalia, including the labia.

24:45 Thanks

Thanks to Marshall and Ioana for the donations this week. Woo hoo!

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PW 324: Poly parenting with Sierra Black

How does one wrangle being polyamorous and parenting at the same time? Sierra Black tells us!

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1:00 News and host chat

12:00 Topic: Poly families with Sierra Black

Sierra Black’s Salon article on her open marriage and the getting back together

a.blogspot.com/2012/04/on-abcs-2020-polyfamily-network-shows.html”>20/20 episode on polyamory and parenting.

Parenting questions she is asked:

  • How do you find the time to be poly with a 4-year-old, a 7-year-old and an 18-year-old? Answer: this isn’t a one-way street; everyone pitches in so others can have date time.
  • What do you tell the kids? Answer: Be open about who everyone is with age-appropriate information.
  • What do you do when relationships end? Answer: deal with them just as you would with step-parents and keep them in the kids’ lives whenever possible.
  • What advice do you have about coming out to older kids? Answer: we’re lucky because everyone in the community is open and poly and the kids have a support network.
  • How are you out to the other adults in your kids’ life? School administrators, grandparents, doctors? Answer: anything you radiate normal, healthy vibes about, people will take in stride. Be comfortable, confident and open, and it’s easy to be out.

Conclusion: kids are very What’s In It for Me? They want to know that they are loved and that mommy, daddy and everyone else loves and cares about them, too.

Sierra blogs at ChildWild.com and writes for Babble.

38:00 Thanks

Thanks to Mike for the $69 donation!

39:00 Wrapup

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PW 297: Poly for the holidays

Advice on the ins and outs of being poly around friends and relatives during the holidays

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Introduction

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1:30 Topic: Poly for the holidays

Sometimes it’s tough to be poly over the holidays. Which relatives are you out to? Can you introduce your lover to your auntie May? How do you schedule family time? Listeners wrote in via Facebook and Twitter to ask the toughest holiday-related poly issues, and cohosts Joreth and Puck help Minx to sort them out:

  • How to introduce non-spouses
  • How to prevent your poly-aware daughter from letting closeted poly relationships slip in front of the “in-laws”
  • Is being closeted OK to certain relatives?
  • How do you handle feeling secondary and isolated?
  • How do you manage economic disparities?
  • How do you deal with missing some and disappointing others?

37:30 Book reviews

Kurt shares book reviews of popular romance stories with contemporary, realistic settings: Jet Lag Blues and Kindle ebook Songbird.

43:00 Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

PW 271: The secondary blues

The secondary blues

From listener Amy: how do you deal with being a secondary when you long for primary benefits?

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Introduction and host chat

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Announcements

Girl with the Dragon Tattoo

Book review: Girl with the Dragon Tattoo

  • Kurt reviews poly themes and relationships in the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series

Advice from the crew: what if you’re secondary but don’t want to be?

What if you long to be a live-in primary, but metamours or partners are putting on the brakes? Cohosts Franklin Veaux, Joreth and Pepper give advice to listener Amy.

Thank you

Frances, Paul and Tofa for donations! You rock my world and help cover bandwidth and travel expenses.

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly 249: Poly Parenting

Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan
Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan (of Family the web series) talk parenting in a poly situation

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Introduction and host chat
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Announcements
PolyATL.com is a non-profit and free poly community site built for the Atlanta, GA area and the SE United States.

Sex, Sin and Zen: Buddhist Sex, from Polyamory, Porn, Power, and Paying for it, to Doing it with All the Lights on

Interview: Poly parenting
Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan share their experiences on being poly with children and thoughts on explaining poly to kids.

  • How their relationship and living situation is structured
  • Dealing with the tough questions
  • On calling partners “auntie” or “uncle”
  • On the “it’s confusing” argument
  • On deceiving your children as to the nature of your relationships
  • Dealing with the kid asking, “who do you love more?”
  • Online privacy for Matt and Vera’s child

If you haven’t already, check out their awesome production, Family the Web Series.

Happy Poly Moment
R shares a poly pride moment.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 239: Poly teenager Josh

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Sex 2.0 was May 22-23 in Seattle. Stay tuned to hear the Media Whoring panel
  • Contact the Poly Media Association for tips before speaking to the media about poly; email info@polymediaassocation.com

Interview: being a poly teenager
Josh, now 20, talks with Joreth and Minx about what it was like to explore and identify as polyamorous as a teenager (blame it on Heinlein).

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 237: Personal Growth with Steve Pavlina

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Poly Weekly iPhone app with PDF show notes and audio extras is available now!
  • Sex 2.0 is May 22-23 in Seattle! Just $50 now and open to anyone sex-positive.
  • Open Love NY has its next meeting April 27. For upcoming events, check out their Facebook group.

  • PolyCharms.com has some lovely poly-friendly jewelry
  • Ready to be a representative and spokesperson for polyamory to the press? Check out the Poly Media Association first for tips and training on dealing with the media and representing well.

Interview: Steve Pavlina
A talk with Steve Pavlina, personal growth guru, on his poly explorations, his coming out as poly on his blog, his pending divorce and the public reaction to it all

Happy Poly Moment
From Malx–taking care of a partner on a business trip

Feedback
From Sean on Poly Weekly 233: What is sex?

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 232: Who gets to be the primary?

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements
Poly Weekly iPhone app with PDF show notes and audio extras is available now!

Cohosts
Joreth
Franklin Veaux
Pepper

Topic: who gets to be the primary?
Discussion of why the question is asked, why it’s important (or not) and what “primary” actually means

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly

This week’s Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

  • • “PolyApathy”- unwillingness or lack of interest in “doing the work” within a poly family
  • Toronto, Ontario, poly group: the Toronto Ethical Lovers Group meets on the second Wednesday of every month at the University of Toronto Women’s Centre from 7:30pm to 10:00 p.m.

Miss Poly Manners: Poly for the Holidays
Advice on navigating the holidays with the poly family. Visit Miss Poly Manners Googe site or the Miss Poly Manners MySpace page

Interview: Modern Poly
A chat with Mai Li, the PR branch of the new Modern Poly website, a place for poly activists, organizers and general poly folks seeking education to gather.

Feedback
Poly Weekly 221, This American Life
Crispin writes in to dispute “everyone hates cheaters” comment

Poly Weekly 222, Metamours, Change and Insecurity
More suggestions for “needing a cuddle” from Vicky, who suggests “mimosa” and George, who suggests “cuddlesie”

Thank you!
Big thanks to this week’s donors, Jennifer and Patrick! You guys rock!

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly #207: The death of the two-parent family

This week’s Poly Weekly #207: The death of the two-parent American family (and we care because… ?).

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
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Topic:The death of the two-parent American family
The Time article
Psychology Today’s corrections

Miss Poly Manners: who gets the friends after a breakup?

Wrap-up
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