FAQ: How to introduce new partners

  Hi Minx, My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and poly for one. We're talking about marriage and kids and are deeply invested in our relationship. My boyfriend has asked for a "don't ask don't tell" policy where...

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Jealousy toolbox: And Then What exercise

An exercise to add to your jealousy/insecurity toolkit We are often asked how to deal with jealousy, and we could teach an entire weekend of workshops around it. However, since we're both pretty lazy and recognize that people are really...

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FAQ: How to bring up polyamory within a monogamous relationship

Help! I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for (1-25) years, and I’ve just discovered polyamory/think I’ve always been poly. How do I get my monogamous partner to agree to this? Short answer Medium answer Ask for what you want, and be willing...

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Polyamory and BDSM FAQ

Last night, I was a human "book" on polyamory and BDSM for Bastyr's Human Library event. It's always fun to see what questions naturopath health care providers have about alternative lifestyles, and last night was no exception. Here are a...

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Giving poly a go: Top tips for poly newbies

Rose Crompton of Vibrations Direct asked about poly, podcasting and my favorite sex toys. It was a fun interview and ended with my best advice for those approaching nonmonogamy for the first time. Read the full interview here Giving poly a...

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