By Cunning Minx, on February 28th, 2013%
 Is legalization of poly marriage worth the battle?
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1:00 Announcements and host chat
- I will be hosting a poly panel and helping to emcee at Conflation in Saint Louis February 22-24
- Also a Write Your Own User Manual session followed by a meet and greet at Shameless Grounds coffee shop on Sunday, February 24th at 7:00 PM. Come join us! Calendar info
- Hidden Social: Where Sexual Variants Gather Online session at SXSWi on Sunday, March 10, 3:30 PM with Herb Coleman, Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UT Austin ( #hiddensoc )
- Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
- Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!
6:00 Topic: should we fight for legalization of poly marriage?
Mistress Matisse’s article on the legalization of poly marriage debate: You May Now Kiss the Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Bride and the Other Groom: Why Poly Marriage Is Never Going to Happen
What are your thoughts on fighting to legalize poly marriage? Do you care? Would you fight for it for the next 20 years like the gays did?
17:50 Happy Poly Moment
Vicki shares a fun snogging-oriented happy poly moment
19:45 Feedback
- CL wrote in to quote a study on how long it actually takes to create a habit. Turns out, it’s not the oft-quoted 21 days, but anywhere from 21 to 84 days, depending on the habit. Source: Author: Jeremy Dean; Title: Making Habits, Breaking Habits; Publisher: Da Capo Press; Date: Copyright 2013 by Jeremy Dean; Pages: 3-7
- Space Hippie Geek wrote in to respond to episode 300 on couple privilege and took issue with three points:
- conflating a triad and a vee (in a vee there is no romantic relationship between two of the partners)
- pointing out (quite rightly) that, “don’t only want to feel as if I’m being added onto an established family. I also want to feel that my boyfriend is joining my family. Even if I don’t have another partners, and am not close to my birth family. Even just by myself, I am a family, a household. I have my own traditions, customs, and ways of doing things.”
- While there are benefits to having everyone talk together, communicating as a group isn’t always necessary.
- Mitch advocates for my voice not being used for the proliferation of toxic sludge
29:45 Wrap up
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By Cunning Minx, on September 9th, 2012%
 What happen in the polysphere this week? Civil unions in Brazil, solo polys and Republicans on the female anatomy.
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1:00 News and host chat
- I’ll be giving Content Creation for the Online Activist at CatalystCon September 14-16 in Long Beach
3:40 This week in poly
25:00 Happy Poly Moment
- Ryan in Denver shares a cuddly HPM
- Rob shares a nekked camping HPM in Missouri
29:00 Feedback
- Joan MADE MY DAY with her heartfelt thanks for episode 330 on welcoming a third into your relationship
32:00 Thanks
Thanks to Eric, Joan and John for the donations this week!
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By Cunning Minx, on June 14th, 2012%
 Did you know that for hundreds of years, the Catholic church performed same sex unions and has never declared marriage to be between one man and one woman?
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Introduction
Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen
1:00 News and host chat
 7:00 Topic: What you need to know about the church and gay marriage
Welcome to our special guest, Richard Wagner, otherwise known as Dr. Dick of Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice, a former priest and sexologist. Dr. Wagner debunks common misbeliefs about gay marriage, citing historical evidence that up until the 14th century, the church conducted same-sex unions, had an Office of Same Sex Unions and has never defined marriage as being between a man and a woman; in fact, it seemed to avoid using those terms.
Articles discussed: When Same Sex Marriage Was a Christian Rite, Same-Sex Unions in Premodern Europe by historian John Boswell
Dr. Wagner’s new book, the Amateur’s Guide to Death and Dying.
30:00 Thanks
Thanks to Shana, whom I had the pleasure of meeting at OpenSF, for the generous $200 donation!
32:00 Wrapup
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By Cunning Minx, on May 9th, 2012%
 Thoughts on marriage as a conscious relationship and lifestyle choice rather than the default or the result of peer pressure
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Introduction
Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen
1:20 News and host chat
3:10 Topic: Marriage as a conscious choice
A recent Huffington Post personal essay questioning marriage as peer pressure in the 20-30 age range as well as:
- The possibility that even with a lot of love and communication, it might not be enough and the marriage might need to end
- The groupthink that marriage is hard but always worth it
- The lack of alternative relationship choices
- Marriage as the default rather than a custom option
20:20 Feedback on episode 316 Queer as a verb
- Alyssa writes in to say “Sometimes the radical, panties-in-a-bunch, queers need to chill the fuck out, and what better way to chill out than to realize that something you revolve your life around isn’t a big deal to EVERYONE!”
- Vir writes in to say that I’ve queered my relationship and my sex life (through kink/fetishes)
24:10 Thanks
Thanks to Meg for the donation this week!
Wrapup
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By Cunning Minx, on May 3rd, 2012%
 Dr. Tammy Nelson shares how the world of online dating, social media and texting has changed marriage and monogamy
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Introduction
Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen
2:00 The New Monogamy with Dr. Tammy Nelson
Dr. Tammy Nelson, therapist and author of a soon-to-be-released book on The New Monogamy, answers questions on the new state of monogamy:
- Has marriage gone out of fashion?
- How has online dating affected marriage?
- Do those who identify as monogamous need to expect infidelity?
- Are Facebook and texting to blame for affairs?
- Are affairs actually good for a marriage?
- What is the new monogamy?
31:40 Feedback
Jess writes in to thank PW for helping her poly family through the introduction of HPV and the tools to help the group be level-headed and talk openly and honestly.
Wrapup
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By Cunning Minx, on February 20th, 2012%
 Being poly in America February 2012–how did the world treat nonmonogamy this Valentine’s Day?
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Introduction
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1:00 News and host chat
- Thanks for your patience with the audio—think we’ve fixed it
4:20 Topic: Being poly in February 2012 for Valentine’s Day
Poly in the media and how love and relationships are being viewed for this year’s Valentine’s Day.
22:10 Feedback
- Musqurat calls in to correct my assertion that the word “polyamory” was coined by Morning Glory Zell. In fact, she used the word “polyamorous;” the word “polyamory” was first used by Jennifer Wesp in the Usenet group in 1992.
- Fred writes in to share that he found his identity as a monoamorist who likes occasional play with others.
25:10 Wrapup
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By Cunning Minx, on October 3rd, 2011%
 The Sister Wives lawsuit and how it affects polyamorists Alan from Poly in the Media covers the crux of the Sister Wives lawsuit–and why polyamorists should care
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Introduction
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1:00 Announcements
2:25 Suing with the Sister Wives
Alan from Poly in Media shares the details of the Sister Wives lawsuit and point out that this is as close to a lawsuit for the right to privacy within a poly relationship as we will ever find in the mainstream media.
- Kodi Brown and his four wives’ family structure; only Kodi and Meri are legally married; the rest live together and call each other “sister wives” but are not legally married
- The difference from other poly court cases that some poly groups have been leery of aligning with
- The constitutional right/issue being questioned here–NOT the right to marry but the right to cohabitate lovingly in peace.
- The reaction within the poly leadership community
- What are the benefits of poly leaders aligning with and supporting this case? What are the drawbacks?
- What is happening with the case right now
Links: Sister Wives challenge anti-polygamy law
Poly Events
21:00 Book Review: Resident Aliens
Book review by Kurt on the Joe Ashby Porter novel. Not a book to run out and buy, but a book with poly characters.
24:45 Feedback
- Matt from Detroit rants on marriage, what it really means and adding preachers and legislation into marriage.
- Lissie in Cleveland asks for more information on the kinky bed and breakfast in Michigan
- Jeannie in Vermont comments on Sister Wives and asks why polys wouldn’t promote polygamous pride in Utah—she would.
47:20 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on July 17th, 2011%
 What do you think of Dan Savage’s NYT article on non-monogamy?
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Introduction
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2:45 Book review
PW book reviewer Kurt review’s Kathy Labriola’s Love in Abudance, a Counselor’s Guide to Opening Relationships The book deals with poly effects on current relationships, including dealing with demotion, displacement and intrusion.
8:20 Poly movie review: La Belle Epoque
PW film reviewer Joreth reviews the 1992 Spanish poly-ish film, la Belle Epoque.
15:30 Topic: Dan Savage’s take on infidelity
Discussing the huge, seven-page article in the New York Times exploring Dan Savage’s take on infidelity and the role it plays in keeping monogamous relationships together.
32:45 Feedback
- John from Lacy responds to 276, “Okay” is a four-letter word, claiming responsibility for communication falls on all parties
- Emily calls in from a smallish Midwestern college town and asks about Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell in her relationship. If she isn’t comfortable with it, what should she do?
Josh calls in to muse on the question of why we get married to begin with. What is your reason?
45:15 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on June 6th, 2011%
 Violet Blue's Total Flirt iPhone app “Okay” and “fine” are four-letter words–ban them from your relationship
vocabulary!
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Introduction and host chat
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:40 App review: Violet Blue’s Total Flirt
Review of Violet Blue’s fun new wingman iPhone app, Total Flirt.
2:50 Book review: Open All the Way
 Open All the Way by Sexy Sadie Kurt provides his review of Sadie Smythe’s book, Open All the Way, on her and her husband’s experiences with opening up the marriage, both in theory and in practice. They deal with jealousy, breakups and NRE and share the value and benefits of multiple loves. Kurt also shares their musings on the pervasive power of monogamy.
7:15 Topic: “Okay” is a four-letter word
And our topic today is a rebroadcast from July 2008 and relevant for everyone whether you’re poly, monogamous, curious or confused. Get ready for a vintage rants!
- “OK” “fine” are both evil because it doesn’t provide information; instead it begs many questions.
- If you are asking a new person out and you have a current partner, you will need to expect them to meet.
- How tough it is for secondaries ending up mixing it up with somebody or both people from a couple and the challenges that go with that
- Your new relationships need some TLC as well.
- Some advice for the metamour. Don’t use the word “OK.” Say something like “I really enjoy watching Steve doing X” as one example. In conclusion, don’t use “OK”!
19:00 Feedback
- Tina calls in to share thoughts that poly is reaching critical mass and easier to find; on having difficulty finding the POV of young poly folks (versus older and settling down); and on STI information and episodes
- 28:15 Josh calls in about bisexuality—what do you think?
29:05 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
By Cunning Minx, on October 18th, 2010%
Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast
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 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.
Announcements
- Welcome to our old-school cohost, Graydancer of the Ropecast
- Thanks to our long-term forum administrator and moderator, Vrimj
- Welcome to our new forum moderator, WhetStone
- Thanks to Kotu for our new WordPress design–isn’t it pretty?
- Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010
Is marriage out of style and other poly questions
Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!
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