PW 366: Poly in small town America

How do you meet and date polys when you live in a small town?

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1:00 Host chat

  • I need your advice? How did you come to be comfy with poly when it wasn’t your idea? Call me to contribute to an upcoming show! 802-505-POLY
  • Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert are writing a book! Help fund their Indiegogo campaign to write it!
  • I’m presenting at CatalystCon on how to be a part-time sex educator Sept 27-29

9:05 Topic: How to be poly in small town America?

Listener H writes in to ask for advice on the following questions:

  • How do you meet poly people in a small town when you’re in the Bible belt and not out?
  • Do you ever feel lonely being “poly single”—with a partner but seeking others? How do you deal with it?
  • How do you find the right poly people and determine that they are who they say they are?

And listener Forrest has donated the following three works of art. Email me at polyweekly@gmail.com with your advice. The first three to respond receive a beautiful, hot work of art!

16:00 Happy Poly Moment

  • Listener K shares a wonderful tale of starting a healthy poly relationship with lots of sexy bed time
  • Aura shared two Happy Poly Moments:
    • As the adults discussed new construction to the house to accommodate a new partner, a kid asked about the new partner moving in and expressed delight that the answer was yes
    • Her husband’s mother gave positive feedback on the family dynamic, outside of any poly prejudice

20:10  Feedback

Wrap up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 365: Building your poly community with meetups

Wondering where the polys in your area are? Start a meetup and find out!

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1:00 Host chat

7:45 Topic: Building your poly community through meetups

Steve Culhane, an organizer of the Charlotte Polyamory Network, gives advice on how to start a successful poly meetup if you don’t have a group in your area.

  • Start a group for the right reasons: for community, not sexual partners
  • How to safeguard member privacy
  • Get started: schedule a meetup in a public place
  • Put newbies on your board! Bring on resources/help to keep the group going beyond your own involvement.
  • Take steps to keep drama out of the group
  • Relationship Equality Foundation
  • Don’t get discouraged when attendance drops—change location or ask the board for new ideas
  • Charlotte Polyamory Network

35:00 Wrap up

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PW 321: Avoiding meetup drama

PW Playmate asks: how to you run a growing poly meetup without conflict and drama in the community?

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:00 News and host chat

7:00 Interview: Avoiding meetup drama with Allena Gabosch

A PW Playmate (woo hoo!) writes in to ask:

I’ve been pretty involved in my local poly community for a couple of years. It’s about doubled in size since we started doing more outreach, and with that has come much more drama and conflict within the community. We’re not quite sure how to handle it without alienating people.

Allena Gabosch, Director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture, gives advice:

  • Be open to everyone
  • Leaders, remember to come from service and put your ego aside
  • Give naysayers responsibilities for improving the group
  • Acknowledge and address naysayer issues publicly

If you’re in or near Seattle, come to SEAF, June 16-24, 2012!

33:00 Movie Review

Joreth gives a review of the 1993 film Café au lait.

38:00 Wrapup

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

3rd Annual Escape Pod/Poly Weekly Dragon*Con Brunch Meetup is ON!

EP PW DragonCon meetupGoing to Dragon*Con? Wanna meet up with geeky sci-fi and poly folks? Come on out to the third annual Escape Pod/Poly Weekly Dragon*Con Brunch Extravaganza!

Space is limited, so please RSVP here ASAP!

When: Sunday, September 6th, 11:00 a.m.-1:00 p.m.
Who: all Escape Pod and Poly Weekly fans
What: pay-your-own-way brunch
Where: Gordon Biersch brew pub, 848 Peachtree St NE, Atlanta, GA

Hope to see you all there! Working on getting a space for a Poly Weekly LIVE! episode as well… will let you know!

Poly Weekly book club meets WEDNESDAY, MARCH 4th

Ready to discuss relationships this time? Let’s take some advice from a monogamist!

Gottman's Seven Principles for Making  a Marriage Work

When: Wednesday, March 4th, 6:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
Where: Lidos Caffe, 122 N. Marion Street, Oak Park, IL
What: hearty discussion of relationships among poly and poly-friendly folks

Please RSVP so we know to look for you–we usually meet in the back room. See y’all there!

Poly Weekly #189: Coming Out Poly

This week Poly Weekly #189: Coming out poly… in Milwaukee.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

10:07 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Eater writes in with a concern about which partner should sit where while at a restaurant; Miss Poly Manners suggest being near the one you see less, or switch it up, and many other great suggestions.

13:58 Coming out Poly party
Minx talks about the great turn out to the Coming Out Poly party; Ash and Lindsay talk about the purpose of the party and their reaction; Ash and Lindsay talk about what they want from the group; they talk about how somebody could start their own group.

21:43 Minx talks to Boone
Minx asks Boone about the awesomeness that is coming out poly

26:14 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Fred wrote in and told us about the passing of his cat and how the large network of metamours helped be supportive.

27:38 Nobilis called in thanking Minx for her thoughts on relationships and how they impacted his own thoughts; Chris wrote in with his appreciation of episode 186. Kevin wrote in with his own comments.

30:55 Jillian wrote in commenting on Anita Blake.

32:40 Frya called in thanking Minx for the show as she works through the past episodes.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Coming Out Poly meets in Milwaukee TONIGHT!

Hey, guys. If you’re in or near Milwaukee, come on out to the first meeting of Coming Out Poly, Milwaukee’s first polyamorous social and discussion group!

Where: The Tool Shed, 2427 N. Murray Ave., Milwaukee, WI
When: tonight, 7:00
Why: because when polys gather, great things happen
Who: poly or poly-curious from Wisconsin

I’ll be there to interview the hosts, so please come out, introduce yourself and join in the discussion!

San Francisco Meetup WEDNESDAY, Jan. 7th, 6:00 p.m.

Thanks to PepperMint for letting us crash his meetup group:

Wed Jan 7th (every 1st Wednesday)
6-8pm coffeehouse social
8-10pm dinner (I won’t be joining)

Muddy Waters Coffeehouse
521 Valencia St, between 16th and 17th
San Francisco

Please RSVP here so I’ll know how many to expect. Thanks!

Poly Weekly #184: Poly for the holidays

This week Poly Weekly #184:Poly for the holidays.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

4:20 Announcements
Polytics.org
Global Orgasm Day was December 21st
7:05 Pimp My Boobs contest with prize of a free snuggie to the winner!

11:20 Topic: Poly for the holidays

  • Gift advice from the Minx
  • Take care of yourself
  • Say how you feel
  • Don’t leave compliments and gratitude unspoken

Winter Beverage Mix
2 C creamer
2 C instant hot chocolate mix
1 1/2 C instant coffee
1 1/2 C sugar
1 T cinnamon
2 t nutmeg

Combine all ingredients in a large bowl. To give as gifts, scoop into jars and tie with a ribbon.

23:00 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Jacob from Texas

24:20 Feedback: Poly Weekly #181: Your First Poly Munch
Toadfamiliar mailed in and hopes to attend more poly munches despite a paticularly creepy person; John wrote in with his support of what Minx said; Amul called in with clarifications on TNGC and how new people are introduced into the group; Kit wants to know how to start a munch.

Thanks to Patrick for his donation!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly #181: Your First Poly Munch

This week Poly Weekly #181:Your First Poly Munch.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.
1:57 Announcements

  • Bitsy started a TNG(The Next Generation) Poly Group. This is part of the larger Chesapeake Poly Network. They meet 4th thursday of the month at SoHo Tea and Coffee in DuPont.
  • Our sponsors, Adam and Eve are back! Wait for some great reviews of porn and lingerie!
  • Keep your ears and eyes open for Porn and Brownie Night! or, make your own!

Here is a link for CPTNG

7:30 How to attend your first poly munch
Minx first reads the listener mail that inspired this topic; Bitsy mails in with her thoughts on how hard it is to fit in with a new group. She also mentions how uncomfortable it was to be hit on by so many people at Poly Pride.(I hit on you minx! -fs). Wolfpup also wrote in about Will’s experience in Australia is not that different from Will’s.

11:00 Saro Lynne has a great post on this subject. Here
Minx goes through this article and talks about her thoughts; Minx talks about those creepy people who show up to munches and how to deal with them. If you are the organizer it is also important to make sure everybody feels welcome and comfortable.

16:57 Minx goes through the Saro’s advice for attending your first munch.

20:00 Minx goes into her advice on how to handle yourself

  • Introduce yourself on the mailing list.
  • accept being nervous
  • introduce yourself to the host and let them know you have never been
  • be prepared to answer why you are there
  • set yourself a goal to talk to 5 people
  • if you don’t like who you are talking to, talk to somebody else
  • if single guy, try not to look predatory. Make out with a guy! Or maybe volunteer
  • if single girl, it is ok to say no.
  • if couple, work at trying to not “gang up” on people. talk to people seperately sometimes

29:35 Listener Feedback
Milla writes in about a poly example in anime; Shoshona wrote in talking about how great the advice on the show is; jack wrote in and told a great story of when him and his wife were swing dancers and the frubbly emotions watching his wife dance with other men.

Thanks Elizabeth for your donation!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

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