PW 356: The poly hype cycle

Where do we sit on the media hype cycle for polyamory?

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1:00 Topic: Where are we on the poly hype cycle?

The fabulous Sierra Black wrote a response to Andrea Zanin’s polynormativity post and pondered how to be more inclusive in our media representations. Minx suggests that polyamory is in the rising phase of the hype cycle and suffering from inflated expectations.

Other links: Jenny Block’s book Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage

Pedestrian Polyamory podcast

19:25 Happy Poly Moment

S shares a moment that is not especially happy but when polyamory’s benefits and love shine.

22:00 Thank you

Thanks to Michael for his donations this week! Plus, app subscribers and Poly Weekly Playmates got a little something extra last week. :-) Thank you for supporting PW!

Wrap up

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PW 354: Wife Swap

When a poly family swaps wives with a right-wing family on a reality TV show, who comes off better?

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

  • LustyGuy is cohosting!

2:00 Topic: Polyamory on Wife Swap

On the reality TV show Wife Swamp, a polyamorous family swapped wives (not sexual, just lifestyle) with a right-wing religious family. Who came off better? Across the board, reviewers agree it was the poly family!

31:50 Happy Poly Moment

Dominic from Wisconsin calls in to share a moment in which life rewards courage!

35:00 Feedback: Episode 350

  • AggieSez calls in to let us know about unmarried equality
  • Frank writes in to ask why there are any tax benefits at all to marriage
  • Jason comments that we should have marriage be defined by the individuals involved, not the government
  • S shares her situation in which she lives with partners and then married one, which brought up conflicting emotions regarding the other relationship. No answers, but she poses some great questions.
  • Edward reminds us about marriage in the Roman Empire.

46:00 Thank you

Thanks to Marshall, Isabelle, Denise and Kerra for their donations this week!

Wrap up

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PW 353: Polynormativity

Is there a polynormative model in the media? And if so, what issues can that create for poly newbies?

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1:00 Announcements and host chat

  • Had a great time at Conflation; thanks to everyone for making us feel relaxed and welcome!
  • Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
  • Want to help send Minx to SXSWi and CatalystCon this year? We just need 10 $96 donations so I can eat! And we LOVE $69 and $96 donations!

Interview: Andrea Zanin on polynormativity

Andrea’s longish essay on the problem with polynormativity is here. You can find Andrea’s essays on her Sex Geek blog.

Wrap up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY (our new number!). And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 332: The reality behind Showtime’s polyamory

An interview with Anthony and Vanessa on the reality process behind Showtime’s Polyamory: Married and Dating

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1:00 News and host chat

  • I’ll be giving Content Creation for the Online Activist at CatalystCon September 14-16 in Long Beach

3:00 Interview: Anthony and Vanessa from Polyamory: Married and Dating

  • Anthony Christofani

    How long have you identified as poly and how did you come into it?

    • Anthony was always poly before he knew the word; Vanessa came to it from cheating.
  • Why did you decide to put your personal and sex lives on TV?
    • No one else raised their hands!
  • Did you have messaging goals going in and if so, are they being met?
    • Starting the conversation about an alternative to monogamy and the possibility of a functional, intimate relationship with more than one person
    • Coming across as happy and healthy
  • What was not included?
    • The rest of our lives: they cut out pretty much everything but the relationship (jobs, school, political activism, family issues)
  • What’s with all the sex scenes?
    • Vanessa posits that the sex shown is loving group sex, which is new
  • How do you respond to the community criticism regarding the lack of diversity in casting?

    Vanessa Carlisle

    • The show is limited to the few people willing to put their lives on TV, and there were attempts to show diversity, but none of those people agreed to be on the show
  • How much of the show is staged?
    • Yes and no to the staging question. They are not told to say anything in particular, but filming is scheduling in advance.
  • What do you want the polys and monogamous folks of the world to know?
    • Monogamous: thanks for the open-mindedness
    • Poly: thanks for the support and remember that we only represent ourselves; this is just the first foray

35:00 Feedback: how do I convey jealousy to my partner without him off?

A writes in to ask for advice. Her new partner was previously monogamous, and when A has occasional bouts of jealousy and insecurity, the new partner will just end the new relationship to make it easier on A. “How can I go about asking for the care I need without scaring him off?”

  • Edward: tell him you’re feeling jealous and explain it’s not a call to action
  • Ken: communicate the feeling of insecurity and ask him to help you understand it
  • Sarah: just say how you feel and reassure your partner that they don’t need to act
  • Scott: African masks and a voodoo ritual (to scare your partner off)?
  • Becky: admit feelings to yourself first and admit they aren’t rational; say “I don’t need you to change what you’re doing, but I just wanted you to know what is going on”
  • Dave: preface with “I feel kinda dumb bringing this up, but…” and share your feelings
  • Gigi: preface with “I realize this is really more about me and not about the situation… “ and share your feelings
  • Andrew: be responsible for your feelings and express them so that it’s clear to your partner that you know you are responsible
  • Lindsay: communicate root of your jealousy clearly and own your feelings

42:00 Thanks

Thanks to Joan for the donation this week!

43:00 Wrapup

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!


PW 329: “Reality” polyamory on Showtime

Showtime’s new reality show Polyamory: Married and Dating. Is it as good as we want or as bad as we fear?

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Introduction

Under-18 warning and redirection to Scarleteen

1:30 News and host chat

  • Wanna go to Burning Man? We are raffling off a ticket in July as a fundraiser to send Minx to CatalystCon! For every $10 donation here, you’ll get one raffle entry. On July 31 (tomorrow!) we’ll draw and announce the winner of the ticket to Burning Man 2012! Void where prohibited.
  • LustyGuy will be giving a talk on Punching, Slapping and Kicking, Oh My! at Paradise, August 11.

5:00 Topic: Showtime’s new reality show on polyamory

Showtime has a new reality show called Polyamory: Married and Dating. It follows a triad and a quad and the conversations, conflicts and undercover action they experience. But is it any good?

What do we think? LustyGuy admires the craft and believes it fits the genre and audience expectations for Showtime After Dark perfectly. Minx (not a fan of reality TV in general) finds the characters accessible, far more so than anyone portrayed in Big Love or Sister Wives. While many of the characters annoy her personally and don’t impress her with their low level of emotional intelligence, the show is a far more accurate portrayal of polyamory than anything we’ve seen in the mainstream so far, and many of the characters do model good communication skills and emotionally intelligent behavior.

And special thanks to Scott Campbell for making it possible for us to view the episodes!

42:00 Wrapup

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 308: Poly in the Month of Love

Being poly in America February 2012–how did the world treat nonmonogamy this Valentine’s Day?

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 News and host chat

  • Thanks for your patience with the audio—think we’ve fixed it

4:20 Topic: Being poly in February 2012 for Valentine’s Day

Poly in the media and how love and relationships are being viewed for this year’s Valentine’s Day.

22:10 Feedback

  • Musqurat calls in to correct my assertion that the word “polyamory” was coined by Morning Glory Zell. In fact, she used the word “polyamorous;” the word “polyamory” was first used by Jennifer Wesp in the Usenet group in 1992.
  • Fred writes in to share that he found his identity as a monoamorist who likes occasional play with others.

25:10 Wrapup


Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 270: The State of Poly in 2011

The state of poly in the media in 2011: a chat with Alan, content curator extraordinaire of the Poly in the Media blog

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

Interview: Alan of Poly in the Media

At Atlanta Poly Weekend, a chat with Alan of the Poly in the Media blog. Alan covers the significant stories of the last five years, trends in current reporting on poly, and the newest poly books.

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly 266: Poly on “Reality” TV

How real are portrayals of polyamory and polygamy on reality television?

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • The Poly Weekly Android app is out! Please download me. J
  • Atlanta Poly Weekend, March 25-27, Atlanta
  • MomentumCon, April 1-3, Washington, D.C. My sessions: Podcasting: Marketing, Mojo and Monetization; Personal Branding for the Sex-Positive Activist
  • Had a great time at the Vancouver GRUE!

Poly on “Reality” TV

Thank you to Chris, Tamara, Timegony and Brendan for the donations!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 244: Media Whoring at Sex 2.0

Media Whoring panel from Sex 2.0

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Three Wise Women event is Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio on July 3, 11:00 a.m.-7:00 p.m. in San Rafael, CA
  • PolyCamp 2010 is August 26-29 Millersylvania state park with classes for people new to poly and discussion groups for those of us who have been around awhile, artistic workshops/classes, spiritual workshops, tribal interests (drumming and belly dancing), music and dancing, and more!
  • Poly Family Weekend is Sept. 17-19 at the Atlanta Airport Crowne Plaza with guests Jessica Karels, Simon Deacon and yours truly!
  • Shine, a Burlesque Musical is in Seattle, July 8-18 at the Theater off Jackson. Not only is this a sex-positive musical, it is a poly-positive musical. From some of the promo materials: “Count on the Wet Spots to twist the old love triangle story arc into some beautiful new poly-friendly configurations. Sort of like a macrame wall hanging. Made of sex!” Follow them on Twitter and join the Facebook page.

Panel: Media Whoring at Sex 2.0
The Media Whoring panel from Sex 2.0 last month in Seattle. In this panel, Cunning Minx, Danielle Sipple, Jasen Bartlett, maymay, Reid Mihalko and Veronica Monet discuss media strategies. Topics ranged from TV, radio, and print, to social networking and online media, to Twitter, to YouTube, to monitoring your presence online, to anything else that pops up! It was a lively discussion with this wide variety of media professionals.

View the panel video here.

Thank you!
Thanks to Slydder and Brendan for the donations this week!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 231: Poly in the media at Arisia

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements
Poly Weekly iPhone app with PDF show notes and audio extras is available now!

Topic: Poly in the media at Arisia sci-fi convention
Moderated by Alan Wexelblat, this panel is about poly practitioners and activists who deal with the media, their tips and advice. The Boston Globe article that they refer to is here.

Happy Poly Moment
Herbalwise shares his HPM.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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