PW 379: Owning your own shit

ShitHappensWhat does it mean to “own your own emotional shit”?

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1:00 HostChat

Minx and LustyGuy talk briefly about the holidays with their new blended family

2:30 Topic: Owning your own shit

Guillaume wrote in to ask what “owning your own shit/emotions/baggage” means exactly and for specific examples.

  • Owning your emotions involves taking personal responsibility for understanding, diagnosing and stating your emotions
  • It also requires recognizing that your emotions are primarily created within you rather than caused by someone else (except in cases of abuse)
  • Owning your own emotions is empowering and usually very much appreciated by your partners. Once you can name an emotion, you can do something about it.
  • However you feel is OK, including negative emotions such as pettiness, jealousy, envy, resentment and anger. Avoid “shoulds” and just accept how you feel.
  • Also, it’s important to let others own their own emotions. The proper response to a friend or partner owning an emotional response is, “Good for you for knowing that” and or “thank you.” Don’t argue, agree or pile on. At most, disagree by saying, “You are the expert on you. However, I haven’t seen in you that negative emotion you just described.”

17:15 Happy Poly Moment

We are blessed with two happy poly moments this week!

  1. K wrote in to share her gratitude that, when her partner and that partner’s kids ended up moving into her and her husband’s home, that everyone was supportive, happy and shared very nicely.
  2. Leelee shared a story of one metamour offering to go out of his way so she could see another lover. Very sweet!

21:00 Feedback

Steve offered feedback on episode 376 and gave us lots of food for thought!

  • How to address listener questions Minx’s philosophy on being a podcast host and her goals of helping listeners while providing useful content to others
  • Avoiding judgment LustyGuy chimes in and vehemently disagrees with Steve’s assessment, saying that we have no right to judge if someone else is “really” poly. Also he posits we should avoid making assumptions and judgments about the health of other people’s relationships, especially based on minimal information.
  • 31:45 When to speak up Minx and LustyGuy address when you SHOULD say something about a good friend’s relationship—if you are a very good friend and really fear a friend is on an unhealthy path, you should absolutely express your concerns. ONCE. And then (barring extreme situations such as abuse), stand by them no matter where the path leads them.

34:45 Thanks!

Thanks to Steve, our newest Poly Weekly Playmate!

Wrap up

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PW 300: Celebrating YOU the listeners

Listeners call in to share why they are poly, what they have learned and tell a poly joke and limerick or two

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Introduction

Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com

1:00 Host chat

  • Reminiscing over how Poly Weekly got started in 2005; Amy Gahran was our first commenter
  • What I have learned: no one is ever alone
  • Shared pain is lessened and shared joy increased
  • Poly isn’t that weird

6:15 Topic: It’s all about you!

  • Happy poly moment
  • Alan from Poly in the Media
  • Amy Shiner, blogger for the Huffington Post: “If I weren’t poly, I would be asexual…”
  • Billy from Chicago answers “how many poly does it take to screw in a lightbulb?”

10:10 Topic: What are you thankful for?

  • Erica of St. Paul – to have found the woman within
  • Reid of Reidaboutsex.com – his partner Allison and cheap dental work in Mexico
  • Sarah – friends on her side

12:00 More contributions!

  • Emma with a happy poly story
  • Grace in VA with excellent advice: “If I want something, I need to work my ass off on me first”
  • Rob from Oz telling how poly saved his career
  • Dan Sawyer
  • Chris Bingham with a poly limerick
  • Vicky from London with words of advice
  • Paul with what he learned about poly in 2011—it works if everyone is adult and communicates

23:55 Thanks

Thanks to H for his generous, $300 donation!

24:55 Wrapup


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PW 296: Open relationship or poly?

What is the difference between an open relationship and a polyamorous one?

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Introduction

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1:00 Host chat

  • We have new monthly subscriber donation options! Coffee buddies at $1.99/month, Friend with benefits at $4.99/month and Anchor at $9.99/month. Just choose a PW Playmate option to the right of this entry and hit the big yellow Subscribe button. >>>>>>>
  • Marvin is our first Anchor subscriber. W00t!
  • We’ve created a Poly Weekly Google+ page. Add us to your Circles for poly, geek and kinky updates.
  • Thanks to GaggleAmp promoters for reTweeting us last week!
  • Enough promotion! Geeks, beware: Cheezburger has launched a geek version of the site, Set Phasers to LOL (think LOLcats but with Star Trek) and more!

8:00 Topic: What is the difference between an open relationship and polyamory?

Thanks to listener Donner (?) for calling this one in. Both open relationships and polyamory are ways of practicing non-mongamy. The main difference is that an “open relationship” tends to assume a couple at the base, whereas “polyamorous” can describe both a lifestyle and a personal philosophy or orientation. I.e., I’m single and poly, but I couldn’t be single and in an open relationship. Additionally, polyamory tends to have “multiple long-term, committed relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved,” while open relationships are more loosely defined.

Also, while we’re at it, let’s define polygamy, polygyny, polyandry and polyfidelity! Franklin Veaux has a well-researched glossary of terms if you are ever in doubt.

17:00 Happy Poly Moment

Mark shares a happy poly moment at the birth of his child.

18:15 Feedback

  • Scott comments on changing the negative victim-minded behavior patterns mentioned in episode 293 and suggests theater and other subcultures for the football-loving poly guy
  • Kevin says thanks and asks about a Poly Weekly meetup at Burning Man in 2012 (yes if we can!)
  • Josh shares a lovely story of patience and communication and how it lead to a wonderful exploration of spanking and polyamory

25:45 Thanks

Thanks to Marvin and Sarah, our first PW Anchor monthly subscribers! We hope we can do you proud! And to Eric for his donation.

26:30 Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook or leave a comment here. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly 262: Pimp my boobs!

The annual holiday user-generated tradition–this year as a vidcast!


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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Topic: Pimp my boobs!

Thanks to everyone who pimped their boobs and sent in photos. And also to Arkyncrest for hosting the Christmas Day festivities in which the judging took place and all the Brownies and Porn guests who participated in the voting.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly 238: Happy Poly Moments

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

User-generated audio: Happy Poly Moments

  • Jacob from Texas wants to know if there is a term for metamours getting along well
  • Benny shares a Happy Poly Moment
  • Tom asks about organizing an LLC
  • Wolfsbane shares a Highlander-oriented Happy Poly Moment
  • Comments on Poly Weekly 228 on atheism
  • Graydancer’s Happy Poly Moment
  • John on non-verbal communication
  • Leaky_Pen calling live from a Happy Poly Moment!
  • Correction to Poly Weekly 236 on the Family

Feedback

  • Darin on Eharmony and poly
  • Niko on monogamy/cheating

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #213: Group Sex & Orgies

This week’s Poly Weekly #213: Group Sex & Orgies.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

[Rough show notes; full show notes to come]Topic: Group Sex and Orgies
Welcome to our guests, Franklin Veaux, Joreth and Datan0de.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #185: Pimp My Boobs!

This week Poly Weekly #185:Pimp My Boobs!.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

[Links and pix; full show notes to come]

Topic: Pimp My Boobs competition
Judges AustinBrother and GoodTexan join with Minx to judge the Pimp My Boobs submissions. The contestants:

Angel's Shibari Boobs

New Year's Subtle Boobs

Pussy Man Boob

Evo Terra's Man Boob

EE's Cups Running Over

Festive Needle Boobs

Princess Fiona

Eggnog breastfeeding boobs

Boobs McGee with Cake

Heat Miser/Cold Miser

Blue Footed Boobies

Announcements
January 21st–1st meetup of the Coming Out Poly group in Milwaukee at the Tool Shed

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #149: Eros, a bisexual poly memoir

The new Polyamory Weekly #149: Eros, a Bisexual Poly Memoir is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #149

Subscribe now with iTunes one-click!
Please Digg this podcast at Digg’s PW podcast page!

0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:45 Announcements
Yeah, we know that #147 and #148 still won’t load properly. We’re working on it.

Eros2:50 Interview: Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio
The ever-gracious Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio agreed to an interview regarding Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, her own personal memoir of her life as an Italian emigre experimenting with her budding bisexuality and polyamorous lifestyle. She shares her stories of becoming poly, of being rejected by lesbians when she found herself to be more bisexual; of coming out to her family and her daughter; of discovering threesomes and the joys of multipartner sex. Keep an eye out for her new project on “Gaia and the New Politics of Love,” a book more on poly theory.

40:30 Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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What, like two boyfriends?

A video based on the David Rovics song:

Poly Weekly #143: New Relationship Energy: the Good, the Bad and the Ugly

The new Polyamory Weekly #143: is up! Direct download is at Poly Weekly #143

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the new FORUMS at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:00 Promo stuff
Promo for Sex 2.0 in Atlanta–come and be sex-positive with us!

2:30 Topic with Guest; Katie: New Relationship Energy
New Relationship Energy as defined by Wikipedia; Ravenscroft‘s definition is that it is the period of time when your obsession with the relationship overcomes your common sense; Helen Fisher’s book, Why We Love was the source for the brain chemistry comments; 9:40 what NOT to do when in the throes of NRE; 16:45 try asking your NRE crush what other people say about him/her; talk to the last partner if you can; nice thing about poly is that a current partner (who isn’t wearing the love goggles) can give an outside perspective

26:10 Wrap-up

Minx is off to
Conflation this weekend to dress as Inara

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Thanks for listening!

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