PW 490: Boundaries vs rules

Rules vs boundaries by Cunning MinxWhat is the difference between a rule and a boundary?

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1:30 Poly in the News

8:50 Topic: Boundaries vs rules

  • Candyfloss wrote in to ask what exactly was the difference between boundaries and rules—and is it OK to make a “no sex in my bed” rule?
    • Rules are behavioral restrictions placed on others. Boundaries are statements of the limits of your personal integrity. “You can’t have sex in my bed” is a rule. “I insist on informed consent” is a personal boundary that could be applied to a number of situations, including your bed.
  • Also, do hierarchical poly configurations work?

24:50 Feedback

Our Better Half” is a podcast devoted to sex over 50.

25:50 Happy Poly Moment

E writes in to share a multigenerational, family-oriented happy poly moment.

27:30 Wrap up

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PW 469: Non-sexual relationships

11870375_sHere’s a thing we don’t talk about enough: non-sexual relationships

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5:40 Poly in the News

7:50 Topic: Non-sexual relationships

Your sex positive educator for the 21st century, Koe Creation, shares her thoughts on non-sexual relationships in polyamory and in life.

29:00 Thanks!

Thanks to Craig and Steve and welcome Marcus to the Poly Weekly Playmates!

30:00 Wrap up

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PW 358: There’s an app for that!

What are the best apps for poly folks?

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1:00 Announcements

10:50 Topic: There’s an App for That

  • Suggested poly apps from listeners: Google Calendar, OK Cupid, Facebook, SnapChat, Words with Friends, Skype, Zello, a long-range walkie-talkie app; What’s App, a way to consolidate chats with friends and lovers with no SMS charges or logging into various platforms
  • Apps I found in the iTunes app store: My marriage coach; Sex Tracker; Couple
  • What we want to develop: a positive feedback relationship app to give points to your loved ones when they are awesome. Talented developers interested in helping out contact LustyGuy on FetLife.

23:30 Happy Poly Moment

Paul shares a moment of recognizing an opportunity to pamper his Mistress.

25:15 Feedback

Marshe wrote in to explain Culture Warrior is an evangelical term referring to Christians who feel the U.S. mainstream culture is too secular and should be battled against.

Wrap up

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PW 274: Am I jealous?

Listener W writes in to ask: am I jealous, or is this situation unfair?

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Introduction and host chat

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1:20 Topic: Am I jealous?

Wendy writes in to ask advice from the cohost team: am I jealous? She gets a certain number of hours a week with her top, and compares that to the number of hours his wife enjoys with him. She relays anecdotes of her top engaging in sex with another bottom, which was beyond the scope of their agreement, and with his wife, which was beyond her expectations. She relays a situation in which she watched the children for his and his wife’s anniversary trip, but her own collaring anniversary went unnoticed.

Is she jealous and how should she cope? Cohosts Joreth, Pepper and Franklin share insights and give advice, including making a list of the things she needs to feel secure in a relationship and how she would like for commitment to be shown.

20:40 Announcements

Poly in Pictures blog on jealousy – for a little jealousy humor

21:40 Feedback

  • Musqrat comments on the Sister Wives commentary from episode 266, comparing to a sort of institutionalized D/s situation
  • A caller who believes in religious polygyny makes a call for tolerance
  • DDog calls in to appreciate the term “anchors” from episode 260

35:40 Thanks to Earl and John for their donations

Wrap-up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here or discuss your own topics at the forums. Check out PolyWeekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review! Want Poly Weekly for your very own? Get the Best of Poly Weekly collection from PodDisc.com Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”

Poly Weekly 254: Is marriage out of style?

Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast

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GraydancerIntroduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Welcome to our old-school cohost, Graydancer of the Ropecast
  • Thanks to our long-term forum administrator and moderator, Vrimj
  • Welcome to our new forum moderator, WhetStone
  • Thanks to Kotu for our new WordPress design–isn’t it pretty?
  • Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010

Is marriage out of style and other poly questions

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly

This week’s Poly Weekly #224: Modern Poly

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

  • • “PolyApathy”- unwillingness or lack of interest in “doing the work” within a poly family
  • Toronto, Ontario, poly group: the Toronto Ethical Lovers Group meets on the second Wednesday of every month at the University of Toronto Women’s Centre from 7:30pm to 10:00 p.m.

Miss Poly Manners: Poly for the Holidays
Advice on navigating the holidays with the poly family. Visit Miss Poly Manners Googe site or the Miss Poly Manners MySpace page

Interview: Modern Poly
A chat with Mai Li, the PR branch of the new Modern Poly website, a place for poly activists, organizers and general poly folks seeking education to gather.

Feedback
Poly Weekly 221, This American Life
Crispin writes in to dispute “everyone hates cheaters” comment

Poly Weekly 222, Metamours, Change and Insecurity
More suggestions for “needing a cuddle” from Vicky, who suggests “mimosa” and George, who suggests “cuddlesie”

Thank you!
Big thanks to this week’s donors, Jennifer and Patrick! You guys rock!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #195: Steampunk polyamory!

This week’s Poly Weekly #195: Victorian (steampunk) polyamory!.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

2:33 Discussion: Victorian/Steampunk polyamory!
Victorian poly roundtable discussion from Conflation. Skunk begins the discussion talking about women’s place in society. Minx then asks the panel what contraceptives were used; hysteria and the common cures; Alex brings up famous open relationships and others are brought up by the group; lack of poly fiction; Heinlein

25:50 Miss Poly Manners
Miss Poly Manners takes a question about how to approach somebody already in a current relationship.

30:40 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Vicki from Facebook shares a great experience over dinner.

32:30 Listener Feedback
Charlene wrote in about episode 192.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #190: Poly Families

This week Poly Weekly #190: Poly Families.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

Announcements

(this was released on my birthday! -fs)

10:55 Alan from Poly in the News
Alan talks about the panel he was on “Raising Children in Poly Environment”; ALan talks to one of the panelists, Valerie White; Alan asks Valerie the changes she has had to make as her kids are getting older; Alan asks Valerie about her work defending poly people dealing with custody battles.

19:00 Happy Poly Moment of the Week
Christian called in to talk about a happy poly moment with his wife giving him the go ahead with starting a new relationship.

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #181: Your First Poly Munch

This week Poly Weekly #181:Your First Poly Munch.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.
1:57 Announcements

  • Bitsy started a TNG(The Next Generation) Poly Group. This is part of the larger Chesapeake Poly Network. They meet 4th thursday of the month at SoHo Tea and Coffee in DuPont.
  • Our sponsors, Adam and Eve are back! Wait for some great reviews of porn and lingerie!
  • Keep your ears and eyes open for Porn and Brownie Night! or, make your own!

Here is a link for CPTNG

7:30 How to attend your first poly munch
Minx first reads the listener mail that inspired this topic; Bitsy mails in with her thoughts on how hard it is to fit in with a new group. She also mentions how uncomfortable it was to be hit on by so many people at Poly Pride.(I hit on you minx! -fs). Wolfpup also wrote in about Will’s experience in Australia is not that different from Will’s.

11:00 Saro Lynne has a great post on this subject. Here
Minx goes through this article and talks about her thoughts; Minx talks about those creepy people who show up to munches and how to deal with them. If you are the organizer it is also important to make sure everybody feels welcome and comfortable.

16:57 Minx goes through the Saro’s advice for attending your first munch.

20:00 Minx goes into her advice on how to handle yourself

  • Introduce yourself on the mailing list.
  • accept being nervous
  • introduce yourself to the host and let them know you have never been
  • be prepared to answer why you are there
  • set yourself a goal to talk to 5 people
  • if you don’t like who you are talking to, talk to somebody else
  • if single guy, try not to look predatory. Make out with a guy! Or maybe volunteer
  • if single girl, it is ok to say no.
  • if couple, work at trying to not “gang up” on people. talk to people seperately sometimes

29:35 Listener Feedback
Milla writes in about a poly example in anime; Shoshona wrote in talking about how great the advice on the show is; jack wrote in and told a great story of when him and his wife were swing dancers and the frubbly emotions watching his wife dance with other men.

Thanks Elizabeth for your donation!

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Poly Weekly #179: Listener Feedback Extravaganza!

This week Poly Weekly #179:Listener Feedback Extravaganza!.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:54 ShiaShen called in about episode 96. ShiaShen has multiple Scelorsis and talks about the affect this has on your marriage.

5:35 John from Saint Louis calls in to ask what social monogamy is and asks for some examples. Minx talks about how something could look monogamous from the outside but may not be really. This is social monogamy.

7:07 Polychronicles calls in to wish his wife H and J happy one year anniversary! congrats!

7:54 L wrote in on Episode 169: Stop hurting my partner! L is in a difficult situation where their sweetie is still with their hurtful metamour and there seems to be very little communication.

13:32 Charlie wrote in episode 174: Fearless Communication. He brought up that standing up for yourself doesn’t have to include yelling. Yelling can be a trigger for people who have been abused. Minx talks about her own history and the communication she grew up and how that affected her.

19:34 Responses to episode 175: Kalosexual?

19:49 Ximinez writes in and comments that edamosexual” sounds like you are getting turned on by soy beans. Minx thinks it sounds more like Captain Adama from BSG.

20:00 fountainoffilth likes the word onestamory, using the italian word for honesty.

20;25 Tom suggests pithosexual with the greek root pitho-, meaning truth.

21:10 Vrimj wrote in with the suggestion of trothophilia.

21:40 MadBaker of Green Bay calls in and congratulating J on his new addition.

22:22 Will called in with compliments and comments for Minx, Poly Weekly, and Poly Pride. He was, however, talking about his frustrations being a single guy at these kinds of events. (Honestly, kinda know how he feels. I am not single but my wife isn’t as much of a going out person I am so I go to events a lot by myself -FS)

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Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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