Poly Weekly #173: Jenny Block is “Open”

This week Poly Weekly #173: an interview with Jenny Block, author of “Open: Love and Sex in an Open Marriage,” who shares her own story and struggles of being “normal” and polyamorous..

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

1:40 Minx gives us a brief introduction for Jenny

3:15 Minx asks how Jenny has been received in her book tour.  Jenny talks about how surprised she has been how positive the response has been.

4:10 Jenny talks about some negative comments she received after being on a television show.

5:15 Jenny talks about how strange it is that society accepts cheating a lot more than honest, open relationships.

7:55 Minx asks if we are used to cheating but maybe not so used to open marriages.

10:20 Minx asks Jenny “what is normal?” in reference to Jenny considering herself normal in her book.

11:20 Jenny says maybe “average” is a better word.  That you wouldn’t be able to tell her her lifestyle at the PTA meeting.

12:10 Jenny talks about the difference in poly/open people.  Not everybody looks the same.

13:00 Jenny and Minx talk about people who feel the need to watch and respond to things they don’t agree with or support.

15:45 Minx asks Jenny about gaining weight and how it affected her relationship.  Jenny talks about how losing the weight did not have the result she was expecting.

17:30 Jenny talks about differing libidoes in commited relationships.

18:54 Minx asks if we are blaming the wrong things for our relationsihip failures.  Jenny talks about how much harder fixing what is wrong than blaming the wrong thing can be.

19:45 Jenny and Minx talk about people’s expecations of relationsihps and how unreasonable they are.

21:50 Minx asks for Jenny’s comment to straight open marriages (i.e. not bisexual).  Jenny talks about how monogamy doesn’t really fit us as a species.

24:30 Jenny talks about expectations and her own opening up experiences with her husband.

25:09 Minx asks Jenny how the conversation went when she wanted to open the marriage.  Jenny talks about her original cheating on her husband and how the lying is what affected him.

Jenny Block’s Open

Wrap-up
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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly book club RAWKED! Next: October 1st

Hey, all.

Just have to give a shout out to everyone who came out to talk about If the Buddha Dated, a book that has sparked, I believe, more discussion than any other we’ve read! Heated debates broke out over such controversial topics as “hi, how are you?” (no, I’m NOT kidding!), what it means to be authentic and honestly you versus “fake it ’til you make it,” and we also had some quantum physics and philosophy in there.

Thanks to the 10 folks who came out and contributed to the discussion on Buddhism, taking risks and living in the moment. It was a blast, and our new location suited us well–we have the entire back room, and the gelato there is to die for (try the hazelnut!)

So, for next month:

Book: Open by Jenny Block

Open
Date: Wednesday, October 1st, 6:00-9:00 p.m.

Place: Lido’s Caffe, 122 N. Marion St., Oak Park, IL 60301, 708-660-0060

See y’all there!

Poly Weekly Book Club meets TONIGHT!

Reminder: Poly Weekly Book Club meets TONIGHT, 6:00-9:00 p.m.!

Book: If the Buddha Dated (and please come on out to meet with poly
folks, even if you haven’t read the book!)

Lido’s Caffe
122 N. Marion St.
Oak Park, IL 60301
708-660-0060
www.lidoscaffe.com

It’s 1/2 block from the Oak Park Metra stop and 1 1/2 blocks from the Harlem Green line stop. Metered parking lots are available on South Avenue and next to the shop. It just opened up two weeks ago, and they have a great room in the back with big tables for us. Menu includes coffee, Italian gelato and even a few panini. They’re thrilled to have a book club meeting there, and it’s a lovely, quiet place for us!

Please RSVP so I’ll know to look for you or if you have any questions.

Poly Weekly Book Club (NEW LOCATION): Wednesday, Sept. 3rd

Hello, all.

A quick reminder for next month’s Poly Weekly Book Club. Since it turns out that the city location isn’t convenient for most of the group, I’ve scoped out a new one that will be closer for most regular PWBookers:

Lido’s Caffe
122 N. Marion St.
Oak Park, IL 60301
708-660-0060
www.lidoscaffe.com

It’s 1/2 block from the Oak Park Metra stop and 1 1/2 blocks from the Harlem Green line stop. Metered parking lots are available on South Avenue and next to the shop. It just opened up two weeks ago, and they have a great room in the back with big tables for us. Menu includes coffee, Italian gelatto and even a few panini. They’re thrilled to have a book club meeting there, and it’s a lovely, quiet place for us!

Other details:

Wednesday, September 3rd, 6:00-9:00 p.m.

Book: If the Buddha Dated (and please come on out to meet with poly folks, even if you haven’t read the book!)

Please RSVP so I’ll know to look for you or if you have any questions.

Minx
cunningminx@comcast.net
www.polyweekly.com
206-202-POLY listener comments

Poly Weekly #167: Real people open up

Poly Weekly #167: Real people open up

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.

(This episode was a bit difficult to timecode.  People didn’t keep repeating their names so I wasn’t able to always tell who was who.  I did what I can.  -FS)

4:20 This weeks subject for the online book review.  “The Myth Of MOnogamy”

6:15 Minx starts by asking everybody if they have read the book.  Tom and Eros both participated in the discussion.

6:43 Minx asks, what things really grabbed them.  Eros commented on how specific the conversation needs to be on sex and love.

8:00 Minx points out that her and a previous partner had different ideas of what “sex” and “scening” was.  Communication would have brought this out.

9:10 Tom agrees and talks about his relationship and how his partner and him come from different backgrounds.

10:30 Tom and Minx discuss different meanings of “sex.”

12:10 Tom points out that he is mainly mono in his relationship from laziness!

12:48 Greg has also joined us from text.

13:00 Minx asks if any other revelations from the book.  Eros talks about the meaning of “polyamory”

14:50 (I think this is Tom) brings up when your partner ends up with somebody you don’t think they should be with.

16:30 Minx asks Tom how the book helped him in that scenario.

18:00 The discussion moves to dealing with your partners when they start to make mistakes and how to deal with them.

19:20 Minx quotes from the section of the book on the kind of people to look for and talks about it.

20:07 Eros thinks you have a responsbility to say something to your partner if they are making a mistake but don’t badger them.  He brings up an example in his own life.

22:00 (I am not sure who this is, Tom I think) talks about the unique experience of being poly where you might have to help your partner with comfort on the loss o a lover.

23:40 (I think Tom’s) wife loved the book.

24:20 Minx comments the section on sexual health and safer sex practices and how much she likes it.

27:00 it’s hot in chicago! :)

27:00 Minx brings up the chapter on common challenges and problems.  Eros references back to the interview with Tacit to talk about NRE (New RElationship Energy).

29:00 Minx talks about her opinion on NRE using some excerpts from the book.

31:09 Eros asks if there is a way to tell when the NRE falls off.

32:10 Minx brings up other common problems from this chapter and asks for opinions.

33:10 Eros brings up time management and the group disucsses this topic.

36:50 (Eros I think) brings up three different definitions of love from the book and Minx adds to this discussion.

39:35 Eros felt the book made sense to him.

40:18 Eros is working through fluid bonding issues which starts a discussion.

Thanks to Tom and Eros for working on the announcing themselves.

Announcements

  • CPR for kinky people, Saturday, September 13, 2008, 10 am-6pm, Leather Archives & Museum, $90; Contact Descara: vdescara@yahoo.com
  • Meet and Greet, October 4th, Maryborough, Queensland, Australia

Online Book Discussion: Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up
Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email cunningminx@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”

Poly Weekly Skypecast TOMORROW, Saturday, July 12th, 3:30 Central

Come log on to the Skypecast tomorrow to discuss Tristan Taormino’s new book, Opening Up!

When: Saturday, July 12th, 3:30 p.m. Central
Where: anywhere
How: Click this link and sign on to Skype
What: anything you’d like to say about Opening Up

The discussion will be recorded, so please be aware that participating means your voice will be posted online. Thanks for your participation; I can’t wait to talk about this will y’all!

Poly Weekly Book Club: August 6th, “The Myth of Monogamy”

It’s that time again!

Poly Weekly Book Club meets Wednesday, August 6th! We opted to take a break from poly how-to books and will be reading and discussing The Myth of Monogamy. Get your copy now; it’s fascinating!

Where: The Center on Halsted, 3656 N. Halsted, 2nd floor on the white couches
When: Wednesday, August 6th, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Who: anyone interested in poly who wants to discuss this fascinating book on why most species aren’t monogamous!

Poly Weekly Book Club

It’s that time again!

Poly Weekly Book Club meets tomorrow, Wednesday, July 2nd! We’re discussing Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up, but please come on out even if you haven’t read the book; the discussion will undoubtedly be lively!

Where: The Center on Halsted, 3656 N. Halsted, 2nd floor on the white couches
When: Wednesday, July 2nds, 6:00-9:00 p.m.
Who: anyone interested in poly who wants to discuss this great new book!

Can’t make it? Join our online discussion on Saturday, July 12th at 3:30 p.m. Central. You’ll need Skype (available for free), then just click the link at that time!

Review: Love Restraints

Since I seem to have skipped straight from homemade toys to the $300 Saint Andrew’s cross in my own kink journeys, I was wondering what these beginning bondage kits are like. Are they any good? Would they really be useful for wannabe kinksters just trying to spice it up a bit without joining a dungeon and suspending each other inverted from hard points in the bedroom. What if you just wanted a little kink and didn’t want to make that trip to Home Depot?

So when AdamEve.com‘s Love Restraints arrived in the mail, I asked my kinky friends to help try them out. What did true kinksters say about the beginner’s Love Restraints?

Love Restraints

Overall, the impression was darn positive. Without looking at the package, my buddy Zed promptly strapped my roommate’s hands crossed behind her back, and then just as quickly released her and restrained her hands in front of her body, one crossed over the other. My roommate obligingly struggled a bit to see if she could break the restraints, and she couldn’t (although she did note that the rope did tighten on the wrists, so beginners should check for profusion and tell partners if they feel pins and needles over time to avoid potential nerve damage). Also, the ropes are attached to the belt with quick-release clips, so no need to carry safety shears around should you need to release your sweetie for urgent, animalistic sex.

Comments about the Love Restraints:

“They’re really versatile.”
“Comfortable. I could fall asleep.”
“Easy to use.”

Love Restraints

The waist belt comes with an extender to fit from teeny tiny (like me) up to about a size 18. The belt is vinyl, not leather, so it won’t last forever. But hey, if you rip these puppies apart in the first six weeks, chances are you’re no longer in the “beginner” category of kink and might want to check out shibari. Or riding crops, leather floggers, canes and single-tails.

Or is that just me?

For 50% off this and other items, visit AdamEve.com and use checkout code “MINX”

Poly Weekly book club meets WEDNESDAY, JULY 2ND

Hi, guys!

It’s that time again! This month, we’re eagerly reading (what else) Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up. I’ve already started it, and I can’t wait to discuss it with y’all! Of course, if you just want to talk polyamory or meet poly folks, reading the book isn’t required–just come out and say hello!

When: WEDNESDAY, JULY 2ND
Where: The Center on Halsted, 3656 N. Halsted, Chicago, 2nd floor by the white couches
Why: because poly can be confusing and sharing opinions is fun (plus, the Mad Baker brings GREAT snacks!)
Who: anyone interested in meeting poly folks

If you’re interested in coming, please RSVP to Minx (cunningminx at gmail dot com) with the subject line “Book Club” so I’ll know to look for you. We’ve had some people not able to find us in the past, so we’re trying to make sure that doesn’t happen again!

Also, if you’re interested in discussing the book but aren’t local to Chicago, mark your calendar for Saturday, July 12th, 3:30 p.m. Central. for a Skype online book discussion.

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