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Had a great time giving this talk at Poly Living West, hosted for the first time in Seattle! As always, the discussion afterward was far more interesting and thought-provoking. Thanks to everyone who participated!
Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast
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Violet Blue gave a helluva talk on sex-positive education and emerging technology at Gnomedex. I missed it, myself, but delighted to see her kick ass in front of an audience primarily of tech geeks, not sex educators:
“When you come out, you make yourself vulnerable to disapproval, criticism, and discrimination.” -Pat Califia
Coming out to partner/children: lead your children down a critical thinking path to determine where prejudices and biases come from
Downside of coming out to children: you become a resource for thing like anal sex
Best response from a family member: “I don’t approve of it, but I can see why you do it.”
Worst response from a family member: “You’re dumb.”
Tip: have at least one token vanilla friend
Great case study of someone who was out at work: Jack McGeorge, the openly kinky weapons inspector. When opponents tried to discredit him, his boss Hans Blix stood up for him and refused to accept his resignation
YKIOK = “your kink is OK”–a response Graydancer got when he came out at work
Others benefit from your living out loud: if someone has come out to a person before, it’s more likely that person will be more accepting/familiar with the idea the next time
What catalyzes change? Pride, self-esteem, self-disclosure
Sex-negative=don’t do anything to be ashamed of. Sex-positive: don’t be ashamed of the things you do
Ducky started doing peep shows on 42nd Street and spent a lot of time being ashamed of her work. Then she met Annie Sprinkle and decided to become an educator. Got her GED and set out to create an army of sex educators to invade the world.
Ducky talks money: sex educators need to talk to each other to compare notes on what and how they were paid for certain gigs and share notes about the most reliable clients
It’s on sex educators to create a standard that others can look up to: we need accreditation
The trials of choosing a sponsor–we need to get paid for our speaking (and no one makes money from a book) but we don’t always get to choose each toy that the sponsors promote. What do you think of Sue Johanson or Dr. Ruth? The point: have a critical eye to content and talk to other educators.
Dr. Ruth still maintains a private practice three days a week–very few can make a full-time salary as a sex educator
“The number one way we learn anything in life is through gossip.” We all have the ability to be great sex educators if we take the time to listen to others.
Who is your favorite sex educator and why? Answering these questions will help guide your path as a sex educator. Who came up in the session as fave educators: Heather Corinna, Betty Dodson, Dan Savage
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Went to a fantastic session last night with my awesome friend Yvonne. Babeland in Seattle was hosting the ever-articulate Tristan Taormino and her Poly 201 session on poly relationships and what makes or breaks them. My notes from the session:
Key to dealing with NRE: patience, compassion, communication.
Key to dealing with poly time management: organization, Google calendar, negotiation skills.
It’s not just “you’ve got Tuesday nights;” time carries with it a tremendous emotional charge.
Key to dealing with poly micommunication: honesty, self-awareness, and (surprise, surprise) COMMUNICATION.
Disclose, disclose, disclose! You might not think it’s a big deal that your new girlfriend is a stripper, but your husband might.
Keys to addressing poly agreement violation: make explicit agreement with a checklist. Make a “gray area” rule.
Jealousy as a behavior is modeled and rewarded in our society. Too many pop culture songs, movies and TV shows make reference to someone “really” loving a partner if he/she gets jealous.
So let’s unpack jealousy: envy, posessiveness, competitiveness, feeling excluded, insecurity.
Re jealousy: when you think “someone is smarter than me,” you really mean “I am not smart enough”
Solution to jealousy: face your fear. Take it out to dinner. See it for what it is.
Harness NRE for good and not evil, knowing it will come back to your existing relationship. When your partner comes home all hopped up on endorphins, jump him!–Selfish person’s guide to NRE
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Announcements
ADutch magazine YES is running an article on Polyamory in their January 20-27 edition. Twitter @ageethveenemans if you’re 20-27 and available for an interview.
Serena Anderlini-d’Onofrio will be presenting Gaia and the New Politics of Love: Notes for a Poly Planet at Seattle’s Sharma Center Nov 21 and 22. Email RSVP@sharmacenter.org to RSVP. Facebook page here.
Interview: Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio
5:20 Interviwer asks “what do yo means by poly planet”
Serena talks about sharing and how sharing is beneficial to us as a planet and to our ecology and how that relates to poly.
7:50 Interviewer asks “What is Gaia?
Serena talks about her belief how this is a scientific and a vernacular concept. By scientific, she is refering to the belief that the ecosystem is one organism that is symbiotic and made up of many different ecosystems.
13:30 And now..and intermissions….
13:45 How can polyamory save the planet
Serena talks about what this really means, and how we are more talking about saving ourselves.
14:16 Interviewer asks Serena about her book
Serena talks about her book and the experience in writing it. Serena talks about her book publisher, their philosophy and how her book fits into that philosophy.
19:45 Feedback
Poly Weekly 217: Do the math
Galahad corrects my math and explains the geek joke
RavenHarte and Tammy suggest “anoozely” and “touch whore” for “needing a cuddle”
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Special guests Dane Ballard and Danah Abarr of Sinplex Weekend share facts, myths and info about HSV, HPV and the stigma attached to both
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