Personal Branding at MomentumCon

The MomentumCon iteration of personal branding for the sex-positive educator/activist using the social web. A GREAT session with great questions from the MomentumCon crowd! Thanks to everyone who attended, asked questions and kept me honest. I had a blast!

A few additional notes that came up:

Browser and iphone application for managing Twitter and Facebook accounts, including analytics and scheduling: HootSuite

Design and brainstorming graphics tool for Mac and iPad users: OmniGraffle

Social media analytics dashboard across properties: Unilyzer

Personal branding for the sex-positive educator

So excited to debut my new talk on personal branding on the social web for the sex-positive educator, activist and organizer!

Thanks again to the Atlanta Poly Weekend staff for bringing me out; it’s been a wonderful experience!

Unblinking honesty at the border

At the Canadian border on the way to the Vancouver GRUE, our bus stopped for customs. The agent asked the typical questions, including where I was going and why I was going there.

Me: For a conference. Or actually, an unconference.

Agent: An unconference? What is that?

Me: The attendees determine and create all the content.

Agent: What’s it about?

Me: Rope bondage.

Agent: I don’t know what that is.

Me: [shrug]

Agent: Business or personal?

Me: Personal.

Agent: And what is your business?

Not a blink, not a pause. Sometimes, telling the truth is easy and won’t lead anyone to batting an eye. ROFL!

Poly Weekly 263: STIpalooza, part 2

Special guests Dane Ballard and Danah Abarr of Sinplex Weekend share facts, myths and info about HSV, HPV and the stigma attached to both

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Topic: The straight dope on HSV and HPV and how it can improve your sex life

  • Guests Dane Ballard and Danah Abarr, creators of Sinplex Weekend, February 18-20 in Seattle
  • Danah Abarr, founder of HPV Hope
  • Follow Sinplex on Twitter
  • What percentage of the population have HPV and HSV? (70%)
  • The value of open dialogue
  • The power of questions and finding a doctor who is a good fit
  • False positives, false negatives and why the tests aren’t 100%
  • Gauging your own risk vs. how big a deal something is (panic vs. the ostrich syndrome)
  • How dealing with STD’s improves your sex life

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 261: The STI Special, Part 1

Special guests Dane Ballard and Danah Abarr of Sinplex Weekend share facts, myths and info about HSV, HPV and the stigma attached to both

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Introduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Topic: the skinny on HSV and HPV and the people who experience them

Thank you!

  • Jared, Marina Joy, Peter for your donations this month!

Wrap-up
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Poly Dating 101: Tips for Poly Dating

Had a great time giving this talk at Poly Living West, hosted for the first time in Seattle! As always, the discussion afterward was far more interesting and thought-provoking. Thanks to everyone who participated!

Poly Weekly 254: Is marriage out of style?

Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast

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GraydancerIntroduction and host chat

Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Announcements

  • Welcome to our old-school cohost, Graydancer of the Ropecast
  • Thanks to our long-term forum administrator and moderator, Vrimj
  • Welcome to our new forum moderator, WhetStone
  • Thanks to Kotu for our new WordPress design–isn’t it pretty?
  • Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010

Is marriage out of style and other poly questions

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 248: Three Wise Women

Three Wise WomenDossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio are Three Wise Women giving advice and insights at the event in San Rafael

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Topic: Three Wise Women
Dossie Easton, Deborah Anapol and Serena Anderlini d’Onofrio are Three Wise Women giving advice and insights at the event in San Rafael

Wrap-up
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 206-202-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? :-) Check out PolyWeekly at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

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VIDEO: Violet Blue at Gnomedex

Violet Blue gave a helluva talk on sex-positive education and emerging technology at Gnomedex. I missed it, myself, but delighted to see her kick ass in front of an audience primarily of tech geeks, not sex educators:

Sex 2.0: Out: the challenges and rewards of being sex-positive

GraydancerFrom Graydancer‘s session at Sex 2.0:

  • “When you come out, you make yourself vulnerable to disapproval, criticism, and discrimination.” -Pat Califia
  • Coming out to partner/children: lead your children down a critical thinking path to determine where prejudices and biases come from
  • Downside of coming out to children: you become a resource for thing like anal sex
  • Best response from a family member: “I don’t approve of it, but I can see why you do it.”
  • Worst response from a family member: “You’re dumb.”
  • Tip: have at least one token vanilla friend
  • Great case study of someone who was out at work: Jack McGeorge, the openly kinky weapons inspector. When opponents tried to discredit him, his boss Hans Blix stood up for him and refused to accept his resignation
  • YKIOK = “your kink is OK”–a response Graydancer got when he came out at work
  • Others benefit from your living out loud: if someone has come out to a person before, it’s more likely that person will be more accepting/familiar with the idea the next time
  • What catalyzes change? Pride, self-esteem, self-disclosure
  • Sex-negative=don’t do anything to be ashamed of. Sex-positive: don’t be ashamed of the things you do

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