How much sex is “normal” in a committed relationship?
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A Durex study citing the quality of sex over frequency, and also reported by the Huffington Post, which pulled out the factoid that simultaneous orgasm being unlikely
24:00 Our advice for good sex:
Talk about what you want and what you need; know the difference.
Be willing to hear “no” and/or negotiate a counter offer.
Be open to your partner’s/partners’ wants, needs and fantasies. Don’t shut the door before educating yourself.
Get educated. Treat sex like any other physical skill.
Consider your sexual health a lifelong endeavor and never complete.
33:00 Feedback
Jordy shares her concerns that couples are being bashed in our attempts to create awareness of couple privilege. Note: Minx accidentally referred to Jordy as “he.” And damn LustyGuy for letting me do it! Sorry, Jordy! You’re pretty.
37:00 Thank you
Thanks to Eric and Benjamin for their donations this week!
Wrap up
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Everything you need to know about prostate pleasure and health (well, some of it, anyway)
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Content Creation for the Online Activist on Sunday, March 17th at 10:30 AM in D.C. at CatalystCon ( #ccon )
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2:00 Interview: Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian
Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian talk about their new book, Prostate Pleasure and Health: why they wrote this book; that enjoying this wonderful pleasure doesn’t make you gay; how to prepare for prostate and anal play; and a ton of other stuff you never knew until now!
Why do we need a book on prostate pleasure? There wasn’t one!
Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian
Key prostate advice: Stroke, don’t poke.
What is the prostate? Part of the male reproductive anatomy that produces semen, and many men find that prostate massage creates a sensation similar to ejaculation.
Does prostate stimulation make you gay? No. Does it make you a bottom? No. It can be powerful to be fully present in your masculinity and enjoy receiving.
13:00 Why is prostate stimulation so pleasurable? We’re not sure, but perhaps the autonomic nerves (involved in ejaculation) are being stimulated.
18:30 Tip for anal penetration: relaxation, communication and lubrication!
Some Guy in Bristol, England shares a texting moment that WOULD have gone awry, had he not been transparently poly!
34:15 Thanks
To Craig for his generous donation this week!
Wrap up
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Wanna go to Burning Man? We are raffling off a ticket in July as a fundraiser to send Minx to CatalystCon! For every $10 donation at http://www.polyweekly.com, you’ll get one raffle entry. On July 30, we’ll draw and announce the winner of the ticket to Burning Man 2012!
3:30 Topic: Negotiating poly with tantra
South African correspondent Erich Viege recorded an interview with Shima and Andrew about teaching tantra while trying to negotiate non-monogamy.
15:00 Happy Poly Moment
Cindy shares a happy poly moment of friendships with metamours and poly going well after communication.
16:30 Thanks
Thanks to Adam for the $69 donation. Woo hoo!
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Freshly returned from MomentumCon, a recap of the sessions on feminism, sexuality and sex-positivism today. Plus, using “what would monogamists do?” as a guiding question.
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A listener writes in to ask how to act around her partner’s OSO (metamour) and challenges the What Would Monogamists Do guiding question. How much flirting is OK around your SO and OSO, and how should you act towards your metamour in social situations?
29:30 Happy Poly Moment
Summersnake shares a moment of compersion when sending his wife off to spend time with her sweetie
Don writes in to share compersion and joy at his partner’s meeting the metamours
33:25 Feedback
Taylor on controlled male orgasms through controlling the flow of chi
Wrap up
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An interview with Barbara Carrellas, author of Ecstasy is Necessary, on making tantric sex available to everyone on an everyday basis
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Barbara Carrellas is a certified sexologist, sex educator, sex/life coach, and sensual
revolutionary. She is the author of a new book on tantra for the everyday user, Ecstasy is Necessary She answers Minx’s and LustyGuy’s questions, such as:
Why another book on tantra? How is this book more accessible and less woo-woo?
Isn’t tantra just breathing together for two hours and not coming?
What is “thinking off” and can you really breathe your way to an orgasm?
How can tantra be achieved with our distracted monkey minds?
16:00 LustyGuy switchover!
What about the science and medical information in the book, which is remarkably detailed and accurate?
Why is it important that there isn’t one true path to ecstasy?
Was it intentional that the book is directed at everyone, not just the kink and woo-woo communities?
Angergasms, screamgasms and feargasms
24:35 Thanks
Thanks and welcome to new PW Playmates James and Haddayr as well as to Tara for the generous donations!
26:30 Wrap up
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Violet Blue gave a helluva talk on sex-positive education and emerging technology at Gnomedex. I missed it, myself, but delighted to see her kick ass in front of an audience primarily of tech geeks, not sex educators:
Ducky started doing peep shows on 42nd Street and spent a lot of time being ashamed of her work. Then she met Annie Sprinkle and decided to become an educator. Got her GED and set out to create an army of sex educators to invade the world.
Ducky talks money: sex educators need to talk to each other to compare notes on what and how they were paid for certain gigs and share notes about the most reliable clients
It’s on sex educators to create a standard that others can look up to: we need accreditation
The trials of choosing a sponsor–we need to get paid for our speaking (and no one makes money from a book) but we don’t always get to choose each toy that the sponsors promote. What do you think of Sue Johanson or Dr. Ruth? The point: have a critical eye to content and talk to other educators.
Dr. Ruth still maintains a private practice three days a week–very few can make a full-time salary as a sex educator
“The number one way we learn anything in life is through gossip.” We all have the ability to be great sex educators if we take the time to listen to others.
Who is your favorite sex educator and why? Answering these questions will help guide your path as a sex educator. Who came up in the session as fave educators: Heather Corinna, Betty Dodson, Dan Savage
Yes, adult product reviews are BACK, along with our sponsor, AdamEve.com (and a special discount with coupon checkout code “Minx”)!
Can’t afford to go out in this economy? Cheaper to stay in and have some good, old-fashioned carnal fun. If you’ve been wanting to try bondage, Nina Hartley’s Guide to Erotic Bondage is a great place to start. First, Nina just rocks–she’s a talented and respected educator who isn’t just making videos for a quick buck; she’s genuinely part of the kink scene.
Also, she looks great in black latex.
The DVD breaks down into three main sections with a postlude. The first 18 minutes are the bondage discussion, in which Nina and the lovely Carmen Luvana (hot blond from the cover) talk about what you need to know and discuss before you dive into tying up your loved one. They cover the “why” of bondage–remember how much fun it was to play Cowboys and Indians when you were kids? Or Pirate Ship? The thrill of the chase and capture can be a lot of fun. And then Nina walks us through the negotiation process in detail, covering basic trust, past issues that might come up, physical limitations, and the nature of consent. As Nina points out, “consent is a continually renewing contract that doesn’t stop the first time someone says yes.”
Next, the lovely ladies cover safety, including the availability and use of safety shears and the use of common safewords such as green, yellow and red. Next up is basic principles of anatomy–tie wrists first, not ankles, what to tie them to, what to do when they struggle. In short, a pretty fun yet educational discussion.
DON’T SKIP THAT PART! The opening discussion is a great place to start and will make the porn much more fun to watch after!
Demo 1: Nina Hartley restrains Randy Spears
This segment starts about 18 minutes in and is delightful if you’re a woman looking to restrain your man. Nina starts with a sensible and sexy negotiation on the bed before slapping Randy in restraints and teasing him with her ass, hands, feet and mouth. (BTW, I love how Nina giggles, with a gleeful “hee HEE!”) Next, she walks through anal prep and penetration on herself. Man, is it nice to see a woman enjoying anal sex!
Demo 2: Nina and Carmen Luvana with Tommy Gunn
This segment begins about 50 minutes in. The cute bombshell Carmen Luvana, clad elegantly in powder-blue latex, cuffs on herself; then Tommy shows up to collar her. I have to say that the white shoes, cuffs, collar and flogger weren’t appealing to me; call me old-fashioned, but I like basic black. Still, the scene could be great for beginners who want to look cute in bondage. The best scene by far was with Carmen’s hands tightly harnessed behind her as she went down on Tommy (and he seemed to enjoy it, too!) And Carmen is just adorable when she occasionally exclaims in Spanish; co cute!
The video closes with a postlude–a reminder to focus on consent, communication and safety first. As Nina says, “the quality of your experience will be determined by the honesty and intimacy of your relationship”–so communicate first for hotter, kinky sex!
Time to pay some bills… with a review of the Rotating G Spot Rabbit vibrator!
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Yup, it’s the one featured on That Episode of Sex and the City, where Charlotte develops VD (vibrator dependency). I’m not much one for vibrators, myself, so I gave it to my roommate, SmartAssSub, to product-test. She was delighted, as her own vibrator had died the day before. Serendipity, yes? Yes!
She opted to use the bunny-only option, just for clitoral stimulation–no insertion. According to her, “if I had inserted, I would have lost my fucking mind!” The busy little bunny has three settings–pulsing, constant and fast pulsing. On the constant setting, it kindly bestowed three consequential orgasms–and then one big one. SAS reports the toy is user-friendly right out of the box, the material warms to skin temperature nicely, and she kept it at hand for the rest of the night–just in case.
Other comments:
“I didn’t want to let go of it. It was a fun ride. And it doesn’t snore. Huzzah!”
“The only thing that would make this fucking cooler was if it lit up.”
“I was really hoping to have sex with someone other than myself this year, but in the meantime, this will do nicely!”
SmartAssSub give the Rabbit two thumbs way up!
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You know what I love about gay porn? Two cum shots for the price of one! At least two lovely loads blown for every scene. This is what a bukkake girl loves!
Today at lunch I took a little break, closed the office door, put on headphones, and watched When the Wife’s Away, a hot little piece in which four men sit around the poker table, telling of their gay exploits while their wives were away on business or visiting their mothers. Oh, the forbidden joy of hot gay sex! If I were one of the wives, though, I’d have to say I’d be furious if they hadn’t filmed it for me!
Oh, right; they did. Ahem.
Four hot guys around the poker table; four hot scenes. You know what I love? Every scene started with deep tongue kissing and featured a lot of great closeups of making out. There is so little making out in straight porn that the kissing really caught me by surprise–in a very nice way. That, and the condom use. Straight porn doesn’t seem to have caught on to the fact that condoms, especially for anal sex, is not just hot but also responsible. Every single scene showed anal condom use–cool!
First scene: the plumber. Ah, who hasn’t had a hot plumber fantasy? And how nice that it wasn’t populated by some bleached bimbo with a bad boob job and tacky eye makeup. Second scene: picking up the bag boy from the grocery store. And get this: they actually shot the opener scene on location at the grocery store, loading the groceries into the car… and then loading the shopper at home. (Cum shot at 42:00 is especially nice.) Third scene: my favorite, the milkman. The young stud had soft pink lips that wrapped nicely around the guy’s cock and were made for kissing and sucking. Plus, the double cum shot (at 58:00 and on) lasted a FULL TWO MINUTES, this little bukkake’s girl’s dream! And I liked it despite the fact they couldn’t resist ending with the cliched “Got milk?” line. Fourth scene: once again, shot on location at the United terminal–what’s a hot pilot to do when he doesn’t have a quarter to call for a ride to his hotel? Why, go home with the hot young stud who just sent his wife off on a business trip, of course! The at home dialogue consisted of one line: “so why did you bring me here?” followed by the blow job of a lifetime. Ah, if only our conversations could be so physical!
I think I might have to stop watching straight porn all together. Condoms, kissing, tons of cum? What’s not to love?
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How much sex is “normal” in a committed relationship?
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