An interview with Barbara Carrellas, author of Ecstasy is Necessary, on making tantric sex available to everyone on an everyday basis
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Barbara Carrellas is a certified sexologist, sex educator, sex/life coach, and sensual
revolutionary. She is the author of a new book on tantra for the everyday user, Ecstasy is Necessary She answers Minx’s and LustyGuy’s questions, such as:
Why another book on tantra? How is this book more accessible and less woo-woo?
Isn’t tantra just breathing together for two hours and not coming?
What is “thinking off” and can you really breathe your way to an orgasm?
How can tantra be achieved with our distracted monkey minds?
16:00 LustyGuy switchover!
What about the science and medical information in the book, which is remarkably detailed and accurate?
Why is it important that there isn’t one true path to ecstasy?
Was it intentional that the book is directed at everyone, not just the kink and woo-woo communities?
Angergasms, screamgasms and feargasms
24:35 Thanks
Thanks and welcome to new PW Playmates James and Haddayr as well as to Tara for the generous donations!
26:30 Wrap up
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The power of introverts; female orgasms from exercise at the gym
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And speaking at MomentumCon in D.C. March 29-April 1
10:00 Topic: The Power of Introverts
Susan Cain’s TED talk on the power of introverts and how to maximize individual creative thinking. The loudest person isn’t always the wisest, but work environments cater to extroverts.
20:45 Feedback: Episode 309 on the myth of sex addiction
Stabbity thanks Ley for making the connection with nymphomania about pathologizing certain behavior
Vir comments on the pathologization of sex addiction promoting both a double standard and keeping men from taking responsibility for their sexual bad choices
24:55 Thanks
To BobBe for the kinky $69 donation. And welcome Maura to the Playmates!
25:30 Wrapup
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The HSV blues–herpes myths busted and HSV stigma eliminated
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MakeUpandSin, 23, wrote in to ask for advice when she discovered she had herpes after she and her boyfriend brought a new girl into their relationship. Feeling unsexy, she blames herself and insists possible exposure is all her fault. Host Joreth asks why is it stigmatized more than a cold; the blame and guilt are disproportionate to the actual disease and mode of transmission.
Herpes is likely not due to promiscuity, has nothing to do with sexual past. Keep in mind that most children get it from their parents touching them, so get away from the blame game. Take positive steps: educate yourself on the medical details on the strain, placement, medications; arm yourself with information rather than guilt; gather questions and talk to your doctor.
When bringing up the issue with partners, Puck suggests going in confident and informed without a sense of shame or guilt; many people don’t even realize they have it because it’s a non-event. Joreth compares to some who get a cold and it’s nothing while others get totally wiped out. And keep in mind it’s also possible to be HSV positive and have partners who aren’t and keep that status; current tests aren’t effective and some who are known positives can sometimes test negative depending on the test.
HSV1 versus HSV2 and why the distinction doesn’t matter; location-based diagnosis; skanky STI films and the dangers of doing medical research online
Final advice – remember this is just a harmless virus and not a punishment for bad behavior; it’s just part of being alive, like getting a cold every year.
21:30 Feedback
Sean asked about episode 291 Yes Means Yes and why some people don’t use safewords. The short answer is (a) they are just arrogant pricks or (b) they prefer clear and specific communication (my right foot is asleep) to a black and white safeword.
26:08 Pablo writes in to share the beauty of three.
28:45 Thanks
Thanks to Nathaniel, Emily, Blake and three-digit hero Iske for contributions this week that will go toward MomentumCon travel!
Wrap-up
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What is mainstream and what is sexually deviant? Turns out, there’s no such thing as sexual deviance
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Review of My Time with the Lady, a one-man show with Ron Richardson and comprised of the anecdotes of a janitor at Seattle’s famous peep show, the Lusty Lady
6:00 Topic: You’re not as kinky as you think
Musings over the findings of a massive internet sex survey made into a book, “A Billion Wicked Thoughts,” by Sai Gaddam. Interesting findings include:
Gay and straight men alike favor chests, butts and feet, in that order
The top 10 sex searches cover youth, gay, MILFs (go MILFs!), breasts and cheating wives.
Men fantasize a lot about group sex.
Straight men prefer amateur porn to highly-produced porn (score one for real boobs and brown hair!)
Dominance and submission are extremely common searches, not terribly deviant
Foot fetishes are common across all cultures
“There’s no such thing as sexual deviance.”
17:55 Feedback
David, 60, shares his experiences organizing and running KanPoly, a Kansas-area discussion and social poly group
19:50 Wrap-up
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The motivation behind Rabbit White’s fabulous idea, Lady Porn Day
My first porno
Cunning Minx’s essay on her very first experience with porn and origins of her bukkake fetish.
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What percentage of the population have HPV and HSV? (70%)
The value of open dialogue
The power of questions and finding a doctor who is a good fit
False positives, false negatives and why the tests aren’t 100%
Gauging your own risk vs. how big a deal something is (panic vs. the ostrich syndrome)
How dealing with STD’s improves your sex life
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Jared, Marina Joy, Peter for your donations this month!
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Is the dark secret of polyamory that sometimes it is about the sex with multiple partners?
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MomentumCon is coming up April 1-3, 2011 in Washington, D.C.
Virginia poly meetup: Saturday, November 13th 4pm-6pm, Borders in manassas, 11270 Bulooch Dr, Manassas VA 20109, look for the parrot contact Grace: doyenworking@gmail.com, Becky: rebecca.loveking@gmail.com
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Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast
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Violet Blue gave a helluva talk on sex-positive education and emerging technology at Gnomedex. I missed it, myself, but delighted to see her kick ass in front of an audience primarily of tech geeks, not sex educators:
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