Life on the Swingset podcast
How does polyamory overlap with progressive swinging? The Swingset crew chimes in!
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1:00 Interview: the Swingset crew!
The Swingset crew talks about news in progressive polyamory and how much it crosses over with polyamory! Ginger, Cooper and Dylan are back after a previous non-monogamy blowout with Poly Weekly.
- What is progressive swinging?
- Why and when and to whom to come out. It’s easy to hide.
- What is the line between swing partner, dear friend and lover or partner?
- Why do we draw these boundaries, and can’t we do more crossover events?
- Relationship fluidity and how to prevent relationship boxing
41:35 Happy Poly Moment
- F shares an HPM about going to a poly meetup with partners and everyone having a great time
- Jessica was happy to tell her partner about her exciting date!
- D tells about moving in with poly and kinky friends but not in a romantic way. Minx says that IS poly, because intimate friendships totally count!
46:00 Thank you!
Thanks to David and Ginger, and welcome Rebekka to the PW Playmates!
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Life on the Swingset podcast
What happens when the crew of the Swingset Life joins Poly Weekly? THIS!
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1:00 News and host chat
- There is a new FetLife group on living as a “single secondary” (Signup and login required) with interesting discussions such as “what would your ideal poly situation look like?
- Relax; it’s a lap dance, not a root canal. Why you should enjoy your lap dance and stop trying to save your dancer – From Sex and the 405
8:00 Swingset orgy blowout!
It’s a non-monogamy orgy as the Swingset crew joins Polyamory Weekly! Ginger, Dylan, Cooper and Shira (also cohost of Pedestrian Polyamory podcast) talk progressive swinging, modern non-monogamy and a bit about sucking cock. Be polypodcasterous!
- And they’re off! (Is Google Calendar foreplay?)
- 16:00 What is progressive swinging? And blurring the line between polyamory and swinging
- Male bisexuality and swinging today and why guys shouldn’t be afraid to be bi; how women love gay porn
- 41:50 is it getting warm at this orgy or is it just me?
- 42:15 myth: swingers are rich yuppies while polys are broke hippies. Discuss!
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to www.scarleteen.com; friend me on Twitter and answer questions about what you want on the show, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums at http://forum.polyweekly.com.
Broom Street Theater has just opened its run of Multiple O, based on The Ethical Slut, which runs through June 8th
5:30 Listener Mail
Amul comments on the poly roundtable from Conflation “you do the thing you’re scared of, and you get the courage after, not before”
9:15 Chrysallis shares his coming-out story
11:05 Steve Eley comments on the Sexy Shenanigans episode and historical non-monogamy about William Moulten
13:00 Lea, a family therapist in California, asks about the connection between engineers/geeks/role-playing gamers and poly; if you need a poly-friendly therapist in California, visit First Street Therapy
17:20 Jacob from Texas sends in Torchwood spank for the Minx!
18:40 BravoTango and bringing “metamour” to the community; why no one wants to discuss polygyny and polyandry
23:55 Feedback on #150: Five Places to Meet Poly People
- Nobilis agrees on being friendworthy before dateworthy; met his first poly family in the SCA
- Adam mentions Snuggle Parties and trance dance events as places to meet people, including LoveTribe
- Quidis adds swing parties to the list
32:35 Jacob from Texas comments on Graydancer’s reading of “Pressure” for Escape Pod and my own reading for Podcastle, “For Fear of Dragons“; this gives me a chance to pimp out both podcasts–Escape Pod for science fiction and Podcastle for fantasy; I also just did a reading for Pseudopod, the horror podcast
39:50 Jamie in Mississippi says it’s illegal to start up a poly group there!
41:50 Bubba wrote in to ask about poly seniors
44:00 Helen Fisher spoke on love and monogamy again at TED; download the video here
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Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions”
Here’s something we don’t often hear about: the dangers of going to polyamory from swinging, addressing the very real issue for swingers of falling in love with playmates and forming long-term romantic attachments.
Truly, though, this can happen to anyone. Love and relationships are very sneaky–they can come and go on schedules that don’t match ours and thumb their noses at our carefully-defined lifestyles and rules. In truth, I think what this article nails right on the head is the old broken-record motto of poly:
It all comes down to communication. It’s critical to ask your partner how they feel and to share your feelings. The absolute worst thing that you can do is to hold your feelings inside – what you really want – because you’re afraid your partner may not understand. You have to talk about what you both want from the relationship and what boundaries you’re comfortable with. And in some circumstances, you may find out that you want different things. If this is the case, you’ll have to decide if you are willing to compromise or go your separate ways.
It doesn’t matter if you’re single, coupled, monogamous, married for 30 years, swingers or poly–at some point, you’ll probably find yourself falling for someone that you didn’t intend or expect to. It’s happened to me when I was single. It’s happened to me when I was in a monogamous relationship. It’s happened to me when I was in a poly relationship. And really, the only wrong action in any of these cases was to pretend that I didn’t feel that way. In every case, I told someone important. When I was single, I told a girlfriend. When I was monogamous, I told my boyfriend (with shame, but fortunately he understood). When I was poly, I told that boyfriend the second I recognized the strong feelings.
So please, whatever your relationship structure, recognize that this will be a possibility. Acknowledge it when it happens. Then communicate and figure it out.