PW 272: The Monogamous Privilege Checklist

Did you ever wonder about all the things the poly-identified must deal with that the monogamous don’t? Cory and Kate did. And Cory made a list!

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Topic: Monogamous Privilege

Cory and Kate on the aggregated content: list of privileges that the monogamous-identified often take for granted. Roughly grouped by these themes:

  • Poly configurations are not represented in mainstream and therefore considered other
  • Monogamy is not considered a choice but poly is
  • People make assumptions regarding sexuality or abuse and anyone identifying as poly is asked to represent the entire group socially
  • Monogamy had inferred support for children and family

The East Portland blog’s post on Cory’s monogamous privilege checklist.

Feedback

Wrap-up

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PW 269: The Modern Poly Movement

Jessica Karels of Young Metro Poly

What’s up with the young modern poly movement: interview with Jessica Karels

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Introduction and host chat

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Announcements

  • Shoutout from Mako Allen of the new Big Little podcast on age play
  • Seeking pregnant poly women for cable documentary: IPA2Casting@sirensmedia.com – Call Poly Media Association before you go!
  • Casting company seeking “those who feel comfortable sharing personal and sexual details of their relationship lives—including their fears, secrets, unmet needs, and the ways in which they connect & disconnect in relationships.” Send name, age, occupation, brief bio, relationship goals, contact information to relationshipcasting2011@gmail.com (and call the Poly Media Association first!)

Interview: Jessica Karels of Modern Poly

Feedback

Raven wrote in regarding episode 266 on Charlie Sheen’s polyamory and another listener gave another insight to the reality show Sister Wives from the same episode

Wrap-up

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Top 10 reasons to go to ShibariCon 2011

shibaricon.comI love my email inbox some days! I just got an email from a kinkster considering attending his first ShibariCon. He asked me to convince him to come. Since this is one of my favorite cons that I’ve attended nearly every year since its inception, I’m happy to oblige. Wondering if it’s worth the trip? If you have any interest in kink, rope or shibari, it is!

Top 10 Reasons You Should Go to ShibariCon 2011:

  1. Chicago in May? Lovely!
  2. Bonus: trip to IML leather market, $2, for the best variety and best prices on leather gear all year.
  3. Got a costuming fetish? Dress up every day and night if you like!
  4. Midori. ‘Nuff said.
  5. Graydancer’s cabaret. Even if your whole day sucked, this will have you cheering.
  6. Rope twister!
  7. Hard points, hard points, hard points!
  8. Sadistic rope tops and hot submissive ass.
  9. Mollena’s Mojo. Every session she gives fills your brain and makes you laugh.
  10. You know you’ll regret it if you don’t!

Pimp my boobs!

Minx is very sad. Why? No holiday boobies. Make her happy by entering the Pimp My Boobs contest for 2011! Here’s how:

  1. Decorate your boobs in whatever way you think is the most festive.
  2. Take a picture.
  3. Send the pic to polyweekly@gmail.com before December 21.
  4. Listen to Poly Weekly and follow @polyweekly to hear the winner!

Poly Weekly 255: a Poly Vagabond

The vagabond life of a poly musician

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Introduction and host chat

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Announcements

Interview: Jason “Krivo” Flores, on the life of a traveling poly musician

  • Is a “poly traveling musician” redundant?
  • Getting into poly
  • More info on Vagabond Opera

Feedback

New vocabulary suggestions from Niko:

frubble – joy over your loved ones’ joy with others
grubble – sadness over your loved ones’ sadness with others
hubble – many getting physically affectionate when experiencing frubble.

Thanks to Earl, Paul and Ken Haslam for the donations!

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 254: Is marriage out of style?

Kickin’ it back, old school with Graydancer of the Ropecast

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GraydancerIntroduction and host chat

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Announcements

  • Welcome to our old-school cohost, Graydancer of the Ropecast
  • Thanks to our long-term forum administrator and moderator, Vrimj
  • Welcome to our new forum moderator, WhetStone
  • Thanks to Kotu for our new WordPress design–isn’t it pretty?
  • Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010

Is marriage out of style and other poly questions

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 253: Allena Gabosch, redux

More on being a poly pervert and sex-positive activist with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture

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Introduction and host chat
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Announcements

  • Thanks to our long-term forum administrator and moderator, Vrimj
  • Welcome to our new forum moderator, WhetStone
  • Thanks to Kotu for our new WordPress design–isn’t it pretty?
  • Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010

Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares more of her war stories of being poly, including lessons learned the hard way. Live from Paradise Unbound!

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Poly Weekly 252: Allena Gabosch

A smokin’ hot interview with Allena Gabosch, director of the Center for Sex Positive Culture

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Introduction and host chat

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Announcements

  • Reporting live from Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco!
  • Don’t miss Poly Living Seattle Oct 22-24, 2010

Interview: Allena Gabosch

The lovely and talented Allena Gabosch, director of Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture, shares the origin story of the Center in its current state and her own experiences with polyamory. Live from Paradise Unbound!

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 251: Boobs or hair?

Boobs or hairListener-generated content answering the eternal question, boobs or hair?

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Introduction and host chat
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Question of the day: boobs or hair?
Lighthearted topic this week, with listener responses posted on Facebook. Thanks to everyone who commented and contributed!

Listener Feedback

  • John from the Midwest, a therapist, recommended Poly Weekly to another therapist who came across a poly quad seeking help! Thanks for pimping the show!
  • Penny/The_Leaky_Pen calls in with praise and scratches
  • Grace calls in with a deliciously Happy Poly Moment
  • Sara writes in on being mono but leading poly discussion groups
  • Broddhisatva and BMBen write in to continue the discussion on poly and atheism from episode 228

Wrap-up
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Poly Weekly 250: Poly Parenting Q & A

Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan
Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan (of Family the web series) answer YOUR questions about parenting in a poly situation

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Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to http://www.scarleteen.com; friend us on Twitter or Facebook, call 206-202-POLY with comments or discuss your own topics at the forums.

Interview: Poly parenting
Matt Bullen and Terisa Greenan share their experiences on being poly with children and thoughts on explaining poly to kids.

Do the kids know? Do you worry about the kids telling others?

  • They came out to the child’s teacher, who was supportive
  • They proactively asked the teacher if the child seemed damaged or seemed to suffer any ill effects because of the poly situation
  • They explain to the child that not everyone agrees with and lives in the same lifestyle, and that some people think it’s bad
  • They explained that he doesn’t have to live that way when he grows up; he can do whatever he wants

How does a poly woman choose the genetic donor for her baby if she has multiple partners? Does she give everyone a chance and let the best sperm win?

  • For Terisa, one long-term partner had an interest in having children, and the other didn’t
  • Matt points out that the current configuration was only possible through the graciousness of the participating partners and with the consent of Matt and Vera’s son

How do you answer questions and when do you come out to kids?

  • Don’t keep secrets from your kids. Anything more than a one-night stand needs to be explained openly.
  • Matt’s advice: relax. Some people will criticize you, some won’t speak to you, and at some point your kid will walk in on something inappropriate, just as with monogamy. Relax!
  • If you are comfortable with your poly, then your kid will be. Kids pick up on your hesitancy and fear.

Is there an age for kids that’s easiest to move a new partner in or an age that’s more difficult for kids to handle the change?
It’s case by case and situation-specific. Communication, negotiation, honesty. Your kids learn how to react to things from you.

If you haven’t already, check out their awesome production, Family the Web Series.

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