PW 452: Poly on a budget

walletPolyamory can be expensive! Koe and Minx share some budgeting tips

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1:00 Host Chat

2:50 Topic: Poly on a budget

Koe Creation and Minx give tips on being poly with a limited income, including:

  • How to talk about money and what to ask
  • Buying stuff
  • Transportation cost savers
  • Under $20 dates
  • 100% free dates (excluding transportation)

16:20 Feedback

  • How can you tell when you’re polysaturated?
  • Michael writes in to share the difficulty of a poly death

29:45 Feedback

40:30 Wrap Up

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PW 451: Being party to a lie

Is it OK to be party to someone else’s lie?31627422_s

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1:00 Host Chat

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4:10 Poly in the News

10:20 Topic: Should I be party to a lie?

A listener writes in to ask if it’s OK to help a partner keep past infidelity a secret. How does one decide when to be party to a lie?

16:20 Feedback

  • How can you tell when you’re polysaturated?
  • Michael writes in to share the difficulty of a poly death

31:00 Wrap Up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 450: My metamour is a $&!@? to me

What to do when your metamour seems rude to youRude snub metamour

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1:00 Host Chat

1:20 Poly in the News

8:15 Topic: Help! My metamour is a bitch to me!

Listener A writes in to ask what to do: her metamour avoids eye contact and seeks out their mutual partner alone. How does A tell her partner that he chose the wrong gal to date?

LustyGuy and Minx both think this might be a misunderstanding and have more to do with social awkwardness than sabotage.

  • Don’t make assumptions about her behavior—she might just be intimidated or introverted
  • Take it upon yourself to open lines of communication and extend the welcome
  • You can only control what YOU do, not what anyone else does
  • You’re the expert on you

16:00 Feedback on episode 446

  • NOLady wrote in to take Minx to task on episode 446, in which we referenced the Ashley Madison hack, both with the numbers presented and with the original tone of the report
  • H wrote in to recommend mentioning Dan Savage’s take on the Ashley Madison hack, which we already did in episode 446
  • Mint wrote in about being demisexual and asked for more representation for those on the asexual spectrum

26:00 Happy Poly Moment

Jason wrote in to share a happy poly moment about finally being able to date his species!

28:30 Wrap Up

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PW 449: Teaching consent at any age

Teaching consent to kidsWhen and how to teach consent to children

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1:00 Host Chat

2:15 Poly in the News

Alyssa Royse7:15 Topic: When and how to teach consent to kids

Alyssa Royse joins us to share when and how to teach consent to kids of any age; babies, toddlers, school age, teens and college age.

31:15 Thanks

Thanks to Nancy for the donation!

32:15 Wrap Up

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PW 448: What to do when you see gaslighting

gaslighting with quotesWhat do you do when you see a friend being gaslit?

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1:00 Announcements

7:45 Topic: What to do when you see gaslighting

A listener called in to ask a tricky question: what do we do when we see a friend or community member being gaslit? I put the question to the panel of Eve Rickert, Tamara Pincus and William Winters III on emotional abuse, and this was their advice:

  • Listen and validate
  • Offer support
  • Tell the friend that their partner might tell them not to speak to you anymore, which is a sign of abuse

Every community leader should read 10 Things I Wish I’d Known About Gaslighting and be aware of the phenomenon.

14:55 Feedback

  • Karen wrote in with feedback on episode 418 on emotional abuse, arguing that supporting the survivor can be tricky. Minx agrees but argues that it does no harm to support both the survivor and the perpetrator and do restorative justice for both.
  • T writes in to thank us for the education. It was helpful to him to self-identify as poly, even though he has decided to stay in his loving monogamous relationship with his wife—by choice.

23:45 Wrap Up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

PW 447: Poly people of color

poly people of color imageWhat is the experience of poly people of color, and how can we encourage diversity and inclusion?

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1:00 Announcements

  • Minx will be in New York September 24-27—any suggestions for things to do?
  •  CatalystCon West report will be in next week’s show

1:45 Topic: Poly people of color

The poly community is generally portrayed as white and middle class. But that’s not entirely accurate. Our panel answers the questions that Minx awkwardly poses:

  • What is your experience in the poly community?
  • Can you speak to the experience of being a person of color in a poly community?
  • What can we do to be more inclusive and welcoming of people of color?

34:45 Feedback

  • Poly Friend writes in to argue that with poly, a limited number of kreplits are distributed among a growing number of partners. Minx argues that love isn’t a zero sum game, or people with more than one kid would be exceedingly cruel.
  • Lee writes in to argue that for the listener asking for advice on episode 444 when to stop lying about when to stop lying, Minx should have told her just to dump the guy who insists she lie to her friends. I disagree: I see my job as enabling my very smart listeners to make their own decisions, so my style is to give you questions you can ask yourself that will help you to decide what will be best for you.
  • Squirrel writes in about herpes, so we do an HSV review. Past episodes covering HSV are here, here and here.

46:30 Wrap Up

Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email? 🙂 Check out PolyWeekly at Blubrry.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

How to share your sex life on the page and the stage

From CatalystCon West: Anain Bjorkquist, Dixie De La Tour, Gaby Dunn, Rachel Kramer Bussel talk about what it’s like to blog, vlog, storytell and podcast about your sex life to help others #cconpage

How to recognize and respond to emotional abuse

Cunning Minx, Eve Rickert, Tamara Pincus, MSW, LICSW, William Winters discuss the issue of emotional abuse in alternative communities and how we can create awareness and maintain community for both survivors of and perpetrators of abuse at CatalystCon West #cconabuse

CCon session handout

Poly families: poly parents and kids sound off

Wondering if polyamory is good for families? A poly mom, son, father and daughter share their experiences #cconpoly

The shame virus: how we can avoid it

Marcia Baczyski’s and Mary Jo Goddard’s session on sex positive educators avoiding shaming at CatalystCon West, 2015

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