Thoughts on marriage as a conscious relationship and lifestyle choice rather than the default or the result of peer pressure
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Alyssa writes in to say “Sometimes the radical, panties-in-a-bunch, queers need to chill the fuck out, and what better way to chill out than to realize that something you revolve your life around isn’t a big deal to EVERYONE!”
Vir writes in to say that I’ve queered my relationship and my sex life (through kink/fetishes)
24:10 Thanks
Thanks to Meg for the donation this week!
Wrapup
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Dr. Tammy Nelson shares how the world of online dating, social media and texting has changed marriage and monogamy
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Dr. Tammy Nelson, therapist and author of a soon-to-be-released book on The New Monogamy, answers questions on the new state of monogamy:
Has marriage gone out of fashion?
How has online dating affected marriage?
Do those who identify as monogamous need to expect infidelity?
Are Facebook and texting to blame for affairs?
Are affairs actually good for a marriage?
What is the new monogamy?
31:40 Feedback
Jess writes in to thank PW for helping her poly family through the introduction of HPV and the tools to help the group be level-headed and talk openly and honestly.
Wrapup
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Franklin Veaux and Minx discuss listener feedback, advice and anecdotes around creating rules and boundaries to apply to polyamorous relatiomships
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Franklin Veaux and Minx respond to listener feedback about the rules episode.
Sean wrote in with the rules his partner imposed on him after an incident
J wrote in to clarify the difference between rules that promote discussion versus rules that are designed to bind behavior
Isaac asked about D/s rules
Jonathan asked for rules when he began dating and got these: “We will trust you if you are trustworthy. We will believe you if you are honest. We will listen if you speak openly. We will communicate if you listen. You’ll have to write any other rules you need yourself because when all is said and done you are the only one that is going to limit your actions. Oh by the way we’ll have a surprise ready here; bring your date home if you want.”
Vir shared a quote on boundaries
36:00 Wrapup
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Dr. Charlie Glickman on using “queer” as a verb rather than an adjective or noun; the origins of Good Vibrations
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Dr. Glickman teaches how to teach sexuality topics to adults and runs the workshops and outreach at Good Vibrations as well as the social media and web presence; he’s speaking on “Queer as a Verb” and approaching “queering” as a practice as opposed to who you have sex with. What do the mainstream-identified need to know about the queer identity in order to understand, tolerate and help; how to play with the edges; how Good Vibes came about (when women started buying toys and wouldn’t tolerate shoddy craftsmanship!).
17:45 Thanks
Thanks to Joseph for the one-time donation and welcome Clinton to the Poly Weekly Playmates!
Wrap up
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Freshly returned from MomentumCon, a recap of the sessions on feminism, sexuality and sex-positivism today. Plus, using “what would monogamists do?” as a guiding question.
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A listener writes in to ask how to act around her partner’s OSO (metamour) and challenges the What Would Monogamists Do guiding question. How much flirting is OK around your SO and OSO, and how should you act towards your metamour in social situations?
29:30 Happy Poly Moment
Summersnake shares a moment of compersion when sending his wife off to spend time with her sweetie
Don writes in to share compersion and joy at his partner’s meeting the metamours
33:25 Feedback
Taylor on controlled male orgasms through controlling the flow of chi
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An interview with Lee Harrington, spiritual and erotic educator and author, on where rituals and labels come from and what we need to know about their meaning
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OpenSF is June 6-8 at Holiday Inn Golden Gateway in San Francisco
NW PolyCamp is August 24-27, Millersylvania State Park in Washington
8:15 Interview: Lee Harrington on rituals and labels
Lee Harrington is a spiritual and erotic educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and published author and editor on human sexuality and spiritual experience. He is a nice guy with a disarmingly down to earth approach to the fact that we are each beautifully complex ecosystems, and we deserve to examine the human experience from that lens.
Harrington on the importance of recognizing that the label we use is rooted in our own experience and might not carry the same meaning for others in the community. Also, what is a ritual, what meaning does it carry and why are rituals important (or not)?
A quick story on LustyGuy’s and Minx’s KinkFest experience.
Wrap up
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It is always my divine pleasure to present on just about any topic at MomentumCon, one of my favorite sex-positive events. It’s always chock-full of luminaries and sexy thought leaders with forward-looking ideas and insights. Great stuff!
My talk this year was a little more down and dirty. Based on the research you guys helped me conduct, I created a deck of guidelines based on the biggest complaints users made regarding sex-positive community sites such as FetLife. Without further ado, here it is: How Not to Be a Douche on FetLife.
An interview with Barbara Carrellas, author of Ecstasy is Necessary, on making tantric sex available to everyone on an everyday basis
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Barbara Carrellas is a certified sexologist, sex educator, sex/life coach, and sensual
revolutionary. She is the author of a new book on tantra for the everyday user, Ecstasy is Necessary She answers Minx’s and LustyGuy’s questions, such as:
Why another book on tantra? How is this book more accessible and less woo-woo?
Isn’t tantra just breathing together for two hours and not coming?
What is “thinking off” and can you really breathe your way to an orgasm?
How can tantra be achieved with our distracted monkey minds?
16:00 LustyGuy switchover!
What about the science and medical information in the book, which is remarkably detailed and accurate?
Why is it important that there isn’t one true path to ecstasy?
Was it intentional that the book is directed at everyone, not just the kink and woo-woo communities?
Angergasms, screamgasms and feargasms
24:35 Thanks
Thanks and welcome to new PW Playmates James and Haddayr as well as to Tara for the generous donations!
26:30 Wrap up
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The power of introverts; female orgasms from exercise at the gym
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And speaking at MomentumCon in D.C. March 29-April 1
10:00 Topic: The Power of Introverts
Susan Cain’s TED talk on the power of introverts and how to maximize individual creative thinking. The loudest person isn’t always the wisest, but work environments cater to extroverts.
20:45 Feedback: Episode 309 on the myth of sex addiction
Stabbity thanks Ley for making the connection with nymphomania about pathologizing certain behavior
Vir comments on the pathologization of sex addiction promoting both a double standard and keeping men from taking responsibility for their sexual bad choices
24:55 Thanks
To BobBe for the kinky $69 donation. And welcome Maura to the Playmates!
25:30 Wrapup
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Franklin and Minx tackle the rule dilemma: do rules work in poly relationships?
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And speaking at MomentumCon in D.C. March 29-April 1
7:00 Topic: Rules? We don’t need no stinkin’ rules!
Guest cohost Franklin Veaux has written extensively on why rules don’t work in poly relationships. And I agree; rules tend to be a substitute for actual communication and a fairly powerless shield against insecurity. Why most poly rules don’t work and advice on what to do instead of creating hard and fast rules.
38:10 Thanks
To Charlie for the $69 donation. We love that amount!
Wrap up
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Thoughts on marriage as a conscious relationship and lifestyle choice rather than the default or the result of peer pressure
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