The new Polyamory Weekly #105: Mistress Matisse Talks Poly is up! Direct download is here.

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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Intro, under-18 warning and re-direction to

Thanks to contributors Mark and Chris

2:00 Sponsor: Heartland Polyamory Conference in French Lick, IN, is just $60 per adult including meals!

3:45 Listener Mail
Darkmane did the math on the density of poly people on the earth–seriously!; good news is that the average distance between polys is 226.09 km; SalaciousGeek calls in about labels such as “friends with benefits”; Colin suggests “beau”; 6:30 ShyJamie comments on BDSM and poly and on people not speaking when he wears his collar

10:00 Interview: Mistress Matisse Talks Poly
Mistress Matisse shares her poly history about being a kid dreaming about being married to multiple men and women and 10 years of not doing poly well; being honest with yourself; 15:00 struggling to accept poly within herself; what “primary” and “secondary” mean to her; labels are “the beginning of a conversation, not the end of one”; 23:30 fantasy vs. reality poly; the poly holy grail and the HBB (hot bi babe); knowing what you want and what you have to offer; 28:00 how she met Twisted Monk when she wasn’t looking for a substantial partner; just looking for someone you enjoy being with

33:45 Wrap-Up
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  1. Excellent Podcast! Thanks so much. I just posted about it at !

  2. I question where the number of poly people came from for calculating the average distance between poly people. I’d have estimated the average distance to have been a lot less.

    In my experience, we also tend to appear in clusters – so it would be more useful (but more difficult) to work out the median distance.

    Great episode though.

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  4. How about amante as a term for a partner or love(r)? My spanish teacher suggested it, because it’s more adult than novio/novia (boyfriend/girlfriend) or enamorado/enamorada, and it’s completely gender neutral.

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